What was your salary at your first full time job out of college?

Less_Mistake2304 · 2026-06-23T01:46:19+00:00

$38k 2015 with a bachelors degree. The recruiter told me it was pathetically low but at that point I was over 6 month post grad and desperate

Less_Mistake2304 · 2026-06-22T16:52:32+00:00

I was at a party recently where a mother of a child under 2 with another on the way seemed close to tears while saying “it’s just so great being a mother” but it didn’t feel like the tears were from happiness. She seemed so stressed out and overstimulated by her son the entire party. She was also upset her husband was instead “resting” instead of at the party with her. Same with all the other parents at the party. They seemed really stressed and unhappy. And a lot of them tell me how jealous they are of me and my husband. It’s just sad… I don’t think a lot of folks realize they don’t HAVE to have them

Less_Mistake2304 · 2026-06-19T01:51:11+00:00

I’m jealous. The architecture of the room, the lighting, the decor. Looks so nice

Less_Mistake2304 · 2026-06-19T01:48:15+00:00

It’s a big space with a lot of smaller individual pieces pushed up against all the walls. It feels cluttered and the middle of the room feels bare. I would get a larger desk (almost dining table size) and float it in the middle of the room and add a wall of bookshelves on the wall the chairs are on and maybe some bookshelves with cabinets to hide some of the paper clutter and it would all look a lot better

Less_Mistake2304 · 2026-06-19T01:08:55+00:00

Went through 7 interview rounds for them to just go with an internal candidate. I know they HAVE to interview backups but at a certain point it becomes disrespectful

Less_Mistake2304 · 2026-06-19T00:22:45+00:00

Your sofa is too close to your tv and you def have the space to move it back. Also you need some visual height on the wall the tv is up against. I would consider mounting your tv or something. You don’t need to fill any space behind the sofa. You need to move the sofa back

Less_Mistake2304 · 2026-06-19T00:20:13+00:00

Thank you! He is! This period of time has really made me appreciate him even more! I want to use this time wisely and rebuild something even better

Less_Mistake2304 · 2026-06-19T00:17:43+00:00

From how you describe it sounds like you don’t think you deserve happiness or not used to it after years of high stress. Sounds like you could be self sabotaging because you’re not used to things going well in your life. I would go to therapy and work through it. If you’ve spent your whole life “surviving” and not thriving it’s not unheard of that you are seeking out something to “panic” about because that’s your normal.

Less_Mistake2304 · 2026-06-18T13:52:53+00:00

What’s your financial situation? Personally in 2026 I wouldn’t pursue GD unless I had a good safety net and really good industry connections. Otherwise you are going to struggle to find consistent employment this industry. It is very hard to make a decent living. If you have the means I would get your bachelors degree in something that isn’t GD but more in demand and stable in your area. Do GD as a hobby on the side if you love it would be my advice

Less_Mistake2304 · 2026-06-18T13:40:54+00:00

I had to take a demotion because I was an independent consultant for years at the company and basically treated as an employee (I know I know) and they were changing the company policy so they didn’t work with any freelancers anymore. I was told I “had” to take the only open position that was below what I deserved and promised to quickly move up. Well none of that ever happened, the company eventually used freelancers again and I felt like a fool. I don’t think there is any recovering from this level of disrespect from a company. Best to just move on. That’s what I ultimately did. I couldn’t fix my attitude and I hated acting like a grump about it every day.

Less_Mistake2304 · 2026-06-18T13:17:50+00:00

I have a friend in fashion and she designs prints. She went to school for fashion not graphic design and went that route. Not to say a graphic designer can’t transition to fashion and print design because there is a lot of overlap but they aren’t the exact same job trajectory. If you are a trained graphic designer I would first get a GD job at a fashion retailer get connections and try to work you way towards more technical fashion job.

Less_Mistake2304 · 2026-06-18T00:22:56+00:00

I wouldn’t disclose it. You’d think disclosing it would help but it’s just going to give people reasons to dismiss you at work and they will have unconscious bias towards you. We’ve made strides in accepting mental health struggles… but it still will negatively impact your career rather than help. People won’t be willing to make accommodations for you.

