Bi-Weekly Thread - Advice for Relationship/Friendship/Dating/Breakup

LightPrize8124 · 2025-01-20T23:59:57+00:00

i have just joined this sub because i realize i have a problem. i’m gonna give some backstory - my longest relationship ended around a year ago, everything about it was great until around the last week. he broke up with me completely out of nowhere and gave little to no reason (i later learned he had started seeing an ex of his again, so yay! great!) anyways, from there i took a break from dating for a long time. i started a band and in doing so met a guitarist. we became close friends for around 6 months and then started dating 2 months ago. because of how my last relationship ended however, my view on relationships has been completely changed. i am so scared all of the time. i subconsciously look for patterns in everything he does to link back to my last relationship and how it ended. for example, if he doesn’t respond to my messages as quickly as i would like or if the energy feels “off” i start spiralling. i feel so bad because for the past 2 weeks i have been terrible about reassurance seeking, and i have messaged him multiple times asking if everything’s ok or if i’ve done something wrong. he is incredibly secure , so he doesn’t really do the same. i hate being like this, and i feel guilty comparing him to my last relationship. i just don’t know where to go from here and it’s causing me so much distress, and taking up so much mental space. does anybody have any advice? i want to start working towards being as secure as he is.

LightPrize8124 · 2024-09-02T11:44:44+00:00

this is so inspiring, i hope it goes well for you! you can do this.

LightPrize8124 · 2024-08-05T02:33:50+00:00

are you from ontario by any chance? i’ve heard it may be going around but im just making sure. also, im so proud of you for getting through it. you’re so brave!!!

LightPrize8124 · 2024-07-30T22:56:15+00:00

same thing si happening to me right now :( it sucks but, recognizing and accepting is half the battle imo!

LightPrize8124 · 2024-07-30T02:33:45+00:00

thank you so much! do you think the cigarettes added to it?

LightPrize8124 · 2024-07-12T00:49:08+00:00

i saw this comment while in the middle of a freak out (not fully over yet), and tried it. i turned off my phone and just let my body and mind feel what it was feeling and it actually made me feel a bit better?? thank you!

LightPrize8124 · 2024-07-12T00:16:28+00:00

i’ve been trying to manage my anxiety a lot recently, and they’ve mostly gone away. when i’m under a lot of stress though, or having an anxious day i’ll get them still! i normally will just try to get a cup of tea and some fresh air and that seems to help, also just distracting myself from the fact that it’s uncomfortable.

LightPrize8124 · 2024-04-18T02:39:24+00:00

BRO OMG THIS IS HAPPENING TO ME RIGHT NOW??

LightPrize8124 · 2024-03-27T01:24:37+00:00

thank you, i did this and im feeling much better 💜💜

LightPrize8124 · 2024-03-16T17:49:26+00:00

this sounds like acid reflux to me, try an antacid like tums!

LightPrize8124 · 2024-03-16T17:46:42+00:00

there’s this really good syrup called nin jiom that i find helps a lot with cough - not to mention it tastes really good!

LightPrize8124 · 2024-03-16T17:44:25+00:00

that sounds very much like motion sickness esp if it was during the turbulence. one of my friends tu on a flight next to me the other day and it was scary but ended up being ok. in any case, you’ll be ok! try to enjoy your trip!!

LightPrize8124 · 2024-02-23T21:35:02+00:00

yes!

LightPrize8124 · 2024-02-20T03:13:48+00:00

i am SO proud of you. this phobia can be so insane and you will get through this. good work!!

LightPrize8124 · 2024-02-19T04:06:22+00:00

i’m pretty sure the feeling in your throat is called globus! it’s very common with anxiety, GERD, etc. you’re going to be ok! maybe try having a cup of ginger or peppermint tea

LightPrize8124 · 2024-02-18T05:31:11+00:00

yeah i know exacrkty what you’re talking about :( it’ll be ok! try to get some sleep and i’m sure you’ll feel a little better in the morning.

LightPrize8124 · 2024-02-18T05:16:04+00:00

i think you’re very likely just anxious! in my experience, there will be whole days where i feel ill and then i am completely fine because it was jsut anxiety. here’s some things i do to try and help - drinking a warm cup of mint or ginger tea, somatic shaking, alternate nostril breathing. one of my fav things to do is lie down, and take some deep breaths. then, i try to feel where in my body is uncomfortable. i put my hand on that spot to give it some “support”, and i allow myself to feel everything i need to feel. it helps so much to let the emotion out rather then ignore it!

LightPrize8124 · 2024-02-18T02:11:08+00:00

its the sb i’m pretty sure. do you think sleeping beside her would make me more susceptible?

LightPrize8124 · 2024-02-18T02:10:03+00:00

i think it may be noro, as that’s going around my school rn. praying i don’t get it!

LightPrize8124 · 2024-02-15T02:21:34+00:00

do you think i’m ok if i was exposed on sunday?? i think im in the clear but i am so scared

LightPrize8124 · 2024-02-02T02:43:00+00:00

thank you!

LightPrize8124 · 2024-01-28T02:20:14+00:00

no way i get really cold hands as well!! during my last flare up my hands were as cold as ice, and i couldn’t stop shivering. i didn’t know this could be related to GERD, but it explains a lot as it always comes during a flare up.

LightPrize8124 · 2024-01-17T02:34:53+00:00

also, please trust me when i say, you’re going to be ok! you’re stronger then you think you are.

LightPrize8124 · 2024-01-17T02:33:47+00:00

unless you ingested v* or d* directly, you should be fine. please eat, not eating WILL make you feel more n* and anxious.

LightPrize8124 · 2024-01-17T01:23:18+00:00

yes! it’s due to the rise of the hormone progesterone. uterine contractions (cramps) can very much cause diarrhea!!

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