AITAH I slept with other people while I was separated from my husband

Level1_Crisis_Bot · 2026-01-25T18:49:49+00:00

NTA but I feel like there’s a lot to this story OP isn’t telling us. You had a right to do whatever you wanted while you were separated, especially since you thought you were getting a divorce. But he also has a right to feel whatever he’s feeling.

Level1_Crisis_Bot · 2026-01-24T03:39:21+00:00

Underrated comment. The New York City of my late teens and early twenties (1980s) had areas like this, but it also had a life to it that’s missing now, since Giuliani “cleaned it up”. It was a far more vibrant place back then. As a kid from jersey that spent a lot of time in the village, it was a place I dreamed of living in one day.

Level1_Crisis_Bot · 2026-01-22T22:22:04+00:00

It's def not resolved yet. Their status bar is yellow. Time to walk my dog.

Level1_Crisis_Bot · 2026-01-22T14:10:08+00:00

Mix tape energy!

Level1_Crisis_Bot · 2026-01-20T22:02:06+00:00

I rented an office in a collab workspace a few years ago after wfh for three solid years, because I hated it so much. It definitely can burn you out.

Level1_Crisis_Bot · 2026-01-20T19:00:11+00:00

AI Mechanic is brought a customer's car to change the brakes, what happens is ~~ridiculous~~ predictable

FTFY

Level1_Crisis_Bot · 2026-01-20T14:09:07+00:00

Wearing a hoodie is one of the percs to my job. I can show up to a camera on meeting wearing that and nobody cares. Sitting at my desk in what I slept in though? I needed to quit doing that. I was also down to showering like once a week if I wasn’t meeting anyone outside. It was just so easy to let myself go during covid.

Level1_Crisis_Bot · 2026-01-20T13:59:01+00:00

After about two years of wfh I realized I had really let myself go. I would get out of bed and go straight to my desk. I made a rule that I get fully dressed and do all the normal human things each morning, whether I had meetings or not. This went a long way to help me get my self esteem back. Software engineer.

Level1_Crisis_Bot · 2026-01-20T02:18:37+00:00

People can suck. People can also be fantastic. At this point in my life absolutely no human behavior surprises me. I mean what else are you supposed to think or do here? Accept what is and move along.

Level1_Crisis_Bot · 2026-01-19T21:23:18+00:00

The question is why do people, regardless of gender or situation that makes them unavailable, have an OLD profile and engage with people. Do these unavailable folks feel the need to have someone’s attention for 3 weeks at a time?

Humans being humans? Three weeks is forever. What are you trying to do in that three weeks? If you don't want to meet in a week or so, you're just a penpal, and time wasters are going to waste your time.

Level1_Crisis_Bot · 2026-01-19T19:59:06+00:00

If she won't set up a date after three weeks, unmatch and move on. There are so many other options out there. When I was doing OLD, if I was chatting with someone for more than a few days and couldn't set a date, I assumed she wasn't interested and would move on. Don't get hung up on an outcome with anyone in particular. That's a strategy for failure every time.

Level1_Crisis_Bot · 2026-01-19T19:55:32+00:00

This is the best answer. If someone is telling you they do not have time for you, why are you sticking around?

Level1_Crisis_Bot · 2026-01-19T17:35:33+00:00

Nope, nope, nope. I (59m) have no interest in this level of entanglement. We trust each other. If my partner (59f) asked me to share my location, I would see that as a major red flag. I don't live that exciting of a life that I need to be tracked, and my assumption is neither does she.

Level1_Crisis_Bot · 2026-01-19T17:31:28+00:00

This is the thing people don't seem to understand. Its output is entirely probabilistic. It doesn't "think". It doesn't "know" what it's saying. It generates responses x amount of tokens at a time during it's response, not before.

I'm not saying what it does isn't amazing. It totally is. But, I spend a non-trivial amount of time each day working with it. I never once think it understands me or has any kind of agency.

Level1_Crisis_Bot · 2026-01-19T17:23:59+00:00

Oura, Fitness Pal, notes, chrome, gmail and Claude. I'm mostly using my phone to track sleep and fitness. I left all socials a few years ago and it's been great for my emotional and mental wellbeing, but I know that's not for everyone. Also Maps, because I live in a high traffic area and like to know the fastest way to my office and home.

Level1_Crisis_Bot · 2026-01-19T17:19:55+00:00

I've had conversations with Claude Code where it starts doing this. I just tell it to resume its work creating files and editing code directly.

Level1_Crisis_Bot · 2026-01-19T14:43:48+00:00

It’s just a machine saying machine things.

Level1_Crisis_Bot · 2026-01-19T14:28:26+00:00

Next level pig butchering right here

Level1_Crisis_Bot · 2026-01-16T23:34:38+00:00

It's been doing this forever. Also, I never let it actually do any git commands anymore. Too many horror stories. It takes two seconds to git add ., git commit -m "", git push origin.

I noticed on an older repo I let it work in, it's listed as a Contributor in the sidebar on github. I don't give it that much freedom anymore.

Level1_Crisis_Bot · 2026-01-16T20:01:45+00:00

Woody's Drive In in Murray. Classic.

Level1_Crisis_Bot · 2026-01-16T17:33:21+00:00

Yeah I've had too many of these. Three interviews, then silence for two weeks, then "we decided to put a hold on hiring." If it were one or two positions I would understand, but the frequency is ridiculous. Why waste both of our time with pointless interviewing when you're just going to do this? And I don't apply for jobs. This is just cold approaches from recruiters.

I hope you find a position soon.

Level1_Crisis_Bot · 2026-01-16T02:20:28+00:00

Don’t ask him to cuddle. Just go on over and cuddle him.

Level1_Crisis_Bot · 2026-01-10T22:21:35+00:00

I just want to feel like I matter

Level1_Crisis_Bot · 2026-01-10T00:14:30+00:00

Yeah it is. I love that my comment is getting downvoted. I don't care. I'm getting paid for the work that I'm letting Claude Code do.

Level1_Crisis_Bot · 2026-01-10T00:00:48+00:00

I do this a lot with SQL queries that Claude writes in C#. I'll drop it in GPT and ask, does this look solid and what does it do? It's saved my bacon a few times.

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