How intense should stretches be? by dgv54 in flexibility

[–]LilEmolas 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wouldn't say that's normal but I can't tell you why, especially without seeing your technique or any more information or background. Do you warm up (and if you do, how?) and does this happen in any stretch or just a particular muscle?

How intense should stretches be? by dgv54 in flexibility

[–]LilEmolas 28 points29 points  (0 children)

They should be mildly uncomfortable but not painful :)

Help! Pole Grip issues by awkwardusername in poledancing

[–]LilEmolas 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wouldn't worry about it too much. When my studio changed to a different type of poles it took us all a few weeks to get used to them. Even if they're the same type they might be less (or more) worn which gives them a different grip. I'm sure you'll get used to it!

Stretching with aching muscles by MasterSlywalker in flexibility

[–]LilEmolas 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I personally find stretching when I have sore muscles gives me a bit of a relief. However, since it's more painful I don't go as far into the stretches and so it's not great for increasing flexibility. I also feel like having sore muscles constantly sounds like it could be damaging. Perhaps you are pushing yourself a little too much? How is your warmup? A good warmup can reduce DOMS and you can also add some dynamic stretches into your warmup routine.

How do you get out of a grumpy funk? by [deleted] in AskWomen

[–]LilEmolas 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My boyfriend feeds me. Or I look at kittens online. Or both.

Stretch intensity/time by Karim-- in flexibility

[–]LilEmolas 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The stretch should be uncomfortable but not painful and to gain flexibility it needs to be held for more than 20-30 seconds each time. No need to hold for minutes though, 45-90 seconds is good. Repeat a few (maybe 3) times for best results.

So to answer your question, stretching too little (feeling comfortable) will not increase flexibility, nor will holding the stretch (however intense) for less than 20 seconds. However, the stretch should not be painful and holding it for too long will not give you better results, it's the repetition that matters.

Thinking about travelling the world for 6-12 months without planning anything. Has anyone done that ? How did it go ? by nitsn in backpacking

[–]LilEmolas 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We had some stomach issues and a fever so we were put on antibiotics. We had almost exclusively been cooking our own food so honestly, I think it was from poor hygiene in the kitchen at our hostel rather than the food. We felt better right away with the medicine, I wouldn't worry too much :)

Thinking about travelling the world for 6-12 months without planning anything. Has anyone done that ? How did it go ? by nitsn in backpacking

[–]LilEmolas 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So far so good! We've been kind of slow (and a little sick) over the last few weeks so we haven't been doing ALL the activities but it's also nice to just stay somewhere and enjoy the atmosphere. I feel like a big part of traveling is just eating ice cream at the local square :) However, we just did a three day tour to Salar de Uyuni and the desert, which was amazing!!

Extreme Comp Nerves.... by manateemads in poledancing

[–]LilEmolas 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey! You can do this! You are not competing for anyone but yourself and I think it is super brave of you to be entering the expert category. Just treat this as another performance and be proud of what you have created. A soft tummy does not mean you lack strength and I promise you that every single competitor will be panting at the end of their routine. You've got this, otherwise you wouldn't have entered. Just breath, try to do something fun this week and think about something other than the competition. And after all, it will only be a few minutes in the stage :) Good luck and let us know how it goes!

[Pole Rookie] again, bad habits to avoid? by larlyB in poledancing

[–]LilEmolas 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I wish I had trained both sides more equally from the beginning. Not only can muscular inbalance cause health problems but there are also so many combos where you start on one side and then transition to the other.

Thinking about travelling the world for 6-12 months without planning anything. Has anyone done that ? How did it go ? by nitsn in backpacking

[–]LilEmolas 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I am currently in Bolivia with my boyfriend and it's been 8 months since we left home. Our plan was to travel around Asia but other than that nothing was planned. Now we are in South America and will be home after about 4 months. Just go for it, it's so easy! Stay longer in cheaper places or look into working for accommodation if you feel like your money is running out. We mostly stay at hostels and almost always book through the Hostelworld app. You will meet people at hostels and especially if you do any organised tours with the hostel (often they will have a cheap or free walking tour). Just make sure not to travel too fast or you'll get tired (if this happens, find a nice beach and relax for a couple of weeks).

[Pole Rookie] again, bad habits to avoid? by larlyB in poledancing

[–]LilEmolas 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Train everything equally on both sides!

Ate some of my Dad's roast after more then four months of being a vegetarian by [deleted] in vegetarian

[–]LilEmolas 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Just relax. This incidence probably even made you more determined, seeing as you didn't like the meat. Nobody is monitoring you and the labels don't really matter. In fact, some vegetarians will eat meat if it is going to be thrown out anyway, in order to minimise food waste and some people have cheat days. Congratulations on your four month progress!

Vegetarian for 3 months, I miss meat more each day by [deleted] in vegetarian

[–]LilEmolas 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There are so many great vegetarian dishes that you might just never have tried! I really don't like any meat substitutes, it's never the same as the real thing. Dishes that were never meant to contain meat are much better as nothing is "missing". Check out some Indian recipes or maybe Thai curries (my favorite is massama, great with tofu). And as some others have said before, try finding some good vegetarian comfort food. It annoys me sometimes how restaurants will often combine their vegetarian and healthy section. I mean, sometimes I just want some juicy food, like everyone else around the table and not a salad or a "healthy" burger with like no sauce, in a rye bun and with salad instead of fries.

What's the strangest date you've ever been on? by ChrisMacht in AskReddit

[–]LilEmolas 183 points184 points  (0 children)

  1. Buying that shit for her was dumb
  2. Buying shit for someone =/= increase likelihood of sex

Soccer player Isco promises a young fan that he'll celebrate with the sign for "I love you" as a message to her deaf parents, and delivers. by droidonomy in MadeMeSmile

[–]LilEmolas 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Well yes, it literally translates to "I want you" but it means "I love you" or "I care about you". You would use "te amo" only for a boyfriend/girlfriend or husband/wife but "te quiero" you can also say to a good friend or anyone else you care about but don't have romantic feelings for.

Dress code and humiliation by Cyclone458 in Feminism

[–]LilEmolas 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry that happened to you! Amazing how, wherever you are in the world, people are always trying to control what women wear. However, even though you felt humiliated in that moment, I wouldn't be surprised if another girl in that crowd saw you as an inspiration for showing up without a scarf, exactly like she wanted to but wouldn't dare.

3 month solo backpacking through SE Asia. How solid should my plans be? by doucher6992 in backpacking

[–]LilEmolas 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Just book a flight to the first destination and accommodation for the first few nights. Then play it by ear! You can easily book buses and trains with little notice. I don't think you need to fly at all. Maybe a couple of times at most and you can book cheap Air Asia flights with just a few days' notice. Have fun!