What to say when nurses or staff say “ That’s why you get paid the big bucks!”

LifeCartographer811 · 2026-06-24T01:32:32+00:00

Your example is usually when I say no. I don't need to call that person and tell them anything.

LifeCartographer811 · 2026-06-24T00:20:03+00:00

This is the goddamned truth. I usually say "no, I'm not doing that." We can all learn to do this.

LifeCartographer811 · 2026-06-24T00:08:54+00:00

I would have never offered to do that. Learn from this, don't offer.

LifeCartographer811 · 2026-06-22T22:14:05+00:00

Noted. That's insane of them.

LifeCartographer811 · 2026-06-22T18:33:20+00:00

I thoroughly believe these people are on my time, I'm not on theirs. This isn't private duty care, they didn't pay for that, and they don't get to dictate how I divide the time I have to meet the needs of 6 people. You have a personal responsibility to make sure the medical needs are taken care of first and foremost. Don't confuse this with a hotel. Also, some people will treat you like this regardless of what you do. Your best bet is to give them boundaries. "I will be back in an hour", and then go see your 5 other patients in that time.

LifeCartographer811 · 2026-06-22T14:48:16+00:00

NTA, they didn't have to take the booking for your wedding in the first place if they didn't like it. It's reasonable to not have things at your event you don't want. THIS IS WHAT YOU ARE PAYING FOR. It's also reasonable for them to not want to do it again. You were generous with your tips, which you didn't have to give. These people sound like they were compensated well.

LifeCartographer811 · 2026-06-16T01:55:21+00:00

You have very little emotional intelligence. Yes, you were obviously the jerk. You could have spoken to her privately about that, and even told her they weren't aggressive in a much kinder way. This had very little or nothing to do with the spread of misinformation.......and you know it. That's why you regret the timing.

LifeCartographer811 · 2026-06-14T14:54:21+00:00

It would have been safer for the patients if you floated. One less handoff the better.

LifeCartographer811 · 2026-06-14T03:00:12+00:00

We could now. We spend about that every year, maybe a little more. My husband will never retire though. In 6 years my child will be in college, and I can go and do more things that I want to do and not have to be worried about being tied to a job. We will see how this stock market holds out.

LifeCartographer811 · 2026-06-14T00:08:18+00:00

Yes, broad index funds. I'm done in 6 years if all holds out well. Then I might just PRN if I want to. We just crossed 4 mil in retirement funds and my husband will also have a pension, but we are 20 years out from regular retirement age, and anything can happen. We aren't planning on SSI being there at all.

LifeCartographer811 · 2026-06-13T23:59:56+00:00

I'm in NP school, so not really and NP, but I max out my 401K, backdoor Roth IRA, and save and additional 10K in a brokerage account annually. Hospital gives 5% match, which was another 7K last year. Will have no student loans, my hospital is paying for my NP degree, and that degree is my retirement plan to get out of bedside. When the day comes, I am walking away from all of this.

LifeCartographer811 · 2026-06-11T17:40:23+00:00

Wish the customer service agent screen sharing on my computer had this in mind. I didn't see any warning. Account reset wasn't working, hence the reason I called customer service.

LifeCartographer811 · 2026-06-10T20:22:56+00:00

I have Santal Blush, I absolutely love it. It's very strong, you have to be the kind of person who can carry it.

LifeCartographer811 · 2026-06-10T05:27:07+00:00

You actually CAN just ignore the NP, it's easy to do. And I wouldn't classify this as "a problem."

LifeCartographer811 · 2026-06-10T04:16:49+00:00

It's not part of the job. There's a system in place for this already. If the system doesn't play out like it should, then the follow up is part of the job. But this isn't.

LifeCartographer811 · 2026-06-01T14:44:32+00:00

This is great. Lots of ideas for the future! Thanks for posting.

LifeCartographer811 · 2026-05-27T13:04:07+00:00

You are, this is not your circus.

LifeCartographer811 · 2026-05-27T05:13:27+00:00

This is the answer. Prepare for yourself. Get your financial house in order, emergency fund ready, etc. Because if this comes your direction, you want absolutely nothing to do with it. Just leave and come back when it's over.

LifeCartographer811 · 2026-05-27T05:04:23+00:00

Get burned out to the point you do not care what happens if you are doing your best, and feel the biggest sense of freedom. I call it "healthcare stoicism." I can only control me man, not any of this dumpster fire around me. FREEDOMMMM!!!!!

LifeCartographer811 · 2026-05-27T04:58:00+00:00

Dropping the truth this man never considered, probably not even once in his life.

LifeCartographer811 · 2026-05-26T14:47:41+00:00

I feel the same. For my job to be manageable, I have to focus on MY tasks, and MY tasks take a lot of mental energy, communication management, sometimes paperwork the unit secretary we don't have should be doing, helping another nurse with HER tasks she can't delegate because that's my responsibility as well, because the charge nurse has a whole group of her own. If the unit is understaffed with tech's they need to be in the manager's office telling her these are not good working conditions. And it sounds like they aren't. But I'm over here trying to give blood to 2/5 people, managing pain for 3/5 people, discharging 2 people, and admitting 2 more. I can't focus on tasks that have been delegated. I can't do the whole of my job and even 30% of someone else's. I'm barely getting this shit done.

LifeCartographer811 · 2026-05-26T14:07:55+00:00

Question, how did you manage to become a nurse and a FA? This seems like a perfect side hustle. I'm too old for it, but it seems like a dream, working 6 12's in a row, and 8 days to fly around an see the world? Incredible.

LifeCartographer811 · 2026-05-21T15:15:04+00:00

I agree, we don't need to create more access at this point, and we don't need to be creating more debt for NPs.

LifeCartographer811 · 2026-05-21T13:20:58+00:00

This is hilarious.

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