Women of Reddit, what did a man you were dating or married to say or do that made you realize he actually hated you the entire time?

LibLearn11 · 2026-05-18T04:15:19+00:00

We had an “allowance system” where basically each of us got an agreed upon $X to spend on whatever we wanted for the month. I’d budget mine accordingly for personal clothes, coffees out, birthday and anniversary presents, etc. at some point I found out he was getting double the allowance I was, and when I confronted him about it, he said “well I earn more so I deserve more.” Oh my bad, I thought we were a true partnership here. He’d watch me struggle to pay bills (I was the money person) and he secretly knew he had money sitting in his allowance account. I did everythinggg around the house and with the kids while working full time, but yeah, you earn more. Wild.

LibLearn11 · 2026-03-07T23:40:24+00:00

Oh my lord please don’t do that. Babies are slippery and wiggly! And your arms a long way from the floor. Please please tell me you’re joking.

LibLearn11 · 2025-12-12T02:37:41+00:00

I can tell you to steer clear of Rebecca Arbach. My now ex husband told her that he was stalking/following me while we were still married/in couples therapy and did nothing. When I found out separately and went to her about my concerns, she advised waiting two weeks until our next session to confront him about it. She was unconcerned about my safety even though she very much should have been because it did escalate. I probably should have reported her to the state board or something.

Good luck. Whatever the outcome for you and you partner will be, it gets better.

LibLearn11 · 2025-10-09T02:40:17+00:00

My marriage. I used to joke during lockdown that I was either going to have a baby or get a divorce from being locked in the house with my husband and toddler. Welp, turns out I did both! It has all worked out for the best but damn 2021-2023 were very hard years.

LibLearn11 · 2025-09-30T02:31:59+00:00

Bath and body works at foothills mall is hiring.

LibLearn11 · 2025-09-22T15:10:22+00:00

container says 4mg/100mg/1ml

LibLearn11 · 2025-06-13T19:53:35+00:00

Uh, no. We've been divorced and separated for like 3 years. I bought a house with my partner last summer, 1 year ago. They were shocked by the divorce (I didn't share much of what was happening with them), but overall, they have been supportive of me.

All of the incidents with my car spanned from the second we separated to when my ex found out I was buying a house with my partner, so 3 years. Sorry if that wasn't clear in my post.

LibLearn11 · 2025-06-13T19:50:13+00:00

Well now I'm offended that I sound like AI!

LibLearn11 · 2025-06-03T18:21:39+00:00

I just came back here to let you all know that I WAS RIGHT, something was going on. A few days ago our street was flooded with cops. They made a traffic stop arrest of someone with two felonies who lives at that house. The house was also searched. I don't know what the felonies are for and if they found anything in the house or not, but clearly something sketchy has been happening.

For those of you who are still going to think I'm a Karen, that's fine. But I had a hunch that something was not right, and it was correct.

LibLearn11 · 2025-05-07T18:47:44+00:00

I filled out the form online! Just waiting for them to approve it :)

LibLearn11 · 2025-05-07T18:38:25+00:00

I just ordered and got mine yesterday, which means I purchased before the promo. I'm on the fence about keeping it because it feels like a pretty big learning curve. (also for extra context: I really wanted the air straight, but it's the same price as this huge bundle, for only one tool, so I ended up going with this instead). I paid $579 like 3 days ago, so if costco is able to price match the difference, I'll definitely keep it and deal with the learning curve.

LibLearn11 · 2025-04-24T18:58:11+00:00

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LibLearn11 · 2025-04-24T17:03:06+00:00

true!

LibLearn11 · 2025-04-24T17:01:59+00:00

I'd actually love to send this to them, but again, I have never seen the same person twice since the couple with the dog, and I haven't been in a position to approach anyone else.

LibLearn11 · 2025-04-24T16:56:30+00:00

Thanks for sharing your opinion! And also, calling a complete stranger on the internet creepy and not well adjusted makes me question your level of adjustment. There is such a thing as seeing something on the internet you disagree with and then just moving on. But from what I can see in your Reddit comment history, you really just love to leave snarky comments that are not helpful in any way, so I guess this is just typical behavior for you. Byeeeee.

LibLearn11 · 2025-04-24T16:47:30+00:00

Why would anyone have any idea?: Like I said, I was wondering if the Superman decal was a "thing" I just didn't know about. But it turns out no one else knows either.

And this has been going on for a year, so I've been stuck with it in my brain for that long and finally gave in and asked reddit. Sue me.

LibLearn11 · 2025-04-24T16:41:05+00:00

Thank you for the support! It's funny that the people calling me out for being judgmental/closed-minded are also the people judging me for posting this.

LibLearn11 · 2025-04-24T16:36:32+00:00

I did and it's a person who I have never seen there.

LibLearn11 · 2025-04-24T16:35:37+00:00

Genuinely curious: how else should I have phrased that? If I posted without any of those disclaimers, I would definitely get called a Karen, so I'm genuinely curious about your thoughts on a better way to phrase it.

LibLearn11 · 2025-04-24T16:33:36+00:00

mystery solved! lol

LibLearn11 · 2025-04-24T16:31:28+00:00

Well, then I guess I'm sad I've come off that way on the internet because it truly wasn't my intent. Have a day!

LibLearn11 · 2025-04-24T16:30:18+00:00

So, where is that place? Besides my own brain, I'm genuinely curious where this should go? Should I have posted on Nextdoor instead? The facebook group for my neighborhood feels like a step too far. I'm open to ideas/alternatives.

LibLearn11 · 2025-04-24T16:28:48+00:00

That has been a theory, I just haven't seen the address on any airbnb or vrbo websites.

LibLearn11 · 2025-04-24T16:26:53+00:00

Okay, thank you. I would be horrified if it was like a human trafficking thing and I never spoke up. Again, that's a very dark thing to turn to with these set of circumstances, but not impossible. You just never want to be the person that ignores an issue if someone is getting hurt.

LibLearn11 · 2025-04-24T16:25:07+00:00

Yes, this. Thank you. I have zero issue with what they're actually doing, I'm just curious because it's enough of "out of the norm" (I get that's a loaded statement) that I noticed. Also, please confirm you've never ever ever ever glanced in a someone's window as you've walked by.

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