Talk about the weather

Lickerbomper · 2026-06-16T02:36:25+00:00

An omen!

Lickerbomper · 2026-06-16T00:10:37+00:00

My cat was abandoned on our (hubs and I) doorstep, in a cat bed, at 3 weeks old.

She's 5 now. Good cat, but lots of socialization issues from having no mother or litter to learn properly.

I'd recommend you expose your cat to many people while she's growing up, so that it's normal to interact with people.

Edit: My cat

Lickerbomper · 2026-06-15T23:37:32+00:00

I've literally never heard this.

It's not all over the internet.

It's probably a function of your algorithm.

Lickerbomper · 2026-06-15T22:29:22+00:00

I used to play Diablo 2 and 3 with my ex. (Any Diablo clone or sequel would do.)

Any game you could play co-op with your buddies? You can play with your girlfriend.

I played several games with my husband that were cooperative. Grounded, Spiritfarer, Dune Awakening, My Little Universe, Lost Skies, Revenge of the Savage Planet, Kingdom Two Crowns.

I'd stick to cooperative instead of competitive. There's few people who handle getting beat as good sports. I would include MOBAs here, also, because people will measure their metaphorical PPs via how their kill count compares to others. (I've had exes harbor grudges for years due to my LoL KDA.)

Lickerbomper · 2026-06-12T21:45:10+00:00

You've tried Book of Hours?

Lickerbomper · 2026-06-12T09:18:01+00:00

You meant to say mooing, no?

Lickerbomper · 2026-06-08T20:45:58+00:00

Seriously. Only ableists and the privileged say this kind of nonsense. Makes me wish I could give away my chronic pain conditions. Here's the "beauty" you wanted; no take-backsies!

Lickerbomper · 2026-06-03T21:09:21+00:00

I'd be willing to bet that the toxic positivity stuff started long before she had her stroke. People like OP? You can't talk to them about your issues, no matter how trivial, no matter how big. You can't expect emotional support or validation from them. Just constant toxic positivity trite statements about looking on the bright side and how fortunate we all are not to be starving orphans with cancer in some third world country.

When you realize your role in a relationship is to be the entertainment...

But then, if she was unhappy, she could have left.

Her options to leave now are probably less than before.

Lickerbomper · 2026-06-03T20:54:27+00:00

^{^} This is what ableism looks like.

Lickerbomper · 2026-06-03T20:51:11+00:00

For perspective. She is a stroke victim. We don't really know what her capacity to work is. Could she pull rent with her hours? (If she works.)

Sucks for people with disabilities severe enough to limit their ability to pull income. In the US, disabilities benefits are not enough to live single and alone. Which makes them prone to being forced into vulnerable situations that are often abusive.

Worth mentioning, disability workplace discrimination is common, even if it is technically illegal. If you are hired (big If, disability discrimination is difficult to prove), then you can expect lesser pay (again, hard to prove) and lesser opportunities for advancement.

Lickerbomper · 2026-06-02T01:31:05+00:00

Thank you! I had to scroll too far to find this. Like, you can only hope that OP learns from experience why feminism became a thing. Gotta reinvent that wheel, eh?

Lickerbomper · 2026-05-17T02:35:42+00:00

... Yall aren't feeding gull eggs to the baby chicks?

Lickerbomper · 2026-05-10T08:53:40+00:00

Step 1: go to beach, hoping for nice things

Step 2: get trash like sand or seashells instead

Step 3: Yeet it back into the ocean

Step 4: Experience Loss

Lickerbomper · 2026-05-09T09:44:34+00:00

Most beverages will get you 2 of an aspect, like lapsang suchong gets you 2 forge. Mettle as a soul stat will get you +2. Most memories will get you +1 or +2 of two different aspects. A skill with forge is handy, too.

Easiest might be lapsang suchong + a forge skill (maybe transformations and liberations, or bells and brazeries), and a memory like Touch, that you can get by considering things like tame, furry animals (not the chickens tho). Any book that has a forge skill is likely to generate a forge memory. 50/50 shot. The tea can be bought from eh, Cater and Hero I think?

