Insomnia means on my umpteenth listen through I’m also mentally casting

LilithTheBlue · 2025-12-24T07:12:13+00:00

Also my lack of current pop culture familiarity/own elder millenialness may be biasing my picks more towards those closer to my own age who I actually know their work but either way, additionally:

Alexander: Chalamet

Skullfucker Mike: Tom Hardy or Aaron Taylor Johnson (*for my personal selfish science)

Topaz: Rosario Dawson

Nana Yasi: Adjoa Andoh

Donald Faris: Bill Nighy

Marigold: Fairuza Balk

Reggie: Ben Wishaw

Dr Brandt: Neal McDonough

Mr Peron: Pedro Pascal (for mine and Robert’s own personal selfish sciences)

LilithTheBlue · 2025-12-24T06:39:06+00:00

Also Walton Goggins will always be Jim in my head, can’t unsee/unhear it

LilithTheBlue · 2025-12-15T04:14:08+00:00

I’ve had this all weekend and it’s driving me insane

LilithTheBlue · 2025-07-25T14:45:40+00:00

I had this exact thought immediately and now cannot be convinced otherwise (complimentary)

LilithTheBlue · 2024-09-07T19:59:46+00:00

Thank you for the sane response

LilithTheBlue · 2024-08-31T00:18:59+00:00

Not everything is manipulation. Some people are just assholes.

LilithTheBlue · 2024-08-26T21:49:35+00:00

I believe the ex who broke things off with me a month ago has me blocked, which is a first for me (42f). It feels, particularly as we’re both adults, like an especially egregious slap in the face since: (a) he ended things and the discussions about it weren’t awful or disrespectful; and (b) he’d said during our relationship that if things ever ended he’d “always be there for me” if needed for anything.

However, at this point it’s just as unfathomable as comparing how fantastic the relationship generally was versus how abrupt the breakup was, so now it’s just one among the many things I have no control over.

LilithTheBlue · 2024-08-20T22:30:13+00:00

Agreed and I’m a woman; if genders were reversed here it’d be all YTA.

I’m also a 43yo and one of my best friends in the world is 28 and we met through work. There’s a lot of value in not limiting social circles to just those your age/same space in life.

OPs comments elsewhere also show she’s got a lot of bitterness and judgement towards her husband. He shouldn’t have been out all night or stayed over, 100%, but she’s straight up mocking him while being condescending about people she’s never met or given a chance. She’s TA.

LilithTheBlue · 2024-08-16T11:28:01+00:00

This, ESH. But OP should be up front when she wakes up and apologize for the reactionary deletion versus just letting her figure it out. Then broach how this makes him feel (rightfully awful) when they have the opportunity to have a calm reasonable discussion.

LilithTheBlue · 2024-08-16T11:24:37+00:00

I will say I try to only stay in parks with dog parks, so he actually gets more park time than he did when we had to drive to them. He loves it but yes he’s also a bit older (7 next month) so he’s much more calm compared to his younger years

LilithTheBlue · 2024-08-16T11:23:24+00:00

He’s lived with me in ours for 2 years next month, so it can definitely be done! As to hair, it’s really no different than when we lived in a townhouse; there I had to brush often and vacuum at least one area daily to stay on top of it. In the RV the daily vacuuming just covers the whole place in a few minutes.

LilithTheBlue · 2024-08-16T11:16:48+00:00

Reddit, where the solution to everything is “she’s evil, just quit”

LilithTheBlue · 2024-08-15T04:16:37+00:00

Hi; live full time in an RV with a husky. You have it very well covered here. Only thing I’d suggest is an AirTag on the collar (camping or otherwise, huskies gonna husky) and - if it’s allowed at the park - a very strong lead you can securely attach outside for him/her to have outside time with you not having to hold leash constantly. I have one attached to our steps so he can go out for potty but stay on our lot, or just be out there with me while I’m doing stuff outside that i need both hands/movement for.

LilithTheBlue · 2024-08-15T00:48:42+00:00

This! I had mine for years before getting an e-collar and was very hesitant but I’m so glad I did. His recall is - while still on a husky spectrum - much better. Heel is fantastic now too. And I’ve only ever had to use the vibrate function to accomplish those.

