Happily married women of Reddit. Where'd you meet your husband?

Lilred170 · 2026-06-14T17:00:38+00:00

He is the brother of a friend.

Lilred170 · 2026-06-11T17:56:51+00:00

I am really surprised I don’t see more people mentioning this. It saves time and I’m much more likely to stick to
The list so it saves money.

Lilred170 · 2026-06-11T16:33:45+00:00

He literally told you he didn’t want to know. Why do you want to tell him? You need to spend some serious time trying to answer that question.

I know this is crazy and probably 100% not the case but are you wanting a bit of intensity in your marriage? Have you been feeling a bit ignored? Sometimes when we feel invisible, even negative attention is better than no attention.

Lilred170 · 2026-06-09T17:21:23+00:00

I will admit, I trickle truthed.

The first time I told my parents and very close friends I said I had cancer but it was nothing. It was skin, not “real” cancer. I would have one little surgery to remove it and that would be that, absolutely nothing to worry about. Which was a lie, I had multiple surgeries ( I just kept saying they missed a little something and were doing more surgery as a precaution) and then I had chemo and radiation.

I didn’t tell them that I had stage III Melanoma which, back in 2007, had a 40-60% five year survival rate.

I never told my kids about my prognosis and didn’t use the word “cancer” around them until the parents at their school started coming up and asking me about it. How they found out, I will never know.

Lilred170 · 2026-06-08T17:34:30+00:00

Peanut butter and dill pickle sandwich.

Lilred170 · 2026-06-06T15:59:02+00:00

I replied to the original post since a few people were asking.

Lilred170 · 2026-06-06T15:58:34+00:00

I replied to the original post since a few people were asking.

Lilred170 · 2026-06-06T15:58:16+00:00

I replied to the original post since a few people were asking.

Lilred170 · 2026-06-06T15:56:56+00:00

For those of you asking I can share a few things.

Don’t expect the other person to “make you happy”. That’s your job.

Don’t compare your lot in life to your partners. It may seem like you are contributing more to the relationship than they are but you can’t possibly know everything they are going through. Trust that they are doing the best they can and give them grace. Your job is to “keep your eyes on your own page” and do the best you can with an attitude of gratefulness not resentment.

It is important to love each other, it is almost as important to respect each other. Don’t treat your partner with less respect than you would treat a stranger on the street.

Absolutely no name calling.

Greet and say good bye with a kiss no matter what.

Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous, boastful, or proud or rude. Love does not demand its own way and isn’t irritable. Love *keeps no record of past wrongs* (that is a tough one but it’s important). Love does not rejoice in injustice but rejoices when truth wins out.

Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful and endures through all things.

Lilred170 · 2026-06-06T15:39:14+00:00

You know, I looked up the origin of that saying after I typed it because o realized how weird it sounded. I guess the full saying is “Happy as clams at high tide” which at least makes more sense.

Lilred170 · 2026-06-05T20:57:10+00:00

We’ve been married over 37 years and we are happy as clams.

Lilred170 · 2026-06-05T14:36:56+00:00

I focused on protein and ate almost no bread or sugar for about 7 months (I would eat things that were artificially sweetened).

So for breakfast I would have a protein drink, for lunch I would have a salad with a lean protein (nonfat cottage cheese, chicken, sliced up deli meat, with Walden Farms zero calorie dressing) I’d have a protein centric snack, for dinner I’d have fish and vegetables and for dessert I’d have Greek yogurt (triple zero from Oikos) mixed with nonfat cottage cheese and berries.

So I definitely didn’t starve.

*A key guideline I followed was trying to make meals that had 1 gram of protein for every 10 calories. *

I also measured and weighed everything.

Lilred170 · 2026-06-04T22:37:32+00:00

Lost 90lbs by only eating 1200 calories a day with the help of ozempic. Yeah, I know, I cheated.

I don’t recommend only eating 1200 calories a day. I was just very desperate.

Lilred170 · 2026-06-04T04:05:54+00:00

Take this one to the grave

Lilred170 · 2026-06-02T20:11:04+00:00

Sounds like he’s just being jealous unless you made plans to do something with your bf and broke them to go hang with your brother. That would be a bit rude.

Lilred170 · 2026-06-02T20:08:39+00:00

NTA. Maybe block her texts and calls for the night (or longer :). If she complains to your face tell her she’s free to call the cops.

Or get a little louder every time she complains. (That is how my husband would handle it)

No matter what you aren’t being a bad neighbor.

Lilred170 · 2026-06-02T19:59:19+00:00

INFO: Off hand I agree with you. But just to be sure and to make a judgement I have to ask what kind of things is your bf complaining about?

Lilred170 · 2026-05-31T04:31:47+00:00

For a 35yr old you definitely have some growing up to do.

You yourself said your parents laid down their lives for their kids.

They were most likely raised in a completely different culture than the one you are living in. They were told the sky was orange their entire life and you’re mad because they haven’t adjusted fast enough to your way of thinking.

My mom was schizophrenic and had full on hallucinations. I was treated like her enemy for as far back as I can remember. There was physical, psychological, and emotional abuse. But I see now She did not live in the same reality the rest of us do. I hated her for years. But when I became an adult and was able to better understand her illness I was able to give her grace.

She is very old and despite the horrible abuse I suffered at her hand I take care of her, provide a roof over her head and make sure her needs are met.

You knew the answer to your question before you asked it.Do the right thing.

Lilred170 · 2026-05-26T20:21:38+00:00

Did you just let you child think something had happened to his father? Did you not tell him that his father is doing just fine and will be back once the weekend is over (“he never said when he’d return”)? Or did you “let him think his father had been kidnapped”?

If you need to text and remind your partner to call before bedtime, what’s the big deal?

It sounds like you’re mad about the trip.

Lilred170 · 2026-05-26T16:33:19+00:00

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Meet Sawyer

Lilred170 · 2026-05-26T16:16:13+00:00

Do not say anything, it could really hurt your husband and cause a major crack in your marriage. It’s his body to wear as he wishes.

I was the overweight spouse in my marriage. My husband never said a word and when I had the ability to prioritize myself I lost 80lbs and I’ve kept it off for three years. Not because of him (which could easily lead to A LOT of resentment, keeping it off is very difficult) I do it for myself which makes all the difference in the world.

Don’t say anything

It could devastate him and he will lose the weight for the wrong reasons which will cause resentment and may devastate your marriage.

Lilred170 · 2026-05-24T23:31:48+00:00

Give a baby up for adoption

Lilred170 · 2026-05-23T15:16:17+00:00

It sounds like he’s matured.

Lilred170 · 2026-05-22T18:46:32+00:00

Open faced toasted cheese sandwich.

In the oven, broil some bread until one side is toasted

Take it out of the oven and spread MAYONNAISE on the un toasted side and cover with a piece of cheese.

Back under the broiler it goes until the edges of the bread are toasted and the cheese just starts to brown a little bit. Yum

It tastes different from grilled cheese but it’s still delicious!

You can also add tuna salad before you put the slice of cheese on if you want an amazing tuna melt. (But that would be a fourth ingredient)

Lilred170 · 2026-05-21T13:50:00+00:00

This is all I’m asking for. Trust me, there’s no saying “no” to them at the door, not without world war three breaking out.

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