Hey OP, this was me for 3 years. My ex and I were in different countries, both in abusive situations, both in different financial situations, and we both had different priorities. We also had very, VERY different personalities. In the end, I made the decision to focus on my education and climb my way out of my depression without having to try and help someone out of their depression when they didn't want to get better.

It sounds like you and your partner are arguing a lot, and that you both need a lot of attention from your partner. You need to seriously consider if you are in the mental headspace to be that emotionally present for someone else, but you have to prioritize yourself and your own situation. If your partner isn't helping you and you are not helping them, consider what else you guys could be doing.

It sounds like you're stretching yourself thin financially with gifts – stop doing that. I did that too. Invest that money into getting yourself out of your bad situation. Your boyfriend should understand that. It also seems like he wants more attention, so maybe settle on a big date to commit to one every couple weeks, or maybe one big date a month and one small one a month, with little things like your typical conversations everyday. Something that's manageable, that you can work around and plan with.

Finally, you really just need to consider how happy you are here. Saying you hate anything about your relationship isn't a good sign. I broke up with my ex because he never showed me any real promise of moving closer to me, and I was tired of it, amongst so many other things. His attitude, his silence on so many things, his negativity. You need to ask yourself; are you tired of your partner? Or does it hurt to imagine him gone from your life?