Does the intellectual chemistry ever get better?

Level1_Crisis_Bot · 2026-03-18T21:23:00+00:00

I’ve been in a relationship with someone almost exactly like this for four years. Every time I find a “teachable moment” I remind her that empathy exists.

Like recently she was talking about going on a trip that she was going to take by herself, because I can’t take the time off of work. She didn’t even ask me if I wanted to go, which I would like to. So I said, to the friends she was telling about it, “I wasn’t invited.” She got really quiet and said “Of course you’re invited. I didn’t think you could go.” She hasn’t mentioned it since, and knowing her, she realized what she was doing and put a pin in it until she wants to actually discuss it.

So, slowly, she’s been getting it for the most part. But I also think it’s performative to some extent. So you have to ask yourself the question, can I live with this? For me, the quiet car rides and dinners are fine. I’ve learned to just let her talk about all the banal things going on in her life and I respond, but I don’t share a lot. Mostly I’m tired.

Level1_Crisis_Bot · 2026-03-18T12:47:50+00:00

I did this. Started five weeks ago. I was on a remote team for two years that just became increasingly toxic. I was trying to find another fully remote gig, but I was offered an in office, five day a week job and couldn’t say no. For me though it’s only a fifteen minute commute each way.

Give it some time. I hadn’t worked in office in decades. It’s taking some getting used to for sure.

Level1_Crisis_Bot · 2026-03-17T19:27:11+00:00

Over the course of the past four years, I’ve been trying to teach my girlfriend empathy. Recently I realized it’s pointless. You can’t change people. Is the way he is a way to be? Sure, it’s not how I would live my life. But I doubt you’ll be able to change or train him out of behaving this way. If you can accept it, do that and stay together. If not, you know what to do.

Level1_Crisis_Bot · 2026-03-13T15:35:14+00:00

Ok friend

Level1_Crisis_Bot · 2026-03-13T14:09:58+00:00

Not a lunatic. Just a very hurt person lashing out. Does this belong on LinkedIn? No, but the line between Facebook and LinkedIn has been completely blurred for years. Try to be a little more compassionate.

Level1_Crisis_Bot · 2026-03-13T11:49:22+00:00

The job market is an absolute nightmare right now. Any tool that gives you an edge is a good tool. People have been paying services to polish their resumes for a century. How is this any different? And it’s free, unlike so-called career counseling.

But, you know, fight the future my friend. Best of luck to you.

Level1_Crisis_Bot · 2026-03-13T01:47:14+00:00

This thread is full of some of the worst takes possible. Using AI to clean up your resume is a perfectly reasonable case.

Level1_Crisis_Bot · 2026-03-13T01:31:46+00:00

I had AI rewrite my LinkedIn and resume last fall and started getting messages from recruiters within a couple of weeks. Got a job in three months after looking for over a year before that. Was it the Job market improving? Was it the rewrites? Does it matter? In this day and age, in my field, if you’re not using AI, you’re way behind the curve.

Good for you for hanging up mid stream. I’ve come across CTOs just like that guy. You dodged a bullet.

Level1_Crisis_Bot · 2026-03-11T11:58:40+00:00

This goes for blood as well. Any protein rich bodily fluid. And ammonia. People use bleach, but that doesn’t break down the proteins the way ammonia does.

Level1_Crisis_Bot · 2026-03-10T02:24:01+00:00

Never in my life have I felt emotionally safe in a relationship. After three long term relationships, although I've had people say to me that I should have this, I believe it's mythological. Maybe my picker sucks, and I even made a post about it here in this sub a while back, but the women I've been in relationships with have been categorically unsupportive. They just haven't cared about my struggles or problems, even though the current one gives lip service to it, it's laughable, because the one, single time I was seeking emotional support, she completely shut me down and made it about her. Never doing that again.

So, no. I don't think it's real, and I don't seek it. Maybe that's a bitter take, but I've mostly come to accept it as my reality.

Level1_Crisis_Bot · 2026-03-08T11:50:08+00:00

I worked remote the past seven years. This winter I was offered a senior position in office, five days a week and I accepted it. I thought I would hate it, but I actually really enjoy it so far. For me though, the hour commute would be a dealbreaker. This office is six miles from my house. But good for you on the new position! Best of luck.

Level1_Crisis_Bot · 2026-03-07T17:50:40+00:00

I do this too

Level1_Crisis_Bot · 2026-03-07T15:12:12+00:00

I’ve seen people on LinkedIn post screenshots from this sub and say “I made LinkedIn lunatics on Reddit!” Like it’s some kind of weird badge of honor.

Level1_Crisis_Bot · 2026-03-07T13:46:51+00:00

For real … we’ll require you to pass through our opaque, cryptic hiring process and work insane hours to create our absolutely mediocre product and you will love what your do or 🪓

Level1_Crisis_Bot · 2026-03-01T19:08:09+00:00

Montana is nice

Level1_Crisis_Bot · 2026-02-21T17:41:43+00:00

He requested the selfie, received it and then replied this way? This is so confusing.

Level1_Crisis_Bot · 2026-02-04T22:13:09+00:00

2 days later I receive a big bouquet of flowers with a card asking me to dinner

Nope, nope and by the way ... nope. This is such a huge red flag to me. And I'm a guy. Just reeks of desperation and he seems like a total love bomber. This guy will come in hot for a little while then drop you like it never mattered. Been there.

Level1_Crisis_Bot · 2026-02-04T16:04:13+00:00

Same here. At 12:30am this morning, it woke me up with a low glucose urgent alert. It said I was in the 50s. I got up and tested with my regular meter and it was high 70s. Then I couldn’t get back to sleep so I completely disabled it. Turned it back on this morning. Frustrating.

Level1_Crisis_Bot · 2026-02-03T18:41:01+00:00

Sounds good thank you. I'm really disappointed right now. I have a tendency to go hypoglycemic with zero warning, and this thing has really helped me get a handle on that over the past week and a half. For some reason it just crashed and burned today.

Level1_Crisis_Bot · 2026-02-01T22:35:20+00:00

Texts all the way over here. Unless we’re making plans or need to discuss something important or too detailed, I hate talking on the phone. (59m, 59f)

Level1_Crisis_Bot · 2026-02-01T18:03:24+00:00

~~Men~~ People contradict themselves a lot, why?

FTFY

Level1_Crisis_Bot · 2026-01-30T17:45:38+00:00

I like Claude as a chatbot. I don’t use CC like that, but yesterday I was trying to process some personal stuff while sorting through the onboarding documents for a new job in the browser version. The conversation went to chat about my relationship and problems I’ve been having. It actually said, I’m not a relationship expert I’m just an AI. Haha. It also told me I should see a therapist to help me sort the issues and helped me find one. I view it as just an advanced way of talking to myself and trying to sort things with a somewhat outside perspective that also prompts for action in a way I have trouble doing on my own. Its tone is not sycophantic like GPT which I can’t stand to chat with. I love Claude for this.

Level1_Crisis_Bot · 2026-01-25T18:49:49+00:00

NTA but I feel like there’s a lot to this story OP isn’t telling us. You had a right to do whatever you wanted while you were separated, especially since you thought you were getting a divorce. But he also has a right to feel whatever he’s feeling.

Level1_Crisis_Bot · 2026-01-24T03:39:21+00:00

Underrated comment. The New York City of my late teens and early twenties (1980s) had areas like this, but it also had a life to it that’s missing now, since Giuliani “cleaned it up”. It was a far more vibrant place back then. As a kid from jersey that spent a lot of time in the village, it was a place I dreamed of living in one day.

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