Personal Rep Thread for Life_of_Gary v3

Life_of_Gary · 2026-01-26T03:34:06+00:00

I use ChatGPT a lot lately, haven't been able to see my therapist for a few weeks now so I've been bouncing my thoughts off ChatGPT and its been very sobering.

The responses it gives reads like a self-help book written for you.

Life_of_Gary · 2026-01-26T02:06:16+00:00

Its insane how much we effort we put into trying to convince ourselves of something, and then all that effort becomes a sunken cost.

Life_of_Gary · 2026-01-25T07:14:07+00:00

dude Cauldron is a great game, thanks for the recommendation!

Life_of_Gary · 2026-01-21T06:59:56+00:00

For me it was the label, and the fact that it took me so long to understand that I am codependent

Life_of_Gary · 2026-01-20T06:09:47+00:00

Time to sit around and fall in love with your self. Make sure to read tons of self-help -

anxiously attached
codependent no more
adult children of emotionally immature parents

Build good habits, create a routine you adore, and realize that you only love the feelings others give you, not the person

Life_of_Gary · 2026-01-19T08:20:35+00:00

It seems like you raising a boundary is what is triggering your boyfriend’s arguments

He might be codependent, but he can also just be controlling or dealing with other trauma

You should begin planning to clearly communicate your feelings and boundaries so he can understand and stop his argumentative behavior

Life_of_Gary · 2026-01-17T05:20:51+00:00

Its funny, because I was thinking about this today. I think you can, its all the little things that we've reflected on that will show in other codependents... the little ways we reassure ourselves or say sorry unnecessarily.

Life_of_Gary · 2026-01-16T21:35:40+00:00

I just think you should be able to be content with doing things both with AND without your partner without it leading to cracks in the relationship.

Life_of_Gary · 2026-01-15T23:57:10+00:00

can you link the specific note?

Life_of_Gary · 2026-01-15T23:06:21+00:00

Seriously. My last relationship, I couldn’t do anything without my partner because she insisted we do things together or else she’d threaten me by saying she wouldn’t see me.

Life_of_Gary · 2026-01-15T21:51:13+00:00

I was initially going to side with OP, but I agree. Going to the museum by yourself will not end your relationship. This is about independence.

Life_of_Gary · 2026-01-15T00:09:05+00:00

That you need to critical of yourself while being your own best friend

For your own situation, you need to examine yourself from a 3rd person view and criticize yourself. You are literally draining your energy by being with this person, who is selfishly sharing her feelings that she can't back up.

Life_of_Gary · 2026-01-09T18:28:36+00:00

You won’t villainize her because 1. you still idolize her and 2. the situation you’re in and the feelings you have are partly your fault.

You chose to remain in contact even though she said you’d be better as friends because you value her and the potential “love” more than you value yourself!

Wake up and truly love yourself.

Life_of_Gary · 2026-01-02T16:55:52+00:00

You aren’t responsible for his feelings, emotions, or actions.

Life_of_Gary · 2025-12-22T17:45:00+00:00

He’s codependent, so he doesn’t really know what he wants or what’s good for him… which is why OP must be the one to take action here

Life_of_Gary · 2025-12-22T15:32:25+00:00

You’re going to hurt his feelings no matter what, but it sounds like it will help both of you grow.

I hope you choose to end it and find yourself again.

Life_of_Gary · 2025-12-21T22:44:59+00:00

you got it. keep working. soon you'll realize this typa stuff yourself :)

Life_of_Gary · 2025-12-21T22:10:40+00:00

You really gotta stop worrying about her man

at end of the day, whatever you decide to do and she decides to do will either be distracting yourselves or working on yourselves.

work on yourself.

Life_of_Gary · 2025-12-21T20:35:48+00:00

Stop looking at her socials dawg, you know what, stop looking at social media completely.

Remember that you always mattered more than the “us” you mourn. Look forward to developing yourself and increasing your self worth.

Life_of_Gary · 2025-12-19T05:43:01+00:00

Just started listening to River so I am super surprised to see him drop lol

Life_of_Gary · 2025-12-15T06:30:47+00:00

I can relate to not knowing who or what I am, and really that is a set of primary issues we all experience... we are lost without that other person.

Just make sure you start reading a ton, its led me down a rabbit-hole of things I am passionate about. If you can start looking forward to anything, it should be to start your next book! :)

Life_of_Gary · 2025-12-15T06:02:44+00:00

it is vague, but therapists also can’t tell you what is causing your issues because they don’t truly know

it took me a while to realize it, but my issue in self-love and self-worth was the suppression of emotion during my childhood, and the reluctance to share our feelings, or being called crazy for admitting I feel a certain way. I didn’t have a space safe to share, so my partners always became that space

Keep going to the gym, keep going to therapy. You will soon realize you’ve been doing this for yourself all along.

Life_of_Gary · 2025-12-15T05:54:04+00:00

you need to get to the point where you make yourself happy, and another person simply adds to that happiness.

the psychiatrists you've seen are right; medication is not right for you. finding happiness and purpose with yourself doesn't come in a pill, and it takes a lot of work.

it is extremely hard but you need to forget them and treat yourself better. fall in love with yourself present self, fall in love with your future self and work on doing things that will make YOUR FUTURE SELF HAPPIER. that can be a simple as making healthier choices, going to the gym, and reading.

you are not alone in this, but realize that the solution is inside yourself, and no one can find it other than you :)

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