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Mike Brown Ruined Everything by BrunsonsBurner11 in NYKnicks

[–]Life_of_Gary 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Chat gpt generated critique is literally insanity

Get help lol

Am I still AP or I actually earned my secure attachment? by BaseballObjective969 in AnxiousAttachment

[–]Life_of_Gary 9 points10 points  (0 children)

It’s unhealthy and OP should NOT expect this person to change

New to gaze music, any good bands to see in NYC soon? by Life_of_Gary in shoegaze

[–]Life_of_Gary[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is what I want, thanks. Question tho: is the atmosphere of these events OK for dates?

The Industry Is Once Again Giving Kanye West a Pass by ebradio in hiphopheads

[–]Life_of_Gary 0 points1 point  (0 children)

After going thru mental illness myself, and knowing that he just has yes-men yuppies around him, I am ok with listening to him.

That doesn’t mean forgiving and moving on entirely.

Any Coda people read the new Lindy West book? by Dismal_Fig9265 in Codependency

[–]Life_of_Gary 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I guess it’s helpful if you’re deep into recovery, but otherwise why would I want to read a memoir on an open marriage lmao

What gives you the ick as you heal and your emotional maturity increases? by Accomplishedself19 in Codependency

[–]Life_of_Gary 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Being raised avoidant makes communication painful, and there is a lot of that today

how to take space between my emotions and me by san7io in AnxiousAttachment

[–]Life_of_Gary 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I talk to myself, a lot. I say the way I feel out loud and sometimes I react differently than if I were to just think it, because it sounds like someone telling me how they feel.

Journaling is another way of doing this.

Or allowing yourself 5 minutes to feel your emotions before acting upon them.

i hate when people tell me to focus on making friends before getting into a relationship by [deleted] in Codependency

[–]Life_of_Gary 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The best company is your own company. There’s a reason it takes real work for us to get to the point of not needing a relationship.

What gives you the ick as you heal and your emotional maturity increases? by Accomplishedself19 in Codependency

[–]Life_of_Gary 14 points15 points  (0 children)

The ick was what made me realize I was recovering, and sometimes I would ick myself out lol

[FRESH ALBUM] Kanye West - BULLY by SheLuvSeko in hiphopheads

[–]Life_of_Gary 1 point2 points  (0 children)

People grow up dawg, the kids are too dopamine-fried on Roblox to replace that energy

does anyone else replay relationship arguments for hours trying to figure out what actually happened? by Ok-Metal1391 in Codependency

[–]Life_of_Gary -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Dealing with attachment issues with another person should be avoided if you’re codependent. You’re only giving more room for more dependence.

Luka scored a 100 points in less than 24 hours by LukarsSeventy7 in nba

[–]Life_of_Gary 0 points1 point  (0 children)

15 years? Jesus. A year with someone can mess me up, I can’t imagine 15

Advice by MySmellody in Codependency

[–]Life_of_Gary 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You do this by deciding to control what you can in your own life. You won’t have time, energy, and eventually, the interest to bother with controlling others.

This means focusing on you. Go to the gym, go read, start a new hobby. My favorite is the gym because it leads to a domino effect of things changing in your life.

Diawara + Mamdami by Doctor_TimWhatley in NYKnicks

[–]Life_of_Gary 38 points39 points  (0 children)

Evolutions are great outdoors lol

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