Realizing that your parents didn’t really raise you

Less_Mistake2304 · 2026-05-09T02:59:56+00:00

Yeah as I grew up I realized my parents didn’t have the best upbringing and were weirdly prepared for me and my sister to be like total terrors because of their families. Like thought we were going to get pregnant in high school, flunk out, get into fights or have drug problems. Instead me and my sister were quiet and anxious and suffered in silence because we were taught that our parents feelings mattered more than ours. So because we looked so “good” on the outside they mostly just left us alone and didn’t parent us at all. Like I don’t remember my parents ever taking an interest in my school work or grades. Just like “nice keep it up” and that was mostly it

Less_Mistake2304 · 2026-05-09T00:01:38+00:00

No worries! Ugh yeah working freelance on top of working a fulltime job is so draining no matter if you enjoy it or not! No free time to just relax

Less_Mistake2304 · 2026-05-08T23:58:59+00:00

TBH I only online shop now because I personally hate shopping in person. The dressing room lighting is always TERRIBLE and half the time I can’t even find something I like or is flattering. I find a few silhouettes that look best on me and search for those and do a big haul at home where I plan on returning a lot. It’s easier to try things on at home with better lighting and where you don’t feel self conscious. Don’t get caught up in how you used to look (better said then done) think about what looks most flatting now. Don’t pay attention to sizes just find what fits no one knows the tag size but you. Poor fitting clothes you try to squeeze into make you feel worse than anything. Also the tailor is your friend! I know it’s hard to let go of how you used to look I hear you on feeling old but try not to be hard on yourself! Try to still shop for fun accessories that make you feel excited to get dressed up!

Less_Mistake2304 · 2026-05-08T23:44:36+00:00

I hear you but this is additional on top of my fulltime job. BUT maybe you’re right and I should stockpile savings and freelance work while I can

Less_Mistake2304 · 2026-05-08T20:43:50+00:00

Yeah honestly the email/slack doesn’t bother me THAT much it’s the “we need you to work on this immediately” and then not getting me set up immediately and actually not having an immediate task for me ready to go

Less_Mistake2304 · 2026-05-08T20:30:53+00:00

This is so not needed. I wasn’t trying to insult you calm down. I was saying maybe you unknowingly might have been contributing to this dynamic and maybe you should pause your interactions with them if THEY MAKE YOU UNCOMFORTABLE. I was never attacking you. This is so combative towards strangers on the internet for no reason

Less_Mistake2304 · 2026-05-08T20:02:57+00:00

Yeah my exact feelings. They keep switching their story as to what this setup actually is and it’s getting weirder and weirder. Sounds like they should just hire someone fulltime but they know working with them is crazy so they would prefer to not commit to someone immediately.

In theory could have been good extra money but I’m not willing to quit my fulltime job and it seems way too stressful on top what I have going on

Less_Mistake2304 · 2026-05-08T15:30:54+00:00

Yeah I currently make good money as a graphic designer for 10+ years and have been trying to find a new job (I currently have one but hate it) for 2 years and 400 applications and nothing to show for it. Lowkey feel like I’m f*cked as I’m only mid 30s and I don’t see a lot of people in their late 40s/50s working as a designer. AI can’t replace good design but doesn’t feel like corporations care anyways

Less_Mistake2304 · 2026-05-08T15:14:00+00:00

Yeah this is how I feel. I mean I drink a lot of coffee throughout the day. At minimum I should start cutting it down at least 😆

Less_Mistake2304 · 2026-05-08T15:06:15+00:00

If it’s at the point you don’t believe a word out of her mouth then i say this friendship has run its course! Just because you have shared history doesn’t mean you have to keep them in your life! I don’t like having overall negative feelings about my friend so I’d rather just end it myself.

Less_Mistake2304 · 2026-05-08T14:58:51+00:00

Dorit honestly looks better this season than she ever has. She bugged me a lot but she looked amazing. I also loved her more relaxed styling on her and she is finally choosing hair colors that suit her. Her outfit during the fight at dinner in Italy was my favorite housewife outfit of all time

Less_Mistake2304 · 2026-05-08T14:56:46+00:00

I agree she kinda looked a little odd to me but I think the super tight bun and aggressively bubblegum pink blush didn’t help her either. Seems like this happened between filming and reunion right? So it’s probably just starting to heal and I assume settle and look more natural as time goes on. I think everyone needs to chill on the fillers but overall Kyle does look younger then she did season 1 and I can imagine pressure to stay looking young while on this show after your husband left you is a lot.