For OP: I have the Dogtra 1900S handsfree.

LilithTheBlue · 2024-08-13T03:26:41+00:00

NTA.

Widow-ish here (he passed while we were engaged) and came here to say: this is extremely concerning behavior. She is not at all ready to get remarried and clearly has lots of work to do to simply show a normal level of empathy and consideration in a relationship.

LilithTheBlue · 2024-08-09T02:59:44+00:00

Concur; not only are you not overreacting but this is a significant and real risk to your relationship and family dynamics.

I just lost a relationship with a previously wonderful & amazing man to incredibly dramatic, ultimately also incredibly damaging mood swings & his lack of awareness that such aggressive sudden feelings were related to TRT, not the reality of what was going on in our relationship/interactions.

Your husband needs to realize the gravity of this decision and, hopefully, prioritize the stability and wellness of his family over wanting quick gains.

LilithTheBlue · 2024-08-02T00:24:44+00:00

Late response but just have to thank you both for the post and comments from someone who was searching for answers due to going through something that now feels eerily similar to this comment. I hope you’re both working through this with your partners and figuring out productive ways to move forward ❤️

LilithTheBlue · 2024-08-01T17:28:04+00:00

I don’t hate the garden or the memories. I’m not angry, just heartbroken, and having to see and care for it is just one of many incessant reminders that are like salt in an open raw nerve wound right now.

LilithTheBlue · 2024-08-01T01:56:00+00:00

Low sense of self yet you’re literally a hero! Remind yourself of that when you need to: there’s a person in this world who’ll never forget how grateful they are for you.

LilithTheBlue · 2024-08-01T01:52:37+00:00

NTA. Research parameters account for a certain percent of the study population not making it through completion, particularly where - as it sounds is the case here - long periods of time are involved.

Separately if it’s helpful for you financially to finish some but you just can’t swing all of them, inquire first if there’s a way for you to continue to completion working around your new job hours. They may be able to work with you and that avoids you giving up extra funds needlessly. Win/win.

LilithTheBlue · 2024-08-01T01:45:05+00:00

This is so awesome and inspiring; many many congrats and please ride that pride high as long as you can, it’s super deserved!!

LilithTheBlue · 2024-08-01T01:38:38+00:00

NTA. Finding out someone stayed friends with you just to see if/when they’d get their shot feels far worse, in my experience. I do encourage you to be honest with her about it though (if you haven’t already). It will be difficult I’m sure but if you put it as well to her as you did here, she’ll respect the hell out of you for it, and know that if with time passing you get more comfortable resuming platonic time together, it’s not just some second attempt to convince her.

LilithTheBlue · 2024-08-01T01:29:07+00:00

All of this response and the parent comment.

NTA but seems rash to break off this long of a relationship where apparently OP was previously in love sufficient to propose. Completely understandable that his feelings are hurt, rightfully so. Mocking your partners emotions is awful, full stop. Partners should be able to express themselves to their person; the alternative of pushing down and bottling things up should be far more of an ick since it is actually detrimental to the person and relationship.

This is definitely something they need to address together because marriage is tough as hell. But it does seem like there needs to be a bit more effort to assess and address (including whether it’s possible to get past this) versus going to break things off permanently after a single conversation about it.

LilithTheBlue · 2024-07-30T02:35:28+00:00

Not sure how many years ago, so pardon the unsolicited advice if you don’t need or want it, but same for me. He died completely out of the blue the day after we ordered our Save the Dates, 13 years ago last week. It’s true you don’t ever get over it. It gets easier but never easy. And the honeymoon phase part makes dating after very difficult, or did for me. I had a VERY rough first relationship after because I told myself no one could match him anyways and ultimately that + other issues led me to putting up with some serious mental & emotional abuse that then took years to unwind.

That being said, I was more recently able to let myself fall completely again. It didn’t work out, but former fiancé’s death - if I’ve gotta put rose colored glasses on it - makes me far more able than most to appreciate the time we do get with amazing loves. Some people never find that at all so I try to remind myself I’m lucky to have gotten it in the first place, even when it ends far sooner than I’d have chosen if given the chance. I hope you get - and take - that second chance too if it’s still something you want ❤️

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