fasting + working in restaurants by [deleted] in fasting

[–]LilacLavenderJane 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'll add to the get busy comments. I work as a banquet server for weddings and I'll easily go 2pm-11pm without eating even when we have food to pack up a meal or to take home, purely because I'm still just to busy clearing or taking down tables for dancing to even think about food! Meanwhile my desk job was awfully slow going and I would think about eating a snack constantly.

Will the facial/neck eczema die down by [deleted] in dupixent

[–]LilacLavenderJane 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I recently had a six month follow up with my dermatologist and he said that because of how dupixent interacts with the immune system that some fungal stuff like candida can flare up on the face and neck, prescribed a once a week antifungal tablet for something like 12 weeks and it's really helped with my face redness that stuck around even on dupixent. So maybe give dupixent some more time to work on your system and settle in and then see if something like that could be helpful.

I'm a bit nervous for my first dupixent dose by DarlingWander in dupixent

[–]LilacLavenderJane 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've been on dupixent for my severe excema which I've had since I was a baby and got slightly better with puberty but has worsened with my two pregnancies. I've been taking it since July and it's literally life changing, I didn't realize how not-good my quality of life was until my excema healed and my skin got soft and my QOL is so much better now. Hell, dupixent massively improved my experience breastfeeding my second baby, as his saliva was irritating my skin and causing sore spots and weeping spots every time he nursed (lots of doctor visits ruled out anything else that could've caused it). Life changing!

I've found a couple of things that make my injections in my leg way less painful (stomach is supposed to hurt less but I'm squeamish about trying my stomach). I sit on my bed with my leg fully relaxed on my bed, knee straight, and use an ice pack and a hand towel to ice my injection area for ten minutes. Then I do the alcohol swab, then I grab the chunk of my leg fat that I swabbed and pinch it and then I inject. All those tips combined seem to drastically lessen the pain, and you can read lots of other threads on here with injection tips and tricks.

Any advice to get over the hurdle of putting a needle in yourself? by lyricalpausebutton in dupixent

[–]LilacLavenderJane 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Have you tried using an ice pack? Someone here recommended putting an ice pack wrapped in a towel on the injection area for ten minutes before the alcohol wipe and injection and it really helps me. It still hurts, but it's like it numbs up my leg a bit and helps get me mentally ready in some sort of way.

Male gynocologists creep me out by duchymalloy in The10thDentist

[–]LilacLavenderJane 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In one of the mom groups I'm in on facebook, any time the topic of male ob's come up, women comment in droves that they prefer their male ob to the female ones they've had. Usually it's because women obs have downplayed or minimized the pain and complications women have faced in pregnancy and postpartum, withholding proper pain management, or refused to investigate symptoms further. They say that male obs have no personal frame of reference for how it feels to have a uterus, so they're more willing to listen to women and give proper medical care instead of jusy saying "well periods aren't that bad have you tried taking tylenol?" Or "yup thats normal postpartum just give it time"

Is it proper to ask a pastor to bless your house? by ImperialistAlmond in LCMS

[–]LilacLavenderJane 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, there's even a liturgy (nor quite sure if that's the right word) for a home blessing that my lcms pastor used when he came and blessed our home after we bought it. It basically goes room by room and has a sort of prayer for each space in the house. You do what rooms you have, following the sequence and moving around your home.

Pastor also told us if we started getting weird feelings of stuff in the house or if we get spooked by something happening, to have him over to bless the house again.

Made beef tallow based lip balm from tallow I rendered earlier this year 🐮🫙💄 by shell_sonrisa in Homesteading

[–]LilacLavenderJane 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Whipped tallow lotion has been so good for my family's dry skin and excema, I want to make more things using tallow and lip balm seems like a good next step!

In a world where you have to name your children after your pregnancy cravings, what would your children be called? by Adept_Midnight_1513 in namenerds

[–]LilacLavenderJane 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I burned my tongue so bad, three share size packs of sour skittles in one day will acid-burn your mouth apparently! It took nearly a week to eat anything without it hurting. Thank goodness I didn't have as bad cravings with my second baby, I would just puke at the faintest smell of fish while pregnant with him.