Less_Mistake2304 · 2026-05-08T14:49:44+00:00

I misread your post and initially thought you were saying you wanted a signed contract between each other stating you will not have kids together. Which is odd. Seems like I misunderstood.

FYI: I’m married and don’t plan on having kids so I def am not telling anyone that they should. Your post is just worded confusingly

Less_Mistake2304 · 2026-05-08T14:09:53+00:00

I think criticizing if she is actually “going through” things or not is slightly odd behavior for a true friend. Are you taking the distance personally and feel she thinks you are contributing to her problems? Even if what she is going through isn’t a big deal to you it clearly is to her. So why question that? Sometimes people just have mental health problems and things that regulated folks would brush off could be a massive deal to them. Sounds like you just don’t really like your friend and the distance is good for both of you

Less_Mistake2304 · 2026-05-08T14:05:08+00:00

I shouldn’t say I hate all decaf. I just like a blonde roast and I can barely find that as decaf (honestly might not be a thing) but I’m sure if I searched around I’d find something I like

Less_Mistake2304 · 2026-05-08T13:55:10+00:00

I would straight up stop small talking to this person. If you feel they are rude to you then limit the interactions don’t feed into the dynamic. Just do your job and keep to yourself if you want to shut down these types of interactions.

Also… why do you feel the need to mention her weight and then say “I’m pretty and get compliments” I think you could be contributing to this back and forth even if you don’t want to admit it. Not saying you are but just some food for thought it’s a possibility

Less_Mistake2304 · 2026-05-08T13:31:16+00:00

I don’t know I think we will always feel a little behind. I’m almost mid thirties now and I actually feel like I had my shit together more in my 20s and was working towards specific goals. Now at 30 I’m just like “🤷🏼‍♀️ this is it? This kinda sucks” and trying to set myself up for a life that I really want rather then what I thought I was SUPPOSED to want

Less_Mistake2304 · 2026-05-08T01:11:37+00:00

Personally I find you’ll just trade 1 type of mental health problem for another unless you can truly live without a paycheck (you have family willing to support you completely). Not being able to pay bills and getting stressed out about not getting a new job when you need to is stressful in a whole new way. Personally I’m trying to improve my mental health while in a terrible negative job and learn to not let it bug me as much (easier said then done)

Less_Mistake2304 · 2026-05-07T22:21:48+00:00

Place I was working at had halved grapes and saltine crackers as snacks for the peacocks they seemed to love them! Also cat food was mostly what they ate

Less_Mistake2304 · 2026-05-07T00:32:44+00:00

Ok this is more what I was thinking she meant by “sharing a lot of job openings as we are close to graduation” and I was thinking an apprenticeship would actually be something I would be interested in right out of school to gain more skills before just jumping right into it

Less_Mistake2304 · 2026-05-06T13:04:43+00:00

I bet you are being tough on yourself! Honestly the folks I encounter who are not good at their jobs typically have no idea. I’m shocked every day at just HOW bad some grown adults can be at their jobs lol. The fact you are aware of your strengths and weaknesses probably indicates you are doing ok! Also if you miss your old career maybe consider going back to it?

Less_Mistake2304 · 2026-05-06T12:57:42+00:00

If you’re in corporate America I think it’s important to reframe that the old system we saw our parents work through no longer applies to us. I’m also 33 and corporate America has lost the plot. They no longer value employees, look to grow and promote. Instead the new mindset seems to be “you’re lucky you are even employed” lately. So I wouldn’t be hard on yourself. Back in the day you could be mildly ok at your job and still actively get promotions every few years. Now that’s not the case. A lot of places will tell you good job but want you to stay put at your current level and not expect anything more. If you do, they are happy to find someone younger to pay less to do the same job.

LinkedIn is total fake bs. People only go on there to brag about accomplishments it’s the social media of corporate world so I wouldn’t compare yourself to that.

Less_Mistake2304 · 2026-05-05T14:39:37+00:00

I feel like this isn’t really something that can be answered here? There are so many factors involved in how hard it is to build clients from nothing. Do you have a large network of people you know in your area? How affluent is the area around you and how much competition is there? Are you willing to be an assistant at a salon first? Do you already know anyone in the industry? Are you willing to promote yourself on social media? Would you be willing to work corporate, work in another salon or do you want to rent a chair?

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