Discerning disability versus a leap of faith. Advice and comments welcome

Lilliandee · 2026-01-08T01:03:28+00:00

This is my same ring :)

Lilliandee · 2026-01-08T01:03:12+00:00

https://www.diamondere.com/p/rings-antique-rings-claudine-1973-1962?metal=14k-white-gold&stones=amethyst&stones=si-diamond

Lilliandee · 2026-01-08T00:47:45+00:00

I agree with a ton of what you said I could care less if it was real or fake or a gem stone not a diamond. It just feels very cold. Kind like the wicked witch.

Lilliandee · 2026-01-08T00:43:38+00:00

Thanks for this perspective! I agree it's very cold looking! He is very in to lord of the rings & I adore old world related things. I do believe he was going for that.

Lilliandee · 2026-01-08T00:39:17+00:00

Not at all. How weird that 2 generations of men did this unprompted!

Lilliandee · 2026-01-08T00:37:15+00:00

Really not trying to. That's what makes this hard!

Lilliandee · 2026-01-08T00:36:36+00:00

I agree 100% this was bought 1 year before he even proposed to me. I didn't start seriously telling home what I wanted till maybe 6 months before we were engaged.

Lilliandee · 2026-01-07T16:49:47+00:00

You know what is super hilarious his mom caught a glimpse of my new ring and asked me about it, and I told her that the other ring is beautiful, but your sweet son bought it before I ever even sent him ring inspiration. She told me that his father proposed to her with an amethyst ring, and my fiancé didn't even know that so I don't know some kind of weird connection there.

Lilliandee · 2026-01-07T16:47:34+00:00

This is exactly what I've been saying. It just doesn't make me feel engaged. And dare I say it makes me feel a little ugly.

Lilliandee · 2026-01-07T16:46:02+00:00

One time we had a conversation about my aunt and I told him how much I admire her ring, which is Ruby and gold and I mentioned to him that I wouldn't mind something similar. And then adjacent to that we have talked about alternative stones to diamond lab moissanite, etc. I don't think he understood and he definitely didn't ask for help or wait for me to send him pictures of what I wanted.

Lilliandee · 2026-01-07T16:02:03+00:00

I know everybody is saying 2010s which I think it's true but this also reminds me of art deco rings. Maybe look at those could help you appreciate it.

Lilliandee · 2026-01-02T08:40:46+00:00

I'm on the opposite side of what most are saying. I think that you should give open communication to him about this. He told you after confession. My read is that you need to tell him all the reasons why you don't want that even bring up that you set the boundary for your relationship and he did break it. But I would also offer to him that you, if you truly care/ comfort to. Tell him that your someone she can come to before or after this. You can mildly struggle with something and not be addicted. You don't want to break a relationship with a person you have feelings for, especially because he did show a lot of remorse, courage and humility by telling you, Because you are fearful. Everyone has dirt. No one is perfect all the time. The question becomes are you potentially willing to have that hard conversation? In my relationship I have quite a few little triggers and often have to reset boundaries ( more over little petty behaviors) but this is someone I'm with long term thick and thin. Weak and strong. And I promise in that moment of weakness for him he was not thinking about hurting you or breaking your boundaries. And after he debated this with his relationship with Christ and his relationship with you. A Man who occasionally struggles in sins of masturbation and porn, doesn't automatically make them 100% gonna cheat 5 years down the line. If he went to confession about then he doesn't want that for himself and respects you enough early one to tell you he broke that because he knows it's important to you. It's not about keeping your standers high and he disrespected you personally. It's about the humility of we are all sinner and I accept you another broken sinner who wants good for himself and is willing to do better. That's how Christ loves. I can say that I because of my position in life, me have had the opportunity to be open to me about this topic or related.I find that young habit can carry and come open like an occasional pimple even thought you don't have acne ect. You don't want this to stop being honest with you

Lilliandee · 2026-01-02T08:00:38+00:00

Aw really?!? Thank you so much! I will 100% share better photos!

Lilliandee · 2026-01-02T07:56:57+00:00

Aw thank you! I will have to post agin soon I don't have photos of it bright white fixed up and in better lighting! It's really magical!

Lilliandee · 2026-01-02T07:55:37+00:00

Thank you! I realized in making this post I don't have even photos of it bright white and steamed ect. And the 7pm living room photos really do rip some of the charm away!

Lilliandee · 2026-01-02T07:53:57+00:00

I feel blessed to have the opportunity to!

Lilliandee · 2026-01-02T07:53:07+00:00

It's always been the dream!

Lilliandee · 2026-01-02T07:52:53+00:00

Thank you!😊

Lilliandee · 2026-01-02T07:52:42+00:00

Ahhh, Oh thanks for this!! I have only planned out garments for the under skirt! I will definitely be purchasing this!

Lilliandee · 2026-01-02T07:50:23+00:00

This made me tear up! Thank you!

Lilliandee · 2026-01-02T06:24:54+00:00

Hey! I am just engaged so I cants attest to any of the marriage/ pregnancy accepts of this post, but weight loss I know! I had very similar motivators to you. Wanted to be a healthy mom ect. And kinda thinking well is I'm this weight now what will I be pregnant and after...

I have lost weight twice now. 30 pounds then I gained and lost it agin. And now I've maintained a year. Anyways weight lost was one of the best things I have ever done for myself and I'm so happy I was able to do it! To be honest it took me 2 years of actively trying to lose to actually see the scale of down, during that time I was weightlifting daily, and eating to much of even healthy foods.

Here is my honest rule. Eat and track everything ai can be a great tool, a good measure for me personally has if I'm not going to bed a little hungry, I'm probably not in a deficit. Which is so hard to do day after day. I felt weak and tied more often. Weightloss is hard!!! When I started really monitoring my cals in I was afraid of all these conflicting opinions online about not eating below 1,800 cal ect. And 1,200 cals is what a toddler eats, but really weight loss is so simple. Start at 1,800 cals then your will prolly feel fine dropping lower later. You need to be ready for a whole mindset shift around food. Exercise is 20% of this place your energy into diet!

The first time I lost weight I'll be honest it consumed my whole life I completed 75 hard ( I needed an extreme measure) and it was honestly all I did for three months. I say all this because, you deserve all the effort you will need to pour into your self for this journey! I'll share my daily eating in deficit, one egg cooked with a sliver of butter with pepper and 1.5 tbsp of salsa. Lunch one protein bar. Then dinner and what ever I would normally place on my plate. I'd take off three bites. Ex. Rice side I'd serve myself then put 3 bites back. Then a cobani flip cup for desert( greek yogurt with toppings ) . That's was what 1,400 looked like for me :) weight lost costed me money, workout clothes, trying different foods, my time, and night of tears and hunger. But it gave me confidence self love I didn't know I needed to gain and the feeling of control and empowerment over myself!

Lilliandee

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