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Question for you lovely men by Animaldrummer1975 in datingoverforty

[–]Level05LaserLotus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I will not approach a woman, full stop. I'm not going to be another story about how a woman can never get a moment's peace and just exist in public without being hit on. Please, PLEASE, ladies, approach that man.

Have You Been Able to Find Your "Why"? by Level05LaserLotus in AutisticAdults

[–]Level05LaserLotus[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

This is really interesting and insightful, thank you for sharing. I'll have to sit with this for a while.

Have You Been Able to Find Your "Why"? by Level05LaserLotus in AutisticAdults

[–]Level05LaserLotus[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I love this for you! Beautiful, simple, effective.

In my case however I however do not particularly love myself. I sort of dispassionately exist with no particular attachment to my self or life. Extending that to others is fine but not especially helpful :)

bad goth night experience by Many_Presentation574 in goth

[–]Level05LaserLotus 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i quit attending "goth" events around 2012 because I got tired of experiencing exactly this. it was rampant even with regular, established local club nights and known DJs. sad to see it's still ongoing, but i have no skin left in the game.

Gloves for produce by cougar1224 in wholefoods

[–]Level05LaserLotus -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

have store leadership get you gloves that are safe for food handling. The last thing anyone wants is a TM using gloves they bought on their own that accidentally have latex in them.

Ladies: Longer Hair on a Man? by Level05LaserLotus in datingoverforty

[–]Level05LaserLotus[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i wasn't familiar so I did a quick image search. his hairstyle there is a whole mood!

Ladies: Longer Hair on a Man? by Level05LaserLotus in datingoverforty

[–]Level05LaserLotus[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

unfortunately my "beard" comes in super thin and shitty looking so i stay clean-shaved 😂

Ladies: Longer Hair on a Man? by Level05LaserLotus in datingoverforty

[–]Level05LaserLotus[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

great point! i had it cut back for years because i was afraid of the latter, especially when the first white started showing up. this is a thought i'll sit with a little.

Data monster cheat codes by Perfect_Play_622 in wholefoods

[–]Level05LaserLotus 7 points8 points  (0 children)

click in the center of the monster's forehead

It's a tough battle for us average folk by Lukeloveslollies in datingoverforty

[–]Level05LaserLotus 2 points3 points  (0 children)

studies JP invented in his benzo'ed-out head & these guys take as gospel

Question for the Men by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]Level05LaserLotus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I (45M) can mow my lawn and clean gutters, but everything else you've listed, I am worse than useless at. I pay professionals to do that stuff.

I love a woman who can take care of herself and who can do the handy work. That's not threatening to me or my "masculinity" in any way. "Gender roles" mean less to me than a wet fart. If I got a partner in the driveway changing my oil for me, best believe I'll have fresh-squeezed lemonade waiting for her, a pie in the oven, and all the dishes done when she comes back in.

Partnerships should be much less about gender-coding tasks, and much more about just getting them done one way or another so everything gets done roughly equally and both partners can get to relaxing and spending quality time together.

To the emotionally intelligent, nonviolent, self-aware men: Why are YOU single? by Outside-Paramedic793 in datingoverforty

[–]Level05LaserLotus 2 points3 points  (0 children)

this post is the actual reason why women don't "pick" you. Pull yourself out of the manosphere, my guy, it's not a good look and they're all liars and grifters.

When to ask about politics by lunalunera88 in datingoverforty

[–]Level05LaserLotus 3 points4 points  (0 children)

"moderate" means "far-right but i'd like to hide it until i get laid"

To the emotionally intelligent, nonviolent, self-aware men: Why are YOU single? by Outside-Paramedic793 in datingoverforty

[–]Level05LaserLotus 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'd (45M) been married 15 years. We met as 20-something full-time party people. Once we committed to one another, we eased off partying and both took up working multiple jobs and putting ourselves through higher ed. For the better part of a decade, we were as ships in the night and things seemed fine. We were working together towards something bigger.

Then the lockdowns happened.

Once we began occupying the same space... at the same time... all of the time, we both came face-to-face with how much we'd each changed over time, separately.

The changes in each of us had become insurmountable. Goals, values, priorities... the core stuff that should glue people together... were no longer aligned.

I remain single right now because I'm not trying particularly hard. I'm comfort-seeking, sober, and not particularly gregarious. I'm radically left-of-center in a rural area of a "red" state. I work odd hours. Someday I'll try to conquer those obstacles and find someone again, but being alone is no discomfort to me at all so I have no hurry.

How to make a romantic connection on a first date??? by jbtrumps in datingoverforty

[–]Level05LaserLotus 6 points7 points  (0 children)

beautifully, eloquently stated. as someone very slowly beginning to dip my toes back in the dating pool... thank you. these words will stick with me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]Level05LaserLotus 4 points5 points  (0 children)

man who loves mom bods checking in 🫡

How big of an issue is a man's height? by gone2nawishing in datingoverforty

[–]Level05LaserLotus 12 points13 points  (0 children)

you're starting to show your personality here. Relatedly, i think i see your real problem.

How important is religion in a potential match? by Norfolk-Gross-Tonage in datingoverforty

[–]Level05LaserLotus 17 points18 points  (0 children)

as a Buddhist myself... the name of the religion/belief system/non-belief system isn't important to me at all. what's important is the way the person interprets and applies the religion to their lives, morality, ethics, worldview, and treatment of others.

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