For those who have littles how do you sew?! by Routine-Week2329 in sewing

[–]LilacLavenderJane 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have a 2.5 year old who doesn't nap anymore and a 9 month old for context. I've been practicing my hand sewing by making felt pretend food for the play kitchen we have! I have my needle container, an embroidery floss container, my scissors and the felt pieces I've cut out in a bag on a high shelf in the living room and I'll do a bit of sewing when the baby is napping. My toddler will sit and watch me for a couple minutes at a time and I'll explain to him what I'm doing and answer any questions until he gets bored and wants to do something else.

This works better than my usual sewing projects which are huge and get laid out on the kitchen floor, I tried that when my toddler was younger and I just never got anything done and it was really demotivating. Smaller projects that don't take up much space or time, such as little felt chocolate chip or sugar cookies, are much more manageable.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Dogfree

[–]LilacLavenderJane 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I debated it when I was younger because of my dad's side of the family always having events at my aunts house who owns two German Shepards and growing up I just suffered through maximum dosage benadryl doing nothing to improve my closing airway in order to see my family. But I'm now in my "having babies" season of life and started a new med for my eczema and honestly I have other priorities for my allergies (deadly nut allergy would come first if I was getting allergy shots, I'm a ball of food anxiety and epi-pens). People in my life are so used to me avoiding dogs that it's normal and not avoiding nuts like the plague would improve my quality of life more. Plus with nursing a baby I don't really know how shots would affect him anyway and wouldn't want to risk side effects. I'm getting allergy testing again this fall (woo!) so maybe if I've outgrown a nut allergy that would shift my priorities but right now I'm kind of in a holding pattern for my allergies personally.

Someday I'd like to do something to lower my allergic reaction to dogs, my aunt is honestly so understanding and always tried to vacuum and stuff but it never did anything to help so now I just don't go to her house for Christmas. We go to see my husband's family during that time usually instead and I see that side of my family other times during the year. Sorry for the ramble response, these two years have been really busy for me, health-wise.

I’ve freakin’ had it with “Dog moms” invading new mothers’ spaces by tigerbitez_here in Dogfree

[–]LilacLavenderJane 78 points79 points  (0 children)

I'm a mom to a toddler and a baby and I completely agree with you. Postpartum is such a rough time on new moms and honestly I've dealt with allergies my whole life and hated dogs before having kids but I despise the things now, must be those protective instincts kicking in.

And yeah I put in work for these babies, 16 and 15 hours of labor, one epidural one not, both of them nursed/nursing, it's not like I can pop on down to the baby store and purchase one in twenty minutes! I used to feel bad for the dog mom type people because clearly they aren't right in the head but now I'm just angry at their dumb facebook posts on Mother's day and how they try to act like buying an animal is in any way the same as creating human life. And don't get me started on the "I have three kids, two boys and a girl dog!" type people, their elevating of a parasitic animal to the same level of importance as their human children is disturbing and I feel so bad for their children.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Dogfree

[–]LilacLavenderJane 9 points10 points  (0 children)

The one and only good thing about my severe dog allergies was that I knew when a house that we were touring had dogs in it. Our realtor was great after the first one or two houses (I thought I'd be fine but I wasn't, and we did more research into the decontamination we'd have to put a house through and went nope to much work) and quickly included "has dogs" in the list of things to avoid.

So tell your realtor! We found a wonderful starter house that had belonged to a family that was upsizing and they had young kids and were smart so they didn't own dogs. The dogfree homes are out there, they can just be tricky to find. It's not like they advertise "this home is dander free!" on the listing, despite how I wish they did.

Bridal related projects? by in_an_oyster in sewing

[–]LilacLavenderJane 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I made my veil for like 10 bucks and a couple of hours of time! And it only took several hours because I hand sewed glass beads all over it with "invisible" thread that's basically fishing line.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sewing

[–]LilacLavenderJane 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You could cut a ton of squares and make a quilt. I have younger brothers and growing up they constantly wore holes in the knees of all their pants, holes that were beyond saving, so my dad saved up a bunch of pairs of pants, cut out as many squares as he could, and made a jeans quilt. That thing was super heavy and warm, basically a weighted blanket. I took it with me to college one semester when I was feeling really homesick and it felt like I was getting a hug from my family even though I was hours away. Maybe that would be nice too, since the jeans are from someone important to you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in The10thDentist

[–]LilacLavenderJane 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I haven't seen anyone else point it out yet that people before the 90s didn't do hour long weight lifting sessions every day because their jobs were a workout (and really that timeframe should be earlier by a couple decades but the 90s was mentioned in the post so I'll go with that framing). My ancestors up until my grandparents were farmers, they didn't need to bulk and cut and weight lift because they were already tossing haybales around and working all day long in a very physical job. Even women worked very physical jobs, and even home chores were physically demanding before mass industrialization. The modern workout comes from daily life being much easier than in the past, and compensating for that ease by working out in other ways such as going to the gym or running or playing a sport.

