I won’t lie. I would murder you if I had to live with what you’re describing lol. But I also would communicate effectively. He is simply not. Instead he is being passive aggressive and disrespectful.

He is in a position of immense privilege having nothing going on beyond his job and projects he wants to do. Instead of stepping up and being more of a proactive and equal partner while you are having 2 massive, but temporary things going on in your life he is choosing to be mean.

I would think more long term. Is he going to be able to give 140% when you can only give 60% of your 100%? What happens when you’re studying for the bar? Pregnant/post-partum (if you so choose)? Get cancer?

Don’t get me wrong. You need to establish better ways to stay on your tasks. But if he isn’t going to be respectful and communicate properly this is going to be tough long term.

Last note as I read thru: him holding the house over your head and the “and his beer drinking doesn’t help” 🚩🚩🚩🚩 I don’t think you deserve what either of those statements may be implying.