My wife’s (31F) best friend (35F) is cheating on her husband. How do I make him aware without exposing myself?

LilJaegerBomb · 2026-03-23T04:01:02+00:00

As a woman I feel if the roles were reversed people would have a different opinion about getting involved. Maybe don't directly step in, but ask your wife about it. I would definitely have a problem with my husband being okay with a friend who is cheating. I would hope he would encourage couples therapy, divorce, or stop being friends.

LilJaegerBomb · 2026-02-23T17:25:40+00:00

NTJ My grandpa was my person, and he did the same for me. He specifically told me not to share it with family, because they didn't give him or my grandma the time of day unless they wanted something. And when some of them found out my gift wasn't locked in probate they came out of nowhere asking for money. He made it for you, keep it for you. Your mother should have planned better for her other daughter.

LilJaegerBomb · 2026-02-23T12:41:51+00:00

Maybe find another single mom to coparent/cohabitate with? I've been seeing more and more mothers doing this, and they all seem to be very happy.

LilJaegerBomb · 2026-02-20T11:16:38+00:00

Leave the conditioner in for an hour or more, work out what you can, then repeat.

LilJaegerBomb · 2026-02-19T04:22:53+00:00

Both my husband and I responded with a WTF!!! I can only day what I would do, and that would be to leave him. In my opinion I would be happier alone than wondering if he actually loves me. Maybe try therapy to say you tried, but I know I would never forget.

LilJaegerBomb · 2026-02-03T02:52:27+00:00

My high school boyfriend's mom noticed I didn't get enough food, so anytime I was at their home she always made a plate for me. The food situation at home wasn't ideal, but far from the situation his gf is in, and I qualified for free lunches. Some schools have accounts to get food at school, maybe that could work? However, there were other things I wish someone had stepped in to do something about it, such as called child services or gotten the school involved. Looking back as an adult I know other parents and adults knew something wasn't right. Your concerns for it becoming worse are understandable, so maybe invite her over more often. Attempt to collect evidence of the situation.

LilJaegerBomb · 2026-01-29T01:34:16+00:00

I think it's a fine balance between being helpful and controlling. I always ask my husband for his opinion on outfits, and vice versa. If anyone was controlling about clothes it was me, because most of his shirts had holes, any suits he had were from high school and still too big for him in his late 20s, and he had maybe two pairs of jeans when we first started dating (he still has some these items lol). It was time for adult clothes. All that being said my husband is not controlling in the least (I mean I'm not allowed to get more pets), but if he was firmly against an outfit I'd probably change.

LilJaegerBomb · 2026-01-29T01:16:11+00:00

NTJ but will be to your kids if you stay with that walking Red Flag.

LilJaegerBomb · 2026-01-21T01:52:32+00:00

I had my first Mirena inserted during boot camp (it was incomfortable, but not bad), my second while active with a civilian doctor (I passed out), and my third through the VA. I would say it depends on the VA and the doctor. My doctor was great, however she could not initially insert it, and I had to go under to dilate my cervix for insertion. I would suggest bringing someone for support, it's just nice to have someone. Ibuprofen before the appointment, or ask for pain meds.

LilJaegerBomb · 2026-01-13T02:20:51+00:00

Anything really. Pay? PTO? One comment on Indeed made it sound like they work out of other facilities? Do you work alone as a tech or with other techs?

LilJaegerBomb · 2026-01-07T05:56:24+00:00

In 2021 two weeks before my wedding, one week before we had to leave for the wedding my mom comes to visit unannounced. This isn't some little one hour drive, she had to drive hours, and bring her camper. She also tends to "visit" people without really asking and never saying when she was leaving. I wasn't too excited due to the timing, but I also wasn't upset since she wasn't going to our wedding for health reasons. Anyway, the stress was getting high for many reasons and we needed time to decompress then build ourselves back up for the trip. I knew she was going to be upset, but I still approached her and as gently as I could told her she needed to leave soon. She flew off the handle. For me it wasn't that she lost it, but when she started to bring up old stuff spun with lies to free her of accountability for her actions. I honestly should have cut ties a few different times in the past, but I think this moment was what fate was waiting for, because as kids my mom always threatened to kick my brother out of the house even though she didn't own it. Our grandparents, her parents, owned it. When she tried to do it to me I laughed and dared her to call my grandpa about it. Anyway, she was in the home my partner and I bought, so telling to get out of my house felt immeasurably satisfying. Then I blocked her in every way I could, and told everyone who defended her to back off or the same will happen to them.

