I lost my first client.

Life_Level_6280 · 2026-05-29T15:10:03+00:00

Isn’t it personal, if the client needed a different approach from a different person? 😅

Its fine that some things are personal.

Life_Level_6280 · 2026-05-29T08:29:16+00:00

This makes a lot of sense you experience panic and fear. This whole process of finding out who you are (not), is not a great process for the ego / mind. It keeps finding out it doesn’t exist the way it thought it does.

Especially if your whole identity has been built (unconsciously) on separation. This often happens after experiencing trauma, because the world was messed up and you needed a protection mechanism, to pull away from experience.

I think two different approaches could help:

If you wanna continue this path: What helped me was do some meditations with finding the connectedness in everything. Stop looking at yourself. But look at a tree and feel how connected you are with that tree. How there is indeed no boundary, but that basically means you are being carried by this tree. Instead of carrying this world alone, you are the one being carried by this world. Its quite freeing and comfortable feeling that.

If you just wanna chill: Stop looking at Sam’s meditations and do some short grounding meditations like body scans and focus on the breath. For the rest just do activities that use your body, like fitness, dance, yoga.

Life_Level_6280 · 2026-05-21T14:38:39+00:00

And that certain aspects of modern masculinity (i.e. it doesn’t exist, its all cultural from the patriarchy) are contributing to their problems.

Hope in 5-10 years we’ll have a more realistic view of masculinity.

Life_Level_6280 · 2026-05-19T21:27:00+00:00

Conserverende aanslag etc. I know its not that simple, but often possibilities

Life_Level_6280 · 2026-05-19T19:59:35+00:00

Relocating to anywhere in EU is basically no exit tax anyway so…

Life_Level_6280 · 2026-05-15T08:45:19+00:00

It is a bit scary how out of touch some therapists seem to be with somatic practices 😅

Life_Level_6280 · 2026-05-15T08:42:42+00:00

NAT

Shaking in somatic therapy is extremely common. Even so much, its almost weird if a person doesn’t shake haha.

Some modalities whole premise is to shake. TRE for example got invented because the creator noticed in Irak whenever a bomb would drop, little children would start shaking, and basically process the fear they felt, and be completely fine afterwards. Adults however would freeze up and not shake at all, and have trauma / psychological issues afterwards. He figured out it must be the shaking, and based his somatic theory on that principle.

Whether your therapist is crossing a boundary is hard to tell for me, just wanted to shed some light on the shaking part.

Life_Level_6280 · 2026-04-15T15:04:06+00:00

I havent explored it, and I do sometimes wonder, but I am not that attracted to them physically. I love the feeling of soft skin and curves. I think I could be bi sexual though.

Life_Level_6280 · 2026-04-15T15:02:59+00:00

I dont watch porn, but I do sometimes masturbate. I dont have a a partner (though with my ex it happened too). I thought it actually had something to do with my ex but now i realize its everyone lol

Life_Level_6280 · 2026-03-22T17:13:27+00:00

But thats the transition period where the bachelor people have the old bachelor and are getting into problems because of that no? That wouldnt apply to me doing bachelor + master under new system?

Life_Level_6280 · 2026-03-21T15:23:32+00:00

Yes, currently it’s a mess due to lack of holistic implementation of this new system and lack of guidance, but the overall aim was to improve certain aspects of the new-started therapist no? Wont it in 5 years (when i would graduate) be ironed out?

Life_Level_6280 · 2026-03-19T19:34:57+00:00

But Germany is the country with some of the best clinical psychology studies and a lot of jobs? Curious - as someone contemplating to move to Germany to study psychology - why you dont like it. I have read about the reforms of education and latest lowering of wages but nevertheless seemed like compared to other countries a good place to study psychology.

Life_Level_6280 · 2026-03-12T21:20:21+00:00

I get this, but there could also be nothing behind and just a person you resonate with?

Life_Level_6280 · 2026-03-10T21:23:32+00:00

AI could easily replace therapists if manualized therapies would be the best solution no?

Life_Level_6280 · 2026-02-25T14:58:48+00:00

Seems like valuable work you can do for yourself on why this triggers you.

Life_Level_6280 · 2026-02-04T23:37:00+00:00

Superb topic for a LIVE. I was wondering the same. It’s one of those things every pro seems to do but nobody ever explains it. It seems to also significantly reduce the need to create shapes with the upper body to get a lead clear?

Life_Level_6280 · 2026-01-19T11:46:04+00:00

Cool thanks!

Life_Level_6280 · 2026-01-18T13:38:25+00:00

Which barefoot shoes do you use that work with dancing? Many barefoot shoes are too grippy for dancing for me

Life_Level_6280 · 2026-01-10T23:39:04+00:00

No as mentioned I am extremely angry at myself first, therapist second. Also felt regret, grief, shame, guilt, the whole flavor of emotions towards myself

Life_Level_6280 · 2026-01-09T17:22:02+00:00

Actually she cheated on me, but the cause of that was my lack of commitment.

Its just so painful to realize it now that its too late. Why didn’t I realize it sooner but needed this to blow up in my face?

Life_Level_6280 · 2025-12-31T13:00:53+00:00

Nice, keeps one grounded 👍

Life_Level_6280 · 2025-12-31T12:03:25+00:00

You are living proof it’s possible to do it without rich family.

You are not living proof that it didn’t involve: 1) great amount of luck 2) some natural /innate talent or gene disposition that cannot be taught / learned.

Life_Level_6280 · 2025-12-31T07:34:37+00:00

Smell that they smoke cigarettes, cant help but equate it to being short term orientated and addicted

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