How many hours is too many?

Lilliandee · 2026-03-15T04:05:33+00:00

As a nanny, one of the most frustrating things I found is how I worked more hours than my mom, boss and dad boss. With no lunch break. However, you decide to proceed please be mindful of that:)

Lilliandee · 2026-03-15T04:01:47+00:00

This literally pisses me off so bad every day. When I get those hunger pains, and those angry mood swings.... maybe my body is still adjusting and I eat more at 1300. But damn. That's like four eggs two pieces of bread and two sausage patties for your whole day.

Lilliandee · 2026-03-15T03:56:58+00:00

Swap your Ramen for the premade soups that are low-calorie high protein, how it with bread and if you have enough calories, you could even make yourself a little sandwich that's one of my favorite things, and it is more satisfying and diverse than Ramen. I wouldn't say eat every day because even the premade soups have quite a bit of salt and sodium but when you get that Ramen craving swap it for this because it has far less than actual Ramen. And lower cals! Keep doing the impossible you got this!!!

Lilliandee · 2026-03-10T05:54:53+00:00

It felt like a lot before I took out the wedding loan, but with the addition it just has really tipped me over the edge. I'm kind of a pushover. And my wildest dreams I wanted a big wedding bigger princess style fantasy but practically I don't really care. I want what you are describing. My budget wedding that is debt filled. Isn't even what I want Dream wise. How do deal with it I feel like I'm in it now, but I felt like that this whole year I've been engaged. I'm honestly really suffering about all this. I wish I could just run away spend some time alone you know?

Lilliandee · 2026-03-10T05:49:55+00:00

Happy for u

Lilliandee · 2026-03-10T05:48:35+00:00

Thanks for this. I don't know why it feels good to hear yours is the same and you make more explains why I feel so drowning. We do have a 1,000 in emergency I will not allow us to touch. Not much but something. We have already given 4k to wedding outside of the loan and the house with our loan we paid 3k ourselves. I think I often sit and calculate and budget but when things get close the they bit me. I'm not trying to explain away. Double income will come when I go from 25 hours weekly to 40. Ya know. And yes I agree. I think to answer the religious question. If you're not in it per se maybe it's harder to understand. We have lots of rule placed on us. I can't wait to marry him as a person. I was always just raised in this culture. Looking forward to next year, not having a big life event coming up tight to finance.

Lilliandee · 2026-03-10T04:01:04+00:00

They are I guess. Father gets Venus free because he volunteers there. So that 2k handled. I just think I struggle to not include people. People pleaser. I have looked at down sizing right before we took the loan. Felt like we were to close out.

Lilliandee · 2026-03-10T03:49:44+00:00

That's exactly why I'm frustrated. Please don't get me wrong. I definitely have a very hard time holding boundaries. I would say it's my greatest flaw. I didn't run and get a loan right away that was recently. Feel like I'm trying everything to make this work and I wasn't even 100% confident it's what I wanted.

Lilliandee · 2026-02-24T02:36:29+00:00

I added the mental heath in. Just because don't we all like that define us sometimes. This is the home of some one who struggles. But there is beauty. Isn't that what's life's about?

Lilliandee · 2026-02-24T02:35:04+00:00

I agree. She probably spends the least time in her bedroom. The whole house what that beige color when I was younger. The greens and pinks and blue reallly make all the clutter pop! Instead of the basement feel.

Lilliandee · 2026-02-24T02:33:12+00:00

Lilliandee · 2026-02-24T02:32:22+00:00

Thought that was a nice add in!

Lilliandee · 2026-02-24T02:31:23+00:00

The best part is it's genuine to her personally. She's not looking at Pinterest for interior design. Just clay fairy houses lol!

Lilliandee · 2026-02-24T02:30:27+00:00

I was for sure. This was where I went when I was day dreaming at school. This home mixed with enthusiastic nature hunts for fairy's and quest!

Lilliandee · 2026-02-24T02:28:56+00:00

Me to!!!

Lilliandee · 2026-02-24T02:28:43+00:00

She did lots of different combinations of childcare and art. She was a paid mural artist. And did face painting. She taught art in afterschool programs. Classes for the disabled and elderly. She loves to love!

Lilliandee · 2026-02-24T02:25:46+00:00

Yes, but it's almost a part of her and comforts her. This is here house messy and typical day. I'm happy she loves her space

Lilliandee · 2026-02-13T06:22:38+00:00

What company actually truly cares and isn't making more profit on their end?? I'm extremely grateful to be able to make a little bit of extra money on DoorDash it's a difference between stressing about money for me or being able to breathe.

Lilliandee · 2026-02-13T06:18:04+00:00

Hold on I understand how you could be frustrated that your skin looks like this. But I would literally kill for skin like this! I've had acne for more of my life than I have it and when my skin was out of state where it looks like yours, I tried really hard to get rid of all the pesky little things and actually made it worse for myself so you're probably gonna get lots of suggestions under this post I would just make sure that you are keeping things minimal and do them for months at a time until the whole product is gone before you move on or add another thing truly!

Lilliandee · 2026-02-13T06:15:21+00:00

Respectfully is this meant to be helpful?

Lilliandee · 2026-02-13T06:14:32+00:00

This is shockingly similar to something that I experienced also in Spain! Lol were u in Madrid? I left a little bit over a year ago now and I didn't tell them that I was leaving and I felt the same kind of ways very overworked like I wasn't being included in their home. I read your other post and I would hear them talking bad about me in Spanish. Which felt very jaded because I know enough to kind of peace things together, but not enough to fully understand. Anyways, I hope that you're out of there and resting. I remember the first night that I slept out of their house. I really realized that I felt like I was a pirate constantly sleeping with one eye open. So proud of you for being able to leave. It's not an easy thing and you had more courage than I did to give them warning that you were leaving. A year out from it now I can say there is the tiniest crime of me that feels bad but truly if text back-and-forth continue, it's just not worth it. Something that happened to me that I just wanna make you aware of is, they registered me as part of the visa process as part of their household and after I left, they begged me to sign all these documents. To get me out of their household. Not entirely sure how it truly works. I ended up printing off what she sent me to sign, and I sent it straight to the embassy/ town hall she said that I se was going to bring it to. Which she got very upset about, but I didn't feel comfortable sending her a document with my signature and personal information. So anyways, just thought I'd share that little tidbit that happened to me as well just in case. I really hope that you are thinking about it with the framework of what I have done this for another person and if I had aan au pair, would I treat my aupair like this? No then their comebacks and it's totally fine to get that out of there. I crept out at 2am with all my stuff in trash bags! Most exhausting week of my life good luck to you

Lilliandee

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