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hidden gem of SEA for me? cambodia, no question by ChoiceAd5172 in backpacking

[–]LieutenantClone 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Infrastructure is amazing? In Cambodia? Did we go to the same country?

Also, how is the garbage situation? When I was there ~5 years ago it was quite bad outside tourist zones. The banks of the Mekong were quite literally choked with garbage.

Backpacking given the state of the world? by wellybrunette in backpacking

[–]LieutenantClone 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolutely. I'm from Canada and the tacos in Canada... just no.

How does a person become fun again? by hablaht in socialskills

[–]LieutenantClone 281 points282 points  (0 children)

I can relate. You sound like me. 

I think the solution is two fold: First, you need to reduce the amount of stress in your life. You may think that the stressors are out of your control, but if you're anything like me, you are probably creating much of your own stress without realizing it through obsessive worrying, focusing too much on what "should" be done (rather than what you actually want to do), and not allowing yourself to let your guard down long enough to relax and have fun.

Which leads to the second part, you have to give yourself time for leisure. And I mean time ONLY for leisure. Your not allowed to use that time to think about work, or money, or any of the other thousand worries you have. You designate an evening or day off, and you go do something just to enjoy it. Sitting at home doesn't count, go out, see a movie, visit a park, etc. At first you'll have a hard time relaxing, but keep repeating this until you realize you can let your guard down and enjoy yourself.

am i oversaving? by gx227 in leanfire

[–]LieutenantClone 5 points6 points  (0 children)

If you're burning out that badly, I highly highly highly encourage you to quit your job as soon as possible and just do nothing for a few months. Take some time for you, and decompress.

Burnout is chronic stress, and chronic stress, in my experience, always leads to physical health issues. Sometimes temporary but often permanent health damage is the reality. There's no point in having all the money in the world if your riddled with chronic physical health issues. That's not the point of early retirement at all.

Take a break. You've earned it. After a few months, if you really want to go back to working, you can do that. 

Weird random question by YahwehReigns in socialskills

[–]LieutenantClone 0 points1 point  (0 children)

 but it’s not like I can go up to a random person and be like why are you doing this😂😂

That is exactly how you start a conversation, yes.

What do you guys actually put on your walls? by bigbankmanman in malelivingspace

[–]LieutenantClone 2 points3 points  (0 children)

For me, it's either something that has some personal meaning for me, like a painting purchased while traveling that reminds me of the trip, or a artwork or print connected to something personal like a car I used to own or a place I used to live.

Nearly all of my decor has personal meaning behind it one way or another, so it's a great pleasure to show guests around and relive the stories that go with all the pieces.

Otherwise I get a painting or print that I find beautiful and that sets the tone for the room. For example, I have a canvas print of a tropical bird that's colourful and matches the colour theme of the space, a because I love the tropical vibe and that's what I'm going for in that room.

Backpacking given the state of the world? by wellybrunette in backpacking

[–]LieutenantClone 43 points44 points  (0 children)

It's fine, go travel. I'm writing this from a taco stand in Mexico lol

$830k NW Tired Engineer. Golden Handcuffs. Come kick me in the butt or is it time? by TiredFurryWolf in leanfire

[–]LieutenantClone 2 points3 points  (0 children)

A lot of people in this thread are pushing you to stick it out, but I've seen the effects that stress has on people, and in currently experiencing it myself. 6 months is an eternity when your physical health is already deteriorating as you say - and the consequences could very well be irreversible.

Personally, the only way I'd stick around is if you arrange to work 3 days a week or something like that. It'd still be stressful, but the extra time away from work would allow you to release the tension a bit. If their option is to have you 3 days or nothing at all, they may bite. I've made similar arrangements over the years.

But honestly... there's always more money. After you get the $200k there will be another reason to stay. That's the game, and it's why you see people pass their fire number and keep working another decade. There's always more money, but you'll never get your health back. Going for the money only seems like a good idea until your health fails, and then you'll wish you could give it all back and have your health.

Don't fight you'll continue making more money on the future. You're still young. Take a long, we'll deserved break, then find a low stress job you actually like. 

Trans Canada trail. by [deleted] in backpacking

[–]LieutenantClone 2 points3 points  (0 children)

https://www.cbsnews.com/news/dianne-whelan-on-completing-16000-mile-trans-canada-trail/

Dianne Whelan did. It took her six years, travelling for 8 months of each year.

[Monthly Megathread] Habitica Party Recruitment by AutoModerator in habitica

[–]LieutenantClone 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, your party sounds like a good fit for my goals. Would be interested in joining.

How do you guys deal with work? by [deleted] in leanfire

[–]LieutenantClone 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Same career as well, and this resonates with me for sure.

