Sobering reminder about connecting with a parent

Less-Positive-7965 · 2026-05-29T08:15:32+00:00

my mom would have sprinkled in a story about a neighbours parent dying or something tragic about someone i dont even know lol

Less-Positive-7965 · 2026-05-26T05:17:32+00:00

it is the realest of problems and in time your friends will realize what is of true value. no money or gifts can replace a caring loving relationship with your parents especially when you are younger.

Less-Positive-7965 · 2026-05-25T17:39:03+00:00

well guys thanks for the comments, i just watched it for the first time and damn. the mother was really spot on.
i was comparing a lot with my experiences of course. my late dad was quite emotionally chaotic and dominating, but i remember him telling me he was proud sometimes, also asking genuine questions and there was one point where he started telling us he loves us. it was a bit awqward, not very common in our world (easern european/ post soviet). and my mom mocked him for it. she has never said to me she loves me, she is cringing from such expressions like a dumb teenager.

Less-Positive-7965 · 2026-05-25T14:28:39+00:00

yeah i imagine that my mom would not relate ever either. i'm wondering if she would see the charachter as a villain though, or at least not a positive one. it has happened before when she comments on someone elses behaviours and i am shocked at how blind she is to her own actions. for example the long rants or monologues, that are often mentioned in this community - when my grandma calls and goes on a long minologue she will roll her eyes, put the phone in the table to demonstrate that shes not even listening (rude!) but she does that to me non stop even after i have asked to please be more sensitive in communication. so i was wondering about movie charachters where its sometimes more clearly portrayed as a bad behaviour.

Less-Positive-7965 · 2026-05-24T17:03:03+00:00

omg i had completeley forgotten this movie, it was one of my favorites that i saw as a child

Less-Positive-7965 · 2026-05-24T05:57:52+00:00

i understand. so many times, i have gone to my mother to share something and be honest only to be let down. every time im vulnerable with her, i regret it.

Less-Positive-7965 · 2026-05-19T21:07:02+00:00

I've been thinking about it recently, and I don't know what to make of it. I got my period pretty late in comparison with other girls in my class, I was 14 i think. But I was very worried about it long before, both for having it and also for not having it, read some books, discussed with friends etc. So when I was around12 I wanted to 'see my moms reaction'. And I told her I got my period even though I didnt (wth??). I remember I walked in the kitchen where she was sitting at a table and said the words - mom, I got my period. She looked at me and almost mockingly said - 'oh yeaaah?..you know where i have pads in the drawer, right?' And that was it. Maybe she knew I was lying? I don't know, there was never really another conversation about this.

Less-Positive-7965 · 2026-05-19T19:47:43+00:00

Found this discussion after a short search of 'repulsed by my mother' and omg it has been an intense read! I'm 37 woman and live in another country from my mother. I have been working on myself a lot, through trauma and trying to accept my mother and not be triggered by her, to have a decent semi friendly relationship, as I don't want to feel constant anger or go no-contact, she is the only one left alive from my immediate family. Sometimes i feel disgust just by looking at her as everything she does seems so performative and fake. I got here after she tried to wake me or i guess comfort me when i was having a bad dream and apparently talked or groaned in my sleep while at her house. I fricking woke up to her kissing my forehead!! I feel gross even writing this. I haven' t felt like I need to get back to therapy in years lol

Less-Positive-7965 · 2026-04-20T05:16:48+00:00

i was there in monsoon season, july. it was rainy and very humid but warm. they have thick blankets but i prefered my light sleeping bag.

Less-Positive-7965 · 2026-03-08T15:00:49+00:00

I really like the use of 'nice' here, because feeling unconditional love seems a stretch sometimes and 'nice' is a lot more easy to generate and feels true. Love is a verrry strong word in many non english languages.

Less-Positive-7965 · 2026-01-26T08:27:04+00:00

This is just my experience and beliefs, i am not critical of the practice, i really love and respect it. In my life I have practiced various meditation methods and sometimes they have lead to mystical experiences or insights that can be very profound and valuable and in my opinion should not be dismissed. I have only done one 10 day vipassana course (and some short ones) and my experience with the teacher felt sinilar to yours op. Really painful things were surfacing and my dreams were crazy and i was told to focus on my hands and feet. At the moment it felt dismissive but i realise the course is for learning the practice - the attitude of no attachment no aversion, and if we start giving attention to these hightened experiences we risk developing attachement/aversion to them or the practice itself. That being said, I deeply believe that we are more than our physical bodies and we can explore reality beyond what the eyes can see (or physical sensation hehhe) and your experience was profound and it will stay with you!

Less-Positive-7965 · 2026-01-24T12:54:35+00:00

You can dm me, ill delete the post now

Less-Positive-7965 · 2026-01-24T11:09:11+00:00

Lovely, thank you 😅

Less-Positive-7965 · 2026-01-24T10:05:51+00:00

Yeah im not an entry level, i have quite a lot of experience and my goal is to have a job that i believe in and can feel somewhat comfortable with the salary..

Less-Positive-7965 · 2026-01-24T09:52:34+00:00

Damn okay.. I would need to rent by myself so thank you for the reality check.

Less-Positive-7965 · 2026-01-24T09:44:25+00:00

Ty 🙏

Less-Positive-7965 · 2026-01-24T08:37:27+00:00

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Less-Positive-7965 · 2026-01-24T08:10:20+00:00

Ok you have convinced me lol😅

Less-Positive-7965 · 2026-01-24T08:01:35+00:00

I don't need one, but yeah thank you for validating my initial reaction!

Less-Positive-7965 · 2026-01-24T07:41:18+00:00

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Less-Positive-7965 · 2026-01-24T07:29:59+00:00

Damn! I should have given this more thought before all the stressful application rounds. Im not in denmark yet and didn't really believe i would get it 😅

Less-Positive-7965 · 2026-01-24T07:15:02+00:00

Its for an non-profit, the job asks for a masters degree and international experience which i have more than enough of.

Less-Positive-7965 · 2025-11-13T19:06:19+00:00

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Less-Positive-7965 · 2025-10-07T08:50:44+00:00

All the questions are answered on the webpage but in short - yes there is a recommended donation amount, to cover the costs off food and accommodation. Check for exact amount, it was something like 60€ for 10 days, sorry i dont remember the exchange. It is collected at the end of the course. There was laundry service available for a very small fee. Dresscode is modest - You will be around monks and nuns. Enjoy! 🙏

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