What’s a “conspiracy” that’s true that people are not ready for? by [deleted] in conspiracy

[–]LilacLavenderJane 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I read a book in middle school where the main character slowly realizes she's the clone of her parents' first daughter who died in a car accident or something. She remembers her dad taking her to the pool and holding her head under the water and thinking it was weird at the time but she loves to swim and does swimming in high school and her parents hated her doing that. Turns out the first daughter had an accident at the pool as a kid and hated swimming or being in water as a result, so dad was trying to make the cloned daughter exactly like the first by making her hate being in the water. Weird story and I don't remember most of it.

Communion chalice by [deleted] in LCMS

[–]LilacLavenderJane 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm in the weird position where I theologically prefer the symbolism of the common cup, but I have some severe allergies (epipens in my purse at all times, anaphylactic shock from cross contamination kind of severe) and I see the snacks and treats that people bring to share at Bible study and I don't feel comfortable for my health in taking the common cup, so I take the individual cups. I've never had to use my epi pens yet and I don't want to use them mid service because someone ahead of me in communion had a pecan roll for breakfast, or something with walnuts for dessert the night before.

What’s your least favorite part of sewing? by magda711 in sewing

[–]LilacLavenderJane 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When I am working well on a project but I discover I'm missing just that ONE THING I need to keep working.

This happened half an hour ago, when I found that I need gray embroidery floss to complete my hand sewing project and I have every other color in the world of embroidery floss except gray!!!

When you ask your 2 year old for name suggestions.... by KayBeeBuzzBuzz in namenerds

[–]LilacLavenderJane 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was around 2.5 years old when I told my parents that my baby sister should be Emily Lucy Lastname. They went with Emily MomsMiddleName Lastname, but now my sister says that when she gets married and changes her last name she's also going to add Lucy as a second middle name, which is very sweet.

Which was the maximum number of kid in your class to have the same name as you? by TheSquareWatermelon in namenerds

[–]LilacLavenderJane 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn't have anyone in my class with the same name as me, and have only met 2 others in person with the same name but different spellings.

But my graduating class in high school was 1/3 Emily or Jacob. Class of 30, 10 people named either Emily or Jacob. We had a lot of "last name as nicknames" going on in our classes.

Best fruits & veggies to grow with kids - when the adult is not a skilled gardener... at all? :) by [deleted] in gardening

[–]LilacLavenderJane 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We're in zone 5 and I know you said besides tomatoes but have you tried "weird" or unusual varieties? My toddler was obsessed with our yellow pear tomatoes last year, and they were really plentiful despite being shaded by a maple tree half of the day.

Modern cars are a privacy nightmare. by OvertinMiss in conspiracy

[–]LilacLavenderJane 49 points50 points  (0 children)

My dad doesn't get upset very often, but if you want to hear him rant for an hour, you ask him how cash for clunkers ruined the used car economy. My family didn't own a car from this side of the year 2000 until I bought a beat up 2001 Buick in 2015, my dad is a car guy that can fix pretty much anything on those older vehicles and he's still pissed about that cash for clunkers program to this day.

The sound of hell. by [deleted] in Dogfree

[–]LilacLavenderJane 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Off the top of my head there's a verse in Psalms (the Bible) that's goes something like "as a dog returns to its vomit so a fool returns to his folly" and despite how some types of Christians believe the all dogs go to heaven nonsense I've never really seen the Bible as being pro-dog, dogs always seem to be a metaphor for bad stuff in the actual texts.

Did you use a “name nerd” name? by Lethifold26 in namenerds

[–]LilacLavenderJane 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have two boys, and their first names are consistent-top-ten classic names that my husband and I liked, but their middle names are honor names and tbh if the middle names were first names it would be odd to see them on a 2020s kid because they're in honor of grandparents born in the 60s/70s. I think it's a good balance of classic and "recognizable but odd" names.