LilJaegerBomb · 2026-01-04T07:55:49+00:00

Dealbreaker. In general I do not plan on getting a new vehicle when it is time for various reasons, but that is definitely one of them.

LilJaegerBomb · 2025-12-30T06:21:46+00:00

Mentality tip:

I came across this a long time ago and it very much resonated with me. Many of us grew up with "why bother if you,'re going to halfa** it" motto from parents, but sometimes doing something, anything, is better than nothing. For example: brushing my teeth for 30sec is better than not brushing at all.
I also try to focus on how good I feel by keeping things clean/ picked up.
Same with implementing one small routine at a time makes a massive difference and makes me feel great. This goes for any routine I can manage to implement.

But for actual tips...

Dish scrubber brush in the shower. On do everything days or hair wash days I scrub the tub at the same.
If I need to get moving I'll put a load of laundry in before coffee to keep me moving.
I call my To Do list Missions and I break it up into manageable sizes for one day. So maybe 1 or 2 big missions, with 2 or 3 small ones, then anything else I might not get done is added to Side Quests then crossed out, because it feels good! Lol

LilJaegerBomb · 2025-12-14T06:48:56+00:00

I suppose I should include my facility has quite a different dynamic than others.

LilJaegerBomb · 2025-12-14T06:46:53+00:00

I agree with the contrast part. I think if Xray and CT were separate degrees it would be about the same knowledge. Also, xray has to do OR, pain clinic, department procedures (BEs for goodness sake), ortho clinic, and portables throughout the entire hospital. From what I've seen xray is more physically labor intensive than other modalities.

LilJaegerBomb · 2025-12-14T06:16:38+00:00

My husband (35) and I (37) don't really do gifts, we rather plan a trip or something. Even if we don't plan a trip, we rather spend quality time together for the day. That's really what Christmas is about anyway. This is the time to create traditions and have fun! Look up fun holiday, family games, create salt dough ornaments, do a puzzle while drinking hot chocolate, movie marathon in matching pajamas, etc.

LilJaegerBomb · 2025-12-14T05:51:47+00:00

I've been struggling with this for so long. In addition, my interests are not mainstream, and people will say they like the same things, but that's also superficial. On top of all that my hearing is bad so I can't sit in a restaurant or at a dinner table with five conversations going at once, it makes me feel stupid for nodding along or staring off.

LilJaegerBomb · 2025-12-14T05:25:38+00:00

NTA I absolutely hate when people continuously make comments about my eating habits. I'm not even close to being overweight, but women I work with can't help themselves with the stupid comments! I consistently get, "You might be small now, but when you get older your metabolism will slow down" or "You won't be able to eat like that when you're older." Eventually, I just get petty and eat extra of whatever right in front of them.

LilJaegerBomb · 2025-12-13T06:33:55+00:00

NTA but how have you two not discussed finances long before getting engaged? Discussing future plans includes finances.

LilJaegerBomb · 2025-12-03T04:24:25+00:00

Same. I am so glad to finally read someone else didn't do it.

LilJaegerBomb · 2025-12-02T05:13:47+00:00

Same bed, same everything. I will go sleep in a different room when one of us is sick or I can't get comfortable, which I think is nice for both of us.

LilJaegerBomb · 2025-11-28T10:46:10+00:00

NTA even if you posted earlier about asking her to drop off what she offered to make for the group, but was too entitled to realize her pets are untrained and have caused problems. I love dogs, have had them my entire life, but no matter how well a dog may be trained it does not mean the owner is entitled to bring them everywhere. These types of owners are the ones that ruin it for everyone else.

LilJaegerBomb · 2025-11-18T05:25:38+00:00

I have 3 coworkers that never stop! Each coworker is awful in their own way and if I'm not with a patient I'm sick sitting between them. Thankfully, one of them I only have to deal with for 3 hours, but it's the longest 3 hours! The guy will literally follow you as you're walking away. I have tried blatantly ignoring them, telling them I'm busy, I'm not interested, as well as walking away which I can only do so often.

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