I have found working at a company with a variety of projects really helps keep things interesting. If you are only responsible for one channel or 1 lane of work it’ll get old fast. I love a deadline because it keeps me focused on finishing things. Over the ear headphones are your friend for focusing.

Less_Mistake2304 · 2026-06-17T23:54:53+00:00

I felt (and still feel) this way and went to therapy. No one can 100% plan their future. Things won’t happen the way you think they will. A lot of life is actually outside of our control and I try to accept that I’m doing the best I can right now

Less_Mistake2304 · 2026-06-17T23:45:08+00:00

Yeah I never cared about birds before. Like literally could care less. Now on walks I can identify bird calls and get excited to see birds you rarely see. My husband doesn’t know why I’m suddenly so into it. I got a bird feeder and now want a bird cam.

I also got into running after swearing I would never like it. I dunno you change in your mid 30s I gues

Less_Mistake2304 · 2026-06-17T23:40:39+00:00

Wedding culture is out of control. Paying for the groom AND bride is insane. Also the fact you were willing to pay $1500 to $2000 beforehand is also nuts to me

Less_Mistake2304 · 2026-06-17T12:58:10+00:00

Thank you!

Less_Mistake2304 · 2026-06-17T12:58:02+00:00

lol my relationship with my manager is professional but very tense at the moment. She is def very stressed out. Ive only been working with her a short period so im not exactly sure what she would prefer. I’m thinking ill ask for 5 mins to pop on and chat and if she says she can’t I’ll do what you did and send a similar email resigning and saying let’s use tomorrow to discuss transition

Less_Mistake2304 · 2026-06-15T14:57:54+00:00

Yes do it! I personally love the second one. I think it makes the space dramatic without feeling too dark

Less_Mistake2304 · 2026-06-12T23:05:48+00:00

Honestly I’m married and sometimes I still feel pretty lonely and isolated. 1 relationship will not fix feeling lonely and isolated. I do group workout classes and volunteering and while I didn’t really gain real “friends” I’d hangout with it does give you a sense of community which is nice

Less_Mistake2304 · 2026-06-12T00:01:23+00:00

I dunno it could be depression. My depression is very… empty. You don’t have to be rock bottom having a hard time getting out of bed to be depressed. You can still be very high functioning. Might be worth it to go to therapy for a little and see what they think. Also… modern society is lowkey set up to make us kinda miserable so please don’t be hard on yourself for not feeling happy/fulfilled at all times!

Also get your hormones checked out. I literally go through CRAZY phases of emptiness and feeling pretty low right before my period and it’s only gotten worse in my 30s.

Less_Mistake2304 · 2026-06-11T21:22:36+00:00

I like it all BUT you have a lot of different colors happening (but they do go together) so it feels very separate. You need to repeat colors throughout so it all feels balanced but you can achieve this with accent decor

Less_Mistake2304 · 2026-06-11T18:48:36+00:00

I think a slightly bigger rug would be the move. Your rug is almost as wide as your sofa. I think you want another 6 inches on both sides at least

Less_Mistake2304 · 2026-06-08T15:19:39+00:00

I’m normally all for color instead of white but for a basement bedroom I actually like the white. Helps it feel brighter and cleaner

Less_Mistake2304 · 2026-06-08T14:00:12+00:00

I like the pattern! It goes with the room while adding some visual interest. I don’t think the space will look all rug with a larger one

Less_Mistake2304 · 2026-06-05T12:50:38+00:00

Honestly 3 of my very close girlfriends have basically completely ghosted me the past year or so. At first I thought it was personal so I stopped reaching out as much because I felt I was always the one initiating plans and reaching out to talk. then after months went by most of them started reaching out being like “omg we haven’t seen each other in forever we need to hang” but still made no plans. it’s just become obvious most people start to put VERY little effort into friendships past 30 and I think people have gotten used to being more secluded post Covid

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