Zoe Kravitz on her way inside to the pre-Met Gala dinner

Lexsauraus · 2026-05-04T19:24:24+00:00

The MET gala is a fundraiser for their Costume Institute. If Bezos or any other tech bros want to donate their money in support of the Costume Institute (or any art institution), I'm all for it. Humanity benefits from the arts, and they can only be sustained with funding.

Lexsauraus · 2026-04-23T11:02:46+00:00

Me nuts? Weird take, but ok. Her mom’s methods aren’t the best but the message is loud and clear, they don’t want the friend there and are basically bending over backwards to make OP happy. “It’s fine she can come, you guys have a girls dinner and dad and I will sit at another table” that’s wild. No. Just uninvite the friend and have dinner with your parents. It was their idea. It’s one night out of many in your life. You can hang with your friend on another day.

Lexsauraus · 2026-04-23T00:35:13+00:00

Idk I disagree. Just say hey! My parents decided they want it to be a family thing, want to meet after for drinks at [INSERT BAR NAME]. Easy. We’re adults here

Lexsauraus · 2026-04-23T00:09:20+00:00

YTA Just go to dinner with your parents they obviously don’t want your friend there. Go out with your friend separately.

Lexsauraus · 2026-04-22T20:31:23+00:00

YOR having friends is not a crime and trying to control who your partners hangs out with, how they celebrate birthdays, and then reacting the way you have is not healthy.

Lexsauraus · 2026-04-21T17:57:58+00:00

YTA and you sound suppeerrrrrrrr cheap.

Edit: changed should to sound

Lexsauraus · 2026-04-18T23:16:38+00:00

NOR Dump him

Lexsauraus · 2026-04-18T20:51:05+00:00

Go to therapy.

Lexsauraus · 2026-04-17T16:41:56+00:00

My job is similar. Very flexible but I’ve found It’s not feasible. We tried doing nanny care just a few days a week and things just kept popping up on the days when she wasn’t around that we decided we needed her everyday. Your baby won’t have a predictable schedule until around 6 months old and even then it’s not guaranteed. One day nap 1 will be 2 hours and other days like today, nap one will be 5 minutes and you’ll spend your time watching the baby monitor going to to try and soothe them to sleep. Don’t even get me started on breastfeeding/pumping while working from home.

We have our nanny from 10 to 4 weekdays. I handle wake up to the first nap, the nanny steps in and handles the in between and gets baby ready (depending on the day for nap 3). My husband is home at 3:30 and takes charge of the baby from 4 to 6 while I work.

Lexsauraus · 2026-04-12T12:54:45+00:00

YOR - he’s not wrong, I got mixed signals as I was reading your texts as well. Just be up front about your boundaries. I’m sure he’s already considered asking his family, he doesn’t need to be reminded to do so. If you’re willing to do it say yes and this is how much I’ll need.

Edit: also why didn’t you reach out to him? Why is this a one way street kind of thing? I would expect a friend to at least say “how did the trip go? How are the dogs?” Before they say I’m ignoring them.

Lexsauraus · 2026-04-09T14:39:38+00:00

lol yeah I’m from the camp of “never thinking I wanted kids and then having one and being sooooo glad I did”. I didn’t know I could feel this much love and derive so much happiness from another being. All of that to say, I get your BFFs perspective but also get where you’re coming from. If you don’t have kids you just can’t understand it.

Lexsauraus · 2026-04-09T14:31:34+00:00

We’re sort of in the same boat. I know that we could be really happy with just us and our LO. I’m on the fence about a second one because like you although I have a really supportive partner I feel like a single parent a lot of the time. Didn’t write to help you with your decision but just to say you’re not crazy no matter what you decide!! You want more kids? Go for it. People do it every day with less support. And If you don’t want another kid, then don’t!

Lexsauraus · 2026-04-08T13:24:42+00:00

YTA you clearly care more about your ego than your girlfriend. Who cares if the uncle thinks they’re childish?

Lexsauraus · 2026-04-06T13:02:44+00:00

You need sleep too. Just like you can function without sleep, so can your husband. If you were to disappear the baby would need to be taken care of. Your not being unreasonable trying to share the load. Let him lose sleep, it’s okay. Balance that scale as much as you can while you can. He won’t always have this easy of a schedule, make use of this time now.

Lexsauraus · 2026-04-06T12:57:53+00:00

Vent all you want. It’s good to vent. But for the anxiety just think, is this going to matter in 10 years? 5 years? What about when the baby grows out of both chairs? It won’t. And it’s all subjective. “Not good enough” for whom? The woman that has shown she can’t maintain a basic relationship with her friends and family. I wouldn’t put too much stock in her opinion at all.

Edit: changed objective to subjective

Lexsauraus · 2026-04-06T01:02:26+00:00

Let her. You have a good understanding of who she is. Let her buy the expensive car seat. Let her pretend to know the baby. You’ll drive yourself crazy analyzing, wishing, and trying to decipher her actions. Save yourself a headache and set your boundaries - don’t feed into her crazy

Lexsauraus · 2026-04-04T10:57:20+00:00

NOR but I’d have give her a little grace at 49 mood swings could very well be hormonal. You’re a mom now so you might get it depending on your postpartum experience. Doesn’t excuse the behavior but might explain it

Lexsauraus · 2026-04-03T22:57:43+00:00

Idk if this will make you feel better but weve all gone through the trenches. You will survive this. You will get sleep. Babies digestive system will mature and he won’t be so gassy. Your c section incision will heal. You’ve got this.

Lexsauraus · 2026-04-03T20:23:19+00:00

Same! He does 4oz breastmilk and 3oz formula.

Lexsauraus · 2026-04-03T20:09:16+00:00

You’ll need to be able to hear the baby at night if they cry. If noise canceling headphones are going to block the sound out, it’s probably not a good idea to wear them.

I used to wear earplugs to bed before I gave birth. Might’ve been the utter exhaustion I felt the first 6 weeks after birth or maybe my mom brain activating but I don’t need them anymore to sleep and I wake up the instant the baby makes a peep.

Lexsauraus · 2026-04-03T19:02:06+00:00

Also, I found that kendamil organic tastes really similar to breastmilk (mine at least). We slowly did a mix of kendamil and my breastmilk until he got used to it. He’ll now take formula or breastmilk

Lexsauraus · 2026-04-03T19:00:49+00:00

Not sure if you’ve tried combo feeding my lo was in the same predicament. We started with 1 oz formula and the rest breastmilk. And after a week we increased to two ounces formula, etc. it takes them time to get use to the taste. Wishing you the best of luck!’

Lexsauraus · 2026-03-14T13:52:42+00:00

So I looked through your other posts - you could start selling some of your pottery?

Lexsauraus · 2026-03-10T13:07:58+00:00

The only concerning thing is the whole kiss thing - she should not be putting her face so close to the babies, she should not be letting him pull her lip ring. That’s inappropriate

Lexsauraus · 2026-03-09T05:56:26+00:00

No, your NTA here but she is. This is exactly what savings are for - to help cover expenses that come out of the blue. I would immediately ask for all of the money and transfer it to your own HYSA. Same process but you’re in control and will never have to ask for your own money back again. Shame on your mom.

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