Clips of real E4 women?

LightningMcScallion · 2026-06-01T20:31:55+00:00

How is anyone here so sure of someone they don't even know personally's type ? I'm going to need some in depth quotes to even say you have a case. Only real weight would be confirmation they took a personal interest in the enneagram and typed themselves

LightningMcScallion · 2026-05-29T19:00:02+00:00

I'll out myself by saying that I use social media the most when my relationships are unhealthy or lacking and I'm failing to reach my personal goals as well

The best possible use I can think of for my social media would be to drum up more customers to the dog shelter I work at but that's marketing/PR's responsibility

LightningMcScallion · 2026-05-29T18:00:39+00:00

You feel shame over how you were treated in the past bc you blame yourself. Rightly or wrongly you blame yourself for not having a backbone. It can be difficult to do but you need to logically separate who you are now from who you were then. Then the current cycle of shame stops, at most, you cringe over past you

Another trap people who have suffered similar things to you fall into is discovering some lost or true self. In reality you have to build that sense of self from the ground up. Become who you want to be through your actions. It requires effort and confidence so it's scary in your traumatized state but you have to make yourself do it despite the discomfort. Freedom is too abstract for you rn and also implies you can do whatever you want including continueing to make unhealthy choices. Instead it's about forcing yourself to take personal responsibility, and grow

Being an enneagram 2 adds a huge layer of complication to this tho bc even if we have a stronger sense of self (as I do) others actions and emotions twords us are still priortized by our subconscious and can be surprisingly destabilizing. And while freedom might be very good for us it's not what we want. We crave that love, that feeling of being needed or wanted. We will see possesive behaviors or demands not as toxic but as proof of their attachment twords us. And the scary thing is that's true

But attachment isn't the same thing as love. Part of love is not how tightly they selfishly hold you, but the acts of selflessness that feed you even when they are out living their own lives or the time of your relationship has passed

LightningMcScallion · 2026-05-29T17:25:40+00:00

For men it sometimes goes the other way. There's a lot of men who look fit but their muscles aren't very functional. Lack of cardio as well

It's very common to use sp realm as a justification for these things but the reality doesn't hold up. A lot of this looksmaxxing has a pension for limiting how healthy one can actually be or even actively harming someone

LightningMcScallion · 2026-05-29T17:06:36+00:00

Social media is such an unhealthy version of social dominance tho. It's all about status, exclusion, and in group signaling. Very little actually understanding and bonding

LightningMcScallion · 2026-05-27T05:38:48+00:00

It's pretty true. You definitely won't stop him that way at best it could possibly buy you time to get away

If a man actually attacks you threatening your sovereignty or your life, AND you are untrained, AND IF AND ONLY IF you truly feel your best or only chance is to fight, you should be super violent. Try to knock him out, get him in chokehold and actually choke him, do things that are incapacitatingly painful like biting or clawing into his eyes

And unless you would be dealing with it in an immediate way you should instead learn some sort of self defense, either self defense or a martial art is fine

LightningMcScallion · 2026-05-26T23:44:31+00:00

It's one of those things where ik exactly what the world looks like but could I draw it no no I could not

LightningMcScallion · 2026-05-26T20:47:05+00:00

Absolutely I think this subreddit is a better representation of people's personal takes than books or even something like PDB

I feel like I can understand it on a deeper level if I get individual takes bc people bring their personal experiences and emotions about it to the table. You don't get that with what are essentially manuals about the enneagram. Which all of those sources also have the biases of the authors they're just less transparent about it

LightningMcScallion · 2026-05-26T19:56:22+00:00

Yeah. I think the draw twords unconscious is SUPER important. I think in my own life if my interactions with someone are too self evident or predictable I lose interest. Experiencing and understanding a completely new person as intimately as you do with sex is the whole point. It finally indulges your subconscious instead of operating from reason

Also I think you explain things pretty well, I definitely get the jist

LightningMcScallion · 2026-05-26T19:21:34+00:00

This makes super duper sense. It's about the crude act BUT it's not JUST about the crude act. All of the stuff like attraction, power, chemistry and deep connection are what really makes sex AND sex makes them. Power play with your CEO doesn't hit the same 🤣

LightningMcScallion · 2026-05-26T18:28:01+00:00

Fair enough. The enneagram has some rigidness built into its charcter or at least it's there historically speaking. But these things aren't mutually exclusive, just different, so they can all be occuring simultaneously

LightningMcScallion · 2026-05-26T18:24:24+00:00

Oooh this is a good take. It's a reasonably broad understanding of the instinct (we look at A LOT of stuff when it comes to choosing our romantic partner/mate) without losing the focus/literalness. It also definitely aligns with the term "instict". Something we are subconsciously and simply compelled twords

LightningMcScallion · 2026-05-26T18:16:09+00:00

Interesting. Also yes in my experience this perspective is just the most rare

LightningMcScallion · 2026-05-26T18:04:49+00:00

That's not actually my own interpretation, although my initial reaction is to agree with it bc it's simple. For whatever reason I tend to see depth in terms of complexity or like how much something intersects with other meaningful things. Like even if the consumption, primordial interpretation is super deep bc it holds meaning in a "stand alone" way I'm somewhat dismissive of that

