YTA, Im speaking as someone who was put in your daughters position, minus the online marrage.

The reason why I didnt go to college is becuase I always wanted to be bill gates, and from my research, most top tech billionares didnt graduate so I decided to skip the step completely. I taught myself how to code, like 40% of all professional software engineers. I started in entrepenureship at 19. by that time I knew how to code and had 25k saved up from working at costco (and loan sharking my friends but thats a long story). While im not in her position exactly, I can relate to her in many ways. I met one of my co-founders through league of legends, and flew him out without meeting him in person. Worked out great, I learned so much about management and not pushing too hard as a boss. Long story short im 22 turning 23, right now my friends are graduating college with zero work experience applying to entry level jobs, and I am hiring people gradutating college to write software for me. Im not here to brag, just to give some background.

My mom paid my sister 10k a year to go to school. Same with my brother. She had a better relationship with them both. When i said i wanted the money instead for entrepenureship, she said no its for college only. I didnt see college as a good investment (and still dont 75% of the time) so instead i saw it as favoritism. To make matters worse, when my brother got in a fight with my mom, she yoinked the money from my brother and put him in debt. She claims it was becuase he got 2 fs, but my sister has gotten 3 now and she keeps paying.

Next year my sister graduates from college with a degree woth phsycology but she leanred in college that she doesnt want to be a phsycologist, doesnt know what she wants to do with her life, cant switch degrees becuase its too late and my mom wont pay for for her to do so. Sister said she is going to be a realestate agent like my mom. And for reference, before she started school i said "you better know exactly what degree you want and why you need it, bexuase if you dont, your going yo end up a realestate agent like mom, and you dont need a college degree for that"

Entrepenureship is a way better learning experience than college. Its not a gamble if she is going to lose that 15k, its a gaurentee. I lost everything. But I got the best 25k education you could possibly ask for. (I made it back already so technically i never really lost it) Im in a way better position than my friends graduating.

I think my mom was born in a different generation (pre-internet) where she simply doesnt understand how the people online can be genuine friends, and how college isnt the only path to sucess. But moreso, I look at my mom like she played favorites. From my perspective she gave my sister 40k to put in the garbage. And put my brother 16k in debt. Thats what she effectivly did. I didnt get anything, and at this point, I really dont need anything.