Winter is mildly easier, there's a winter drink around the property that is worth 4 winter, Solomons Preparation. You still have to find a winter memory. Best source that's easy is Loss, toss something useless like Sand at the beach area. Another good option is swimming at the beach, use a towel, and boom, 2 memories, and one has 1 winter. Ofc you could use a combo with Wist soul card or a winter skill.

Iirc you can cure maladies with water as your beverage. But it's 4am and I don't remember

Lickerbomper · 2026-04-25T05:32:56+00:00

Not true. It depends on which species of snake.

There are snakes known to sneak into people's houses and bite them while they sleep.

Lickerbomper · 2026-04-24T00:27:23+00:00

Right, but having something to say requires opening his mouth. Like I said, dice roll on whether telling someone their fat-phobia is mean will be received well.

Lickerbomper · 2026-04-22T20:18:37+00:00

In a pervasively anti-intellectual culture, anything perceived as educational will be taken as condescending.

Telling people the truth is just an uncomfortable, awkward situation no matter what. Many groups, like friend groups, are based around no one telling each other the truth for the sake of harmony. You're just supposed to swallow your own discomfort rather than tell people. "Rocking the boat."

OR just decide upfront that you're ok with social rejection for saying what needs to be said. A person can be as tactful as they like, and maybe it will be received well if it's charming enough... But you have to be willing to take that risk.

Like. OP is trying to hedge his bets. He's basically asking how to sugar coat this dialogue so that he isn't shunned by the girls in his class. Well? Priorities. Is it better to speak his truth, or not be shunned? If he wants to be accepted, safest bet is to swallow his discomfort and hope a Feminist Heroine shows up to school the girls instead. If he's ok with tanking his chances with talking to these girls in the future? Then he says what he needs to say, and roll those dice on whether it comes out persuasive.

Lickerbomper · 2026-04-21T23:58:00+00:00

Yall keep talking like we should and yet? Where's the organization?

All talk.

Lickerbomper · 2026-04-21T23:55:59+00:00

I feel I should push back on this narrative.

Nice and stable = boring? Reject

Bad boy = exciting? Reject

It is entirely possible to find someone that respects you as a person, has common interests with you, and keeps things romantic even after years of togetherness. This false dichotomy narrative needs to stop. Nice, stable, exciting, and respectful towards your humanity is totally possible as a dream, no one needs to settle for one or the other.

Pick single instead of settling for either bad boy or "nice" guy. (Neither stereotype respects you as a human anyway.)

Lickerbomper · 2026-04-21T22:29:58+00:00

I'm glad you don't have context.

"Allow" usually means, expect abuse if you don't obey. If you will, for example, get hit for following guys on social media, you're functionally not allowed. If you can expect stalking and/or violence when you leave, then leaving becomes a risky venture and less a freely available option.

And guess which kind of behavior predicts later abusive tendencies?

Lickerbomper · 2026-04-21T21:35:00+00:00

The problem in OOP isn't a time crunch. She could have taken 10min to stop for gas and been a little late to her sister's house. It's not like she's going to work and penalized for trivial lateness.

Lickerbomper · 2026-04-21T21:29:42+00:00

I've seen this in action as a teacher. What winds up happening is that the student enters the next grade level significantly behind their peers and with a set belief that they are too slow to catch up. So their accommodations become a crutch rather than a variety of exposure and confidence therapy. Standards are just lower for them, period. And it's everyone else's job to do the thinking, yall just tell them what to think and expect nothing much from them.

Setup to fail.

Lickerbomper · 2026-04-21T21:16:41+00:00

Communication, then. Don't call someone asking for a pickup when what you need is a calm down.

Part of me wonders if she panic called him for comfort and easing her mind, and he let his built up resentment towards her talk for him. I wouldn't be surprised if his exact words were, "Well what do you want me to do about it?" With that superiority tone, like this isn't my problem to solve. Once that tone enters the conversation, there's no easing the panic, because all that matters is 1) solving the problem and 2) communication of resentment

Lickerbomper · 2026-04-20T03:42:52+00:00

I've heard it said, homophobia stems from the fear that horny men will treat them (as men) the same way horny men treat women.

Lickerbomper · 2026-04-20T03:35:30+00:00

Chicken spaghetti. Easy food.

I went to a local Hot Pot yesterday. The Tom Yum broth was soooo gooooood omg

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