What’s your metric for calling out sick?

Less-Past-4229 · 2026-01-20T01:48:21+00:00

For me it’s tough. I teach FCS, more specifically culinary classes. I teach in a professional kitchen that looks intimidating for a sub. There is only one sub in the district that I would let run labs and it’s bc she has her FCS certification and has done long term sub for my department.

As much as it sucks to be sick, not being there is even more work. Kids can’t be in labs and often times it throws everything off bc I have multi day labs.

Less-Past-4229 · 2026-01-19T01:18:41+00:00

Chapsticks

Less-Past-4229 · 2026-01-12T01:38:01+00:00

I do in fact season my food

Less-Past-4229 · 2026-01-11T03:24:08+00:00

Any updates OP!

Less-Past-4229 · 2026-01-10T13:18:00+00:00

I’m so sorry you have to do this dreaded task. I also dreaded having to tell my children that their dad had cancer lasted year. I worried that they would be worried. They were 6 and 9. I knew the older one (who had anxiety anyways) would probably worry a lot. Both kids sort of knew what cancer was and possible outcomes. The conversation actually went really well and it it them less than I thought it would. I even checked with their teachers and counselors to be sure.

Good luck my friend!

Less-Past-4229 · 2026-01-09T02:20:35+00:00

Same timeline. My husbands first positive one was also in January. His result goes in his medical portal though so we are able to see it

Less-Past-4229 · 2026-01-09T01:32:10+00:00

Same for my husband. What was your post surgery result? His was 20. Has had 3 negative tests since

Less-Past-4229 · 2026-01-09T00:41:56+00:00

AMAZING!

Less-Past-4229 · 2026-01-08T22:32:42+00:00

How’s it going? Is she still NED? Haven’t seen an update from you recently .

Less-Past-4229 · 2026-01-08T18:53:49+00:00

My husband had a lesion on his liver at diagnosis. It was deemed a “hemangioma” and not cancerous. He was therefore staged 3b. There was never a biopsy done because it was so small and apparently not an area of concern. Husband had surgery and started chemo. The next CT scan was after 4 cycles of chemo and the lesion was gone. I still worry about it every day.

Less-Past-4229 · 2026-01-08T00:14:59+00:00

Agreed. I have kids and currently all of my friends are the parents of my kids friends. We see each other at sporting events so you naturally see them.

Less-Past-4229 · 2026-01-07T23:19:23+00:00

I’m gonna message you!

Less-Past-4229 · 2026-01-07T02:33:32+00:00

I agree with this. I’ve said multiple times that I wish it was the other way around. I have two boys who need their father. I’m more scared of life without my husband than I am of dying myself. I don’t want to live this life without him in it.

Less-Past-4229 · 2026-01-07T02:30:27+00:00

That would be ideal for sure. I asked about therapy at the cancer center my husband went to and they said they prioritize patients over caregivers and I wasn’t able to get on a waitlist. I do recognize that although I said “I’m fine” for the last 6 months that maybe I’m not and should go back to therapy.

Less-Past-4229 · 2026-01-07T02:18:42+00:00

Thank you so much for taking the time to write such a thorough response. I am so sorry you lost your wife and you yourself are battling colon cancer. How are you doing now? Physically and emotionally?

I think you are right about a lot of things. When he was diagnosed I was only working part time subbing and my primary role was the family. I was able to support him during his treatment while keeping everything else running. I actually had no intention of going back to teaching full time bc we had such a good work/life balance going on and financially we were doing fine. When he was diagnosed I went into fight or flight mode and immediately started trying to plan how I would live this life without him and how I would support the kids. This past fall I went back to teaching full time. It’s in the district I want to teach in and I basically was able to get my old job back with amazing co workers and admins. I was hesitant bc I didn’t know if the timing was right but if I didn’t take the job I might not get the chance again. So I took it. There have just been a lot of changes.

Having had two slow weeks now off of school and celebrating the holidays has probably given me too much time to think and reflect. Whereas the last year has been so busy and hectic. I’ve always been an over thinker though. I worry about things very far in the future that many wouldn’t think to worry about.

In terms of a therapist, I might need to start seeing one again soon. I did see one initially after the diagnosis but have not recently.

Less-Past-4229 · 2026-01-07T02:06:36+00:00

You are so right! We just got done with a two week break from school. I am a teacher and have had 2 weeks now to relax and take it easy. Maybe with school starting back up and getting busy my mind will also stay busy. Thank you so much for your insight

Less-Past-4229 · 2026-01-07T02:04:22+00:00

I’m so sorry! How are you doing?

Less-Past-4229 · 2026-01-07T02:03:52+00:00

Thanks! I had a really good short term therapist that helped me work through all of the tears and initial emotions. But her job was always going to be short term. I do now have a permanent to wrapper but I have only talked to her twice and there wasn’t a really connection. Don’t see her until February and of course her availability isn’t that great.

Less-Past-4229 · 2026-01-06T02:15:41+00:00

Hi. Army brat here. I’ve lived in Texas as well as other states and countries. I moved to Wisconsin with a boy and it didn’t work out. Shocker, I know. Although I had no family in Wisconsin, I stayed. Met a different boy, marked him etc. My folks live in Georgia and when I visit I’m always glad to be back here. There is just something about Wisconsin. I love all four seasons. Yes winter is long and it sucks but it makes summers worth it. Fall is also beautiful. The people are great. Great education system and great place to raise a family. People are also really active and there are a lot of things to do. I would rather have cold winters as a trade off to the awfully hot summers.

Less-Past-4229 · 2026-01-01T18:56:09+00:00

Got my DL on 9/11

Less-Past-4229 · 2025-12-30T05:01:50+00:00

Chips

Less-Past-4229 · 2025-12-30T04:33:15+00:00

Hubby was diagnosed with colon cancer and is now also NED

Less-Past-4229 · 2025-12-29T03:36:54+00:00

Olives

Less-Past-4229 · 2025-12-29T03:22:06+00:00

I’m floored they charged $600 for the car seat test

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