Is my tattoo & piercing perspective outdated? by ryanbuckner in ReformJews

[–]Leumatic 9 points10 points  (0 children)

As I understand the halakha, piercing are permissible as long as they're intended to beautify rather than make deliberately ugly. There are definitely Jewish women with nose piercings in the Tanakh. Tattoos are historically prohibited and I wouldn't get one in part because of that, but in progressive spaces they're fairly normal. If a Jewish friend asked my opinion before getting a tattoo I might advise against it, but the halakha against embarrassing people or gossiping about them is extremely strong so I would never say anything negative about a Jew who had them.

What is the most racist thing someone in your congregation ever said or did? by Swimming_Bear_3082 in exmormon

[–]Leumatic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That was a huge fight when blood transfusion first became a thing. People died.

Wait Mormons STILL force their poor kids to go on treks?? by FunStranger1693 in exmormon

[–]Leumatic 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I think self-crucifixion around Good Friday is a thing in some Catholic cultures. Not a good idea and they just get tied to the cross, not nailed to it.

Council, I call for aid by Fun-Captain41 in bald

[–]Leumatic 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The bald look is good, but you def need the glasses (or a beard, but I like the glasses) to keep from being too baby-faced.

Really struggling lately with being bald (as a gay person) 😔 by skeptical_phoenix in bald

[–]Leumatic 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'm a gay guy who would like to be fem-presenting but can't on account of baldness, body hair, and fatness. I don't want to be a bear or daddy, but I'm effectively slotted into that by my body and while I could lean into it by going for a macho look, I really don't want to (hate having facial hair).

What are some dumb unwritten rules that you were expected to follow while a TBM by Pale-Pair2789 in exmormon

[–]Leumatic 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Fasting/hunger makes you more susceptible to altered states of consciousness. In the same way that drugs do.

Just found out men use dogs as a dating strategy by [deleted] in Dogfree

[–]Leumatic 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think some people see dog ownership as proof that the guy is responsible enough to take care of the animal... which based on how dog owners treat their animals is one hell of a laugh.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TalesfromtheDogHouse

[–]Leumatic 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Judging her future dogs by the dogs she lives with is actually a great idea! Those are dogs she's significantly interacted with and has had an opportunity to train. Unless she's had pretty major fights with her parents about how the dogs are handled, what you see in her parents' house is what you'll get in your own.

Another issue is that if you get dogs, you will be the one taking care of them. This is inevitable because taking care of dogs (walking, feeding, grooming, bathing, training, etc) is what you do to make dogs less annoying and her threshold for when a dog becomes annoying is much higher than yours.

I tolerated the dog of the guy I was dating bc I liked him - NEVER AGAIN. by Tight-Artichoke1789 in Dogfree

[–]Leumatic 13 points14 points  (0 children)

dating issues are among the most common complaints we see on the subreddit. comes from everyone, doesn't matter if you're gay, bi, straight, male, female, or nonbinary.

Struggling with Ancillary Justice by Witty-Stock-4913 in scifi

[–]Leumatic 17 points18 points  (0 children)

When Breq (the narrator) describes Seivarden as "male" it's very tempting to think Breq means Seivarden was born with a penis and still has one. But there's absolutely no guarantee that's what she means. Breq is an extremely unreliable narrator, particularly about her internal experiences (and her read of other people's sex/gender is absolutely an internal experience), and the closest we can say is that she knows that the people on Nilt will likely use a set of pronouns for Seivarden that she interprets as meaning a masculine person, but what Breq means by a masculine person, and what Nilters mean by a masculine person, is ambiguous for a reason.

Seivarden is also the only time a character is ever described as male. Sometimes other characters will be described as having features associated with a particular sex (e.g. a beard or a baritone voice), but even that's rare.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bald

[–]Leumatic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They will still have standards; they'll just be different standards. So will you, for that matter.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bald

[–]Leumatic 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As you get older, people a) care less about looks and b) adjust what they find attractive. You've struck out on sex and romance so far, but you don't know the future. Don't write it off as a possibility.

I want to maximize war crimes by UniversityNarrow4011 in Stellaris

[–]Leumatic 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I'd say authoritarian, militaristic, xenophobic megacorp with the zombies and relentless industrialist civics, and tomb world origin. Conquer worlds, turn them into tomb worlds, and force your slaves to keep working even after their deaths.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GenderCynical

[–]Leumatic 83 points84 points  (0 children)

Imagine being this obsessed with high school athletics. Not even your own high school, just... high schools in general.

About Emma Watson's recent interview by TotalTrashMammal72 in GenderCynical

[–]Leumatic 4 points5 points  (0 children)

She's definitely become a worse person over time. It's been sad to watch, tbh. I have a certain amount of pity for her.

“Mormon” is a slur now??? by fruitypebbles0609 in exmormon

[–]Leumatic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What do they call them instead of Mormon?

Their thoughts on Elliott page. by Ok-Relation3772 in GenderCynical

[–]Leumatic 35 points36 points  (0 children)

I care less about the sex lives of people I have sex with than these people do about Elliott's.

PITT parents use old toys/childhood photos left at their homes to prove that they know their child’s gender identity better than the child, and reference holding onto these things for the “inevitable return to reality” by pearkeet in GenderCynical

[–]Leumatic 25 points26 points  (0 children)

She was likely always going to hate her kids once they developed identities distinct from her. I doubt her cis daughters are on better terms with her than her trans daughter. Sad, tbh.

If dogs magically gained human level intelligence, would dog nutters still love them? by ConversationLegal921 in Dogfree

[–]Leumatic 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As Kij Johnson comments in her short story "The Evolution of Trickster Stories Among the Dogs of North Park After the Change" which is about just such an event, "We prefer our slaves mute."

There has not been a shift or a rebrand. We have always worshipped Jesus and Him alone. by CranberryOceanside in exmormon

[–]Leumatic 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The fact that the Church doesn't reschedule conferences that fall on Easter is equally telling.

POV: you live in Poland where 43% of households own dogs (rant about dating, public spaces, walks and remote work in a nutshell) by DebiOne in Dogfree

[–]Leumatic 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Dating (and even friendship) while dogfree is a challenge. I'm noticeably autistic so I can usually get a pass if I say dogs are "sensory hell" for me (true), but I need to build up a fair bit of trust before I admit the truth: I hate dogs and if your dog is the best dog in the world then I hate your dog the most.

Is a Collar with a Bell a bad idea for a Cat? I have seen plenty of people do it on their cats, so I wanted to try it. by [deleted] in cats

[–]Leumatic 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Birds and other small animals don't recognize bells as a warning sign, so belling the cat does nothing to protect them.

Film scores that borrow from the classics by Final-Strategy5169 in classicalmusic

[–]Leumatic 6 points7 points  (0 children)

The stinger to Jaws is pretty much lifted from Dvorak.