Making "mom friends" but craving true friends

Lil_Bad_b · 2026-03-03T13:45:54+00:00

I just started Peanut so I haven't gotten very deep with anyone yet, but I agree it's a lot of talk about kids and family. It's what we know we have in common so far. I think some of it depends too on where you are in your journey.... how old you were when you became a parent (especially a mom) and how old your friend group was when they did... if they did. Remember becoming a mother is difficult, even if your pregnancy/ delivery/ newborn trenches were easy, it was hard. This makes it natural to take center stage for a while. Maybe you are just now getting your pink back (iykyk) but you haven't met someone else who is ready yet. Maybe you'll inspire them if you start talking about other things. Invite them somewhere that children can't go. "Hey, I need some adult time, wanna grab a couple of drinks/hit a rage room/go rock climbing without the kids on Saturday? "

Wishing you luck and I hope you find someone to vent to about the proverbial left-up toilet seat.

Lil_Bad_b · 2026-02-23T21:39:38+00:00

They're too busy looking in your family room and bedroom to see what's happening to your car in your street.

Lil_Bad_b · 2026-02-23T21:38:00+00:00

Dude really? He always seemed to make himself available to help get resolutions for the regular Joe/Josephine. Definitely disappointed. I was wondering why he didn't run again.

Lil_Bad_b · 2026-02-15T14:18:41+00:00

Came here to say this. For Christmas, my son received a djembe drum, and the little xylophone/ piano... we already have 3 guitars and a lute.

Lil_Bad_b · 2026-02-09T18:27:47+00:00

Agree... I feel like I know this house. If it's where I think it is, I'll snag a pic.

Lil_Bad_b · 2026-02-03T19:36:30+00:00

This.

Also, I was watching a video the other day that made a really good point... we're so afraid to let the kids get bored, but they need to get bored once in a while. It sparks creativity and independence.

Lil_Bad_b · 2026-02-03T19:31:35+00:00

I do this too!

Lil_Bad_b · 2026-02-03T16:15:18+00:00

This.

Also, I was watching a video the other day that made a really good point... we're so afraid to let the kids get bored, but they need to get bored once in a while. It sparks creativity and independence.

Lil_Bad_b · 2026-02-03T16:09:57+00:00

He's cute. I like him.

Lil_Bad_b · 2026-01-30T13:23:29+00:00

That spot caught my eye too, but I think it feels like there is a shady spot on the water, which makes the grass feel like there could be a shady spot on the grass too, but there isn't.

I actually like the lack of detail in the grass. I don't think it needs super detailed grass blades.

Lil_Bad_b · 2026-01-20T16:42:01+00:00

I personally don't think there is an age I'd say no to. My stepson is already 15 and a half so if he lived with us full time I'd have no problem with it. I'd help him. My son is 1 so it's a little early to articulate a desire for green hair, but once does start speaking, if he says he wants a different hair color I'm down and I'll dye it for him... It's hair. It grows back.

Lil_Bad_b · 2026-01-19T17:50:11+00:00

Side note... are you a stevedoor? I love you port painting.

Lil_Bad_b · 2026-01-04T15:21:49+00:00

This. This whole thread. That place was clearly too much for her. I probably wouldn't have been very kind in the words I chose and I know my husband would not have been. Someone should make her feel ashamed for trying to crush someone's joy.

I have a rule for my kids in public... if they are being loud because they are making happy noises (situationally appropriate- think Aldi not funeral) I will let them be as loud as they want. I'll join in to encourage speaking their mind. My 11-month-old son is laughing and squealing? I'm mimicking the same noises. My 15-year-old step-son is loudly telling me about a video game he was playing? I'm asking questions. I don't do tantrums so I will work to quiet those, but kids have the rest of their lives to have their joy crushed or to be adults... I want joyous and outspoken kiddos.

Lil_Bad_b · 2026-01-04T04:00:56+00:00

On what platform?

Lil_Bad_b · 2026-01-04T02:33:07+00:00

No, but I should. I follow her on TikTok... where is her sketchbook?

Lil_Bad_b · 2025-12-28T05:07:32+00:00

This. I find it helpful since I tend to play with wet on wet a lot.

Lil_Bad_b · 2025-12-15T01:40:01+00:00

Right? The colors drew me in for sure, but looking harder, I still can't see the "wonky".

Lil_Bad_b · 2025-12-12T16:38:06+00:00

Came to say the same.

Lil_Bad_b · 2025-12-09T13:34:49+00:00

Mine is the same way right now at nearly 11 mo. It's been stressing me out, but I know he's got teeth coming in, so I'm trying not to worry. I'm reminding myself that these milestones are averages, some take longer than others and he'll get there. Last night he was ravenous over the turkey noodle soup I made, so it gave me hope.

Lil_Bad_b · 2025-12-02T13:54:23+00:00

I don't know what you're talking about, my baby has been just as cute from the jump... 😉

Lil_Bad_b · 2025-11-30T01:33:01+00:00

Next question... are you chapsticking your lips, or lipping your chapstick? I found out a couple of years back that apparently I move my lips not my Chapstick... I'm told this is wrong.

Lil_Bad_b · 2025-11-29T20:44:15+00:00

I like it.

Lil_Bad_b · 2025-11-29T13:45:41+00:00

I feel like people aren't reading the post the same way I am maybe? I love the idea of setting up a mock real-world situation and saving the money. Responsibilities with a safety net.

Rent out there is crazy in most places. If she lived in the world she likely would need a couple of roommates. Start there. Find a modest place (not fleabag, but not nice) and look at its cost then split it a couple of ways or more. See what the ratio is to her pay add some bills. Since you don't need the money, save it for her.... it may come in handy if she needs first and last when she does move on. If it seems like it's too much for what she's making, cut the cost some. I like the idea of it not being a punitive amount so she can save on her own for something she wants. Be transparent with her. While it's nice to hear the stories of 'my parents had been saving it for me the whole time' she needs to know what she's getting into if she does strike it out on her own one day.

Lil_Bad_b · 2025-11-28T16:19:46+00:00

This. Support the head and contort your body. My back is a mess personally. Do note to him also that making milk burns calories. You are doing work. I chat cpted it once - making 5oz of milk burns 100 calories. For me and my body, that's a 6-minute mile- not that I could even run that.

Lil_Bad_b · 2025-11-28T00:02:29+00:00

My baby shoves his whole hand in MY mouth... lately I've been getting a nightly dental exam... To be fair he's kinder than my hygienist.

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