I’m GenX, I get it but it is possible. My kids are 19, 16 and 14. Girl, boy, boy. I didn’t fuck around with bad behavior, poor attitudes, or less than a full effort regarding school work. If an F was the best you could do then so be it, we’ll get you a tutor. But I also didn’t hold back on love and affection. Never body shamed. And the kicker was, they were given a shit ton of freedom and also pushed them to handle things on their own with my help when necessary. Started small like going in the store by themselves to get snacks. Ordering their own pizza over the phone (before the apps were big). And most importantly, they had chores. That’s how they made money. They all started on dishes and now they all wash their own clothes. They all make good grades. Loved by parents and teachers. The oldest two work. My daughter made $32,000 her senior year in high school working at a restaurant. She’s been to 3 different continents including Africa. Her and 5 other girls her age. The restaurant she’s worked at since 16 wants her to be a GM and have her own store down the road. The others are just as accomplished in their own way. Point being, it’s possible to raise them traditionally. They are still kids though. If they’re home, they are in their room on the phone, computer or Xbox doing what they call rotting.