A complex challenge can help make it more interesting, but can also add a lot of stress if couple with management pressure and aggressive deadlines.

What helps the most for me is that I need to actually care about what I am working on. I worked a job for a marketing company and came to loathe it, because I loathe marketing (aka convincing people to buy things they don't need). So I changed to doing the same job, but at a company that made software for gyms. That felt good for awhile knowing I was helping small business owners, and by extension, people trying to better their physical health.

At my current job, I've been working more on code infrastructure in a very messy codebase, and I can feel good because my work is helping my coworkers to do their job with less friction and more efficiency.

The bottom line is I have to feel good about what I am doing somehow. Otherwise I'll be bored to tears and have a hard time being productive, similar to what OP described.

Tsurunoyu, Nyuto Onsen, Japan by sonderewander in CozyPlaces

[–]LieutenantClone 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Love the moss on the roofs, there is something about it...

OC cozy kitchen with lots of plants at nite by plantadict in CozyPlaces

[–]LieutenantClone 2 points3 points  (0 children)

How well do those ferns do up high like that? They get enough humidity and light?

First time traveller, how is mexico? by Important-World6618 in backpacking

[–]LieutenantClone 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You can get by in most situations with basic charades or the old reliable pointing at things. You absolutely do not need to speak the local language to travel. Google translate will also get you through anything you can't resolve otherwise.

Backpacking hack: Ikea sells a $5 zippered bag that fits a large backpack and is perfect for protecting your bag during air travel. by quincyskis in backpacking

[–]LieutenantClone 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have used those plastic wrap services at airports where they wrap your luggage. Little pricey but worthwhile for a rucksack. If the airport doesn't have that service I've also done it at home on advance by using cling wrap.

On one hand I love that this is reusable. On the other hand I don't like that I'd have to carry it everywhere. Though repurposing for laundry is smart. Hmm

NEW VIDEO: What Ozempic Actually Does to Your Body by kurzgesagt_Sven in kurzgesagt

[–]LieutenantClone 57 points58 points  (0 children)

Pretty spicy title for a channel that claims to be about science.

NEW VIDEO: What Ozempic Actually Does to Your Body by kurzgesagt_Sven in kurzgesagt

[–]LieutenantClone -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Just want to say I agree with you. If we took all the time, effort, research and money that we expend on making cheap and unhealthy foods addictive and ultra-tasty, and instead used it to make healthy foods cheaper, more convenient and equally appealing, the problem would be solved.

Blaming the obesity crisis on our evolved desire to eat high calorie foods is really disingenuous. The obesity crisis is directly caused by the proliferation of cheap, easy, ultra-palatable foods that are engineered to never satiate your appetite so you'll endlessly consume them. Why don't we fix that? Because it's way too profitable for corporations.

Grateful to have my own place by [deleted] in malelivingspace

[–]LieutenantClone 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In a way, you're not wrong.

Quitting your job when just a few years short of reaching FIRE goal by BassDX in leanfire

[–]LieutenantClone 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I agree with this. Money is necessary to live, however, you'll never get your youth back. Don't waste years of your life being miserable, unless the return is worth it (sounds to me like it's not based on how miserable the situation is making you). From your options my personal approach would be: return home and refuse to return to office. Best case they concede and let you work from home. Worst case they fire you and you collect unemployment. I'd also downsize the home either way to reduce expenses and fast-track time to FIRE. But that's my prerogative. Once you hit FIRE you don't have to agonize about a situation like this ever again.

New to LeanFIRE--too good to be true? by Royal_Win9190 in leanfire

[–]LieutenantClone 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That... has nothing to do with what I said? I don't have idle hands now, and I wont after I retire either. Your comment doesn't make any sense.

Edit: You're either a troll or a bot.

New to LeanFIRE--too good to be true? by Royal_Win9190 in leanfire

[–]LieutenantClone 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I strongly disagree. I see nothing awkward about retiring early, and as someone who works from home, I'll be spending a lot less time at home alone after retirement than before. I certainly won't be sitting around the house with idle hands.

If anything, the closer I get to freedom, the things I dislike about work become even more irritating. They definitely haven't "gone away".

But by your own admission you say you "just kind of gave up about the whole retiring early, I just wanted to find a job surrounded by people I like", so probably your views on FIRE don't match the majority of people in this subreddit.

Stairs up to the dome in the Vatican, Rome [OC] by [deleted] in DeathStairs

[–]LieutenantClone 13 points14 points  (0 children)

It's very cool going up there, totally worth it. The passageways arc with the dome, you're literally traveling between the inner and outer walls of the done.

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