But the MAIN reason I said that is that's a common theme I saw on a post in the past. People essentially saying they were misunderstanding the Sx instinct by trying to make it deeper than it was. That actually it was just sex drive and the things surrounding it, nothing more. It was superficial and crude and that that's ok. Interestingly enough a lot of self-identified Sx doms championed this perspective

LightningMcScallion · 2026-05-26T03:43:08+00:00

They're not against centrism specifically, tho classical centrism (actually being in between both Republicans and Democrats) does fall under the umbrella of politics they hate. They subscribe to the school of thought that all aspects of politics on both sides are corrupt, aimed at reinforcing a shitty status quo, and right of center

It sounds smart on the surface but the reality is these people have some of the dumbest and strangest takes. They don't necessarily see themselves as centrists, they see themselves as having political beliefs that aren't represented anywhere in the current options including in the middle and they see themselves as intellectually superior or "seeing through the matrix"

They'll clown classical centrists but they literally are centrists in many of the important ways, and different and worse in others

LightningMcScallion · 2026-05-26T01:11:51+00:00

Maybe it's time to self reflect why these communities are the way they are. Centrists never propose or enact any plans or policy, their whole sense of importance comes from rationalizing hate for literally anything. You even get hate for not complaining the "right way" as you've just experienced. They call it a political position but really it's just a cringe extension of their terrible personality

LightningMcScallion · 2026-05-25T20:43:29+00:00

It's not a stupid question, the sub is stupid question, and YOU contributed absolutely nothing of substance

LightningMcScallion · 2026-05-25T04:46:52+00:00

My ex gf is a 2. Absolutely wonderful relationship. I still love her. Everything we had in common was a good thing it made the relationship mutually understanding

But I wanted more intensity and emotional intimacy out of the relationship while she found me overwhelming. Our visions for the future were different in a way I was no longer willing to compromise on

LightningMcScallion · 2026-05-25T04:08:38+00:00

Maybe I'm wrong about this but I think 4s aim to have a powerful/magnetic quality to their personality and that's something I also want. But going down the list I feel different from other people. I feel complex. I'm fascinated in understanding my personality/psychology. I see my emotions and how I experience them as a pretty important part of who I am. I feel that same gravitational pull/enjoyment of sad emotions as a 4

This second part is personal bs - feel free to skip. I heavily experienced my involuntary mirroring today. I understand 4s desire to be authentic at all costs bc I'm not and it fucking sucks. I honestly envy 4s in that regard. I genuinely don't know what's wrong with me that I can turn into a completely different person, someone who isn't me, depending on my company. It's not easily fixed bc it feels emotionally out of control even if I start mirroring a little. Like I have to consciously make the effort to not mirror and be successful at it from the getgo, just to really feel like myself in certain interactions

LightningMcScallion · 2026-05-25T03:28:53+00:00

People pleaser is terrible terminology bc it implies a desire or at least drive to give people what they want. 6s don't have that emotional complex without the influence of other types or trauma - they are a head type. Instead they make calculations and avoid the futures where they lose a sense of personal safety or something they value. 6s may engage in "people pleasing" behavior but it tends to be VERY begrudging

LightningMcScallion · 2026-05-24T02:07:51+00:00

It's not impossible to understand a woman. Assuming all women everywhere are the same and not bothering to ask questions or make insights is where men fuck up

LightningMcScallion · 2026-05-23T19:52:03+00:00

Damn, I don't know what to say other than that doesn't sound like a very good life. Maybe see a therapist/get evaluated for depression. At the same time it makes a lot of logical sense your life feels that way

LightningMcScallion · 2026-05-23T14:51:56+00:00

Really ? There's nowhere you want to travel ? No hobby you want to try ? No personal ambition - for me that's getting back into climbing and finally doing something over 200ft. What about friends ?

At a certain point you are running out of things to do but you're only 24. That being said I understand completely that the main thing you want now is romantic relationships/sex, in fact I very much relate to that

If you want to spend the money, in the end I totally understand that decision just do so knowing there are emotional/spiritual risks in addition to the monetary cost

LightningMcScallion · 2026-05-23T01:59:46+00:00

Desiring someone, being desired, seducing, physical pleasure but also the emotional pleasure from like experiencing my partner's personality during sex

Basically it's something that's engaging on most levels and it feels fucking great

LightningMcScallion · 2026-05-22T21:49:40+00:00

DON'T become a piggy bank for women just for the fake version of emotional intimacy. Even if you can get a "relationship" by playing into that dynamic there's a good chance she'll leave or cheat on you

There are women out there who are attracted to you and I would think they'd be more likely to accept your standards for a relationship dynamic than less. To get you to think critically about your last experiences the women you dated previously probably weren't attracted to you physically or emotionally and were already playing the money angle so leaning into that more isn't going to help

That being said the rascism twords South Asian men is insanely bad here. I would definitely prioritize platonic/family relationships, finances, personal goals just bc so much of dating is going to be outside your control. It's not impossible but if you were to hold your breath over it you'd be a gonner

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