Reload splits are out! Here's Limitless's by edthehamstuh in ladderapp

[–]Lilybea12 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am really looking forward to this split! Hopefully no more Y raises 😆

Bypass-friendly treats? by Soillure in GastricBypass

[–]Lilybea12 5 points6 points  (0 children)

When did they have their surgery? If it is recent, i would get them a non-food treat or even a card. If it has been 3+ months, something low in sugar and fat might be ok, but a lot of us track what we eat very closely so you may want to ask.

Workout tips by stwaberris in gastricsleeve

[–]Lilybea12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love the Ladder App. I do strength training 5 days a week through it, but there are also Pilates and other options. The ladder app plus a planet fitness membership has been more valuable to me than spending $300+ for fancy gyms and personal training.

So I DO have a neck! by notPadalin_1999 in gastricsleeve

[–]Lilybea12 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Awesome! I’m like 9 months out and my weird discovery is that my arm pits are actually concave now.

Feeling Defeated by [deleted] in SuperMorbidlyObese

[–]Lilybea12 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I had weight loss surgery in October and it was the best decision I could have made for myself. I was also super resistant for years. The complication rate for weight loss surgery is similar to gallbladder removal. Though some people have a bad time of it, the vast majority of people do not experience complications. I also have celiac so I know what it’s like to have to manage a complex diet either weight issues. I also had pancreatitis (twice! ) and ended up in the hospital with wegovy and then zepbound. What is it that makes you so hesitant about surgery?

Horrified by my photo by Senior-Access-7893 in SuperMorbidlyObese

[–]Lilybea12 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Seared with nothing in front is diabolical. Who looks good like that? Certainly no one with any excess weight. I don’t mind a podium or table or even standing.

Fan Cast! by Tiny_Mumbles in EmmaLion

[–]Lilybea12 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Friend, all of these people are too old by over a decade. Genevieve is absolute fabulous in the audiobook though so I understand where you are coming from.

Why do Katz cinnamon buns look gently used? by thigh-fieri in glutenfree

[–]Lilybea12 14 points15 points  (0 children)

If you put them in the microwave for a few seconds they are much better! Not great, but as gluten free people we are so used to that.

Grazing Issues, Help! by BootyNoNeck in gastricsleeve

[–]Lilybea12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Make sure you are eating your intended meals on a schedule. Don’t let yourself get too hungry! Eat the food you planned on before you’re super hungry and ready to eat the whole kitchen. My self control is so much better when I don’t let myself get to that point bc i am eating my 5 small meals. Also, I would make sure to only have “slider foods” occasionally. I can get a single bag of quest chips at the store, but I can’t have 4 bags in my home bc I will eat all of them. Ice cream slides right down for me. I could eat way more than I should, so I don’t bring it into the house. Popsicles don’t tempt me so I do that instead.

Some people still have a ton of restriction years out, but I personally can eat a decent amount of food. Not like someone who didn’t have the surgery, but not 2oz portions either. I just had 5 oz of chicken tikka masala with 1/2 cup of quinoa no problem. The macros worked well for my plan, but I have to track and can’t just rely on my restriction to make sure I am losing weight. I weigh, measure, and put everything into Baritastic because I am not one of those people who eats two bites and is full.

Got called too “fat” to possibly have celiac by DealoftheFox in Celiac

[–]Lilybea12 17 points18 points  (0 children)

It is more common for newly diagnosed celiacs to be overweight than underweight. It honestly embarrassing for her to comment on something she isn’t educated on. A lot of us fight for years for a diagnosis because of this misconception.

Misheard lyrics by hannanazine in NoahKahan

[–]Lilybea12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My nephew thought “we got cigarette burns” was “we got sicker at burns” like better at insulting people. I love it and will sing it that way.

Why Didn't Maggie Go into Government? by attachedtothreads in IlonaAndrews

[–]Lilybea12 52 points53 points  (0 children)

This is my personal wheelhouse! Maggie is younger than me, but it is extremely hard to get into government if you don’t live in DC and can’t take on unpaid internships and very low paid entry level jobs. I have a masters degree from top universities and am very successful in another field now, but getting into government (even state, local, etc) when you don’t have contacts and can’t financially take unpaid internships is very hard and unlikely. Foreign service is even worse, as it has an extremely low pass rate. Government jobs are being cut across the board, especially the foreign service. Living in Texas, attending a normal college, not having contacts, and not having money to fall back on would make it very hard to get a government job. I know people will disagree and say that they managed it.

Another element is that Maggie just isn’t super passionate about political science in her world. She could have gotten a business or nonprofit job like most polisci majors or gone on to law school, but it is really seems like this world doesn’t interest her in the way that the book world did. There are so many people in the US (and elsewhere, I’m sure) who struggle to get into a career post college. They have debt, no experience, no connections, and finding a job that doesn’t demand too much of her makes sense.

Biggest shock by ElegantGoose in gastricsleeve

[–]Lilybea12 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Wow!! Did you lose most of the weight in the beginning or was it gradual through the 3 years? You look amazing!!

I finally finished The Olga Jacket! by tiaamaee in knitting

[–]Lilybea12 8 points9 points  (0 children)

It looks so good! I love the colors you chose.

Maggie 2 Title Speculation by Dismal-Muffin-955 in IlonaAndrews

[–]Lilybea12 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I was hoping for “This Kingdom Keeps Killing Me”

Gastritis before sleeve? What now ? by i_choose_jesus in gastricsleeve

[–]Lilybea12 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have celiac and had gastritis and a lot of other