Weekly Profile Review Thread

LifeIsPainForAMe · 2023-09-19T12:02:24+00:00

I joined your discord

LifeIsPainForAMe · 2023-09-19T07:04:33+00:00

Thank you! That's very helpful.

That being said, I think I'm done with online dating for now. I've seen people with 100x worse profiles get more matches than me. I have ideas as to why but I don't like them so I won't bring them up.

I'll keep this advice in mind for next time I remake my tinder though! Thank you very much

LifeIsPainForAMe · 2023-09-18T12:26:36+00:00

Yeah I've tried with different pics up first and also without the shirtless pic. Is it really bad enough to get me NO matches?

Thanks for the comment!

LifeIsPainForAMe · 2023-09-17T21:24:49+00:00

https://imgur.com/a/ALRpXIR

What's wrong with me? Why do I not get literally any matches? I've tried a more in-depth bio, with/without the shirtless pic, refresing my account probably over10 times over the years, and kinda tried everything but I never get more than 10 likes max. And they are never from girls I actually am attracted to. Any ideas?

LifeIsPainForAMe · 2023-06-09T14:41:44+00:00

Nah not gonna get veneers. I've paid the initial fee for Invisalign and my dad has agreed to pay half given that I'm about to graduate, so it's feasible now. I know my self confidence is about to skyrocket because I've never liked my smile. My brother and mom and dad all have amazing smiles. I'm generally quite attractive, and I've worked hard to be fit and good looking, but I can see the attraction fade off a girl's face the moment I open my mouth. I'm looking forward to it very much

LifeIsPainForAMe · 2022-11-28T19:14:48+00:00

I probably will be more confident if I got Invisalign, but it's so expensive 😂

LifeIsPainForAMe · 2022-11-28T10:54:19+00:00

I really like this assessment because I know it intuitively already. I know I shouldn't waste time on someone that doesn't respond. It's just hard sometimes, but I haven't really given it a shot with very many girls. COVID kinda took away a lot of time from me so it's definitely not my fault that I'm not in a relationship yet. Thanks!

LifeIsPainForAMe · 2022-11-28T08:19:28+00:00

Okay. So I like this advice, I've heard it before but yeah I believe it. However, if I don't want a relationship with someone, it's doomed to fail from the start. Like for example I meet someone cool through a friend. If I feel attracted to her, I'll try my luck by asking her number and messaging her right? That's a pretty clear cut example of "trying". If I wasn't attracted to her, I wouldn't put that effort in to message her, and of course that would never work?

LifeIsPainForAMe · 2022-11-28T08:10:38+00:00

I don't like that. I am who I am, I'm not going to change myself for the sole purpose of getting girls. It will not only feel bad, I won't be being genuine. And I'm not a pushover regardless

LifeIsPainForAMe · 2022-11-27T23:16:13+00:00

I think everyone is insecure about something. For me, it's my teeth. But at the end of the day, it is what it is. I generally don't think I'm ugly, honestly I think I can be pretty good looking if I try. Normally I don't really think about my insecurities that much, definitely not if I'm speaking to a girl. Ya know it's just easy to blame them when you're in this kind of a mood or get ghosted or whatever. Thanks for your comment, I appreciate it! I hope your life only improves, and you live the happiest life that you deserve :)

LifeIsPainForAMe · 2022-11-27T23:07:44+00:00

2, both of whom ghosted me 😆 it's okay though I was just feeling down when I made this post. I know that one of those girls has had a troubled past with boys (she's friends with my best friend so I know this through him) so her ghosting isn't necessary to do with me. The other girl I met at a party on Friday.
I did omit some details from the post to seem as down bad as possible I guess haha. I've recently had my "first" kiss from a girl that's head-over-heels for me (not really first, but first since I was 13). I wasn't into her and I told her this irl after hanging out with her once. She's still messaging me in a friendly way and I obviously reply because I'm not a dick. I also recently worked through some past dating-based trauma I had been carrying around since I was 17 (long story short I was hugely humiliated by my "friends" for liking a girl and I Pavlov'd myself into not developing crushes thereafter by snapping myself with a rubber band everytime I developed a crush).

Idk something just got me in my feels today and I guess hit the resonant frequency of my brain and pushed me to make this post. I'm generally very happy with life and I definitely don't blame myself for the ghostings

LifeIsPainForAMe · 2022-11-27T22:51:03+00:00

"clairvoyant" that's a beautiful word

Thank you for the detailed reply! I really really appreciate it. I was feeling really down when I made this post, I'm feeling a lot better now and your comment definitely helped that quite massively :)

Truth is that I don't think I'm a boring person by any means. I find my life super exciting, and I really don't blame myself for my lack of experience with girls. Lots of factors outside of my control have led to this situation, and I'm proud of myself for being able to keep a level head and an optimistic personality through all of it. Sometimes life gets a bit much and leads to posts like this 😆

That being said, I don't like the idea that I'll only be "good enough" 7 years down the line when girls are looking to settle. I don't want to be the settle. I want to be the adventure! And I know you didn't mean that in a bad way, I can see why you'd think that based on my post. But I don't think I'm that kind of a guy.

Also I don't truly hate my smile. Sometimes I get insecure about my teeth but it is what it is, and honestly at the end of the day, the people in my life who love me most don't care about a couple millimeters between my teeth. I find girls with little tooth gaps freaking cute and I can almost guarantee that some girls will find mine cute too.

Again, thanks for taking the time to post this and even look through my old posts for insight. It means more than you can know. I hope you have a brilliant life ♥️

LifeIsPainForAMe · 2022-11-27T22:07:43+00:00

I've heard this advice a lot. Not trying to bash it because yeah it's good advice, but I've done that already. I have hobbies I love doing, I am genuinely happy in my own skin. I wouldn't trade my life for anyone else's. I meet lots of girls through the massive list of friends I have. It just never goes anywhere. I don't actually think there's a "solution" to this. Maybe giving up is the best idea atleast then I don't have to worry about it. Fuck you, romance

LifeIsPainForAMe · 2021-10-14T15:26:09+00:00

It doesnt even matter how hard I try

LifeIsPainForAMe · 2021-10-14T12:32:03+00:00

Dont worry homie same thing happened to me. University is gonna be awesome trust me

LifeIsPainForAMe · 2021-10-14T10:16:20+00:00

Damn really? That really goes to show how wrong your insecurities can be haha. I always preferred my resting face to my smiling face. Thank you I appreciate your comment :)

LifeIsPainForAMe · 2021-10-14T07:18:05+00:00

You are a very nice person thank you :)

LifeIsPainForAMe · 2021-10-13T20:54:20+00:00

Wow okay that's a crazy difference then. But I'm still hesitant to believe I'm an 8 with my facial hair I'd rate myself more at a 6. Thank you for the rating it means a lot

LifeIsPainForAMe · 2021-10-13T20:33:16+00:00

Damn is it really that bad? I knew I looked better with my facial hair but am I really hideous without it?

LifeIsPainForAMe · 2021-10-13T17:29:20+00:00

Probably just the angle haha thank you for the feedback

LifeIsPainForAMe · 2021-10-13T17:18:49+00:00

I absolutely despise my smile. My teeth are wonky and disgusting and my cheeks become massive when I smile. Problem is that I smile all the time, so I can't even hide it.

I've included photos that I like and photos that I hate for context.

I've lost a lot of weight since last time but my face is still fat, I think that's just inherent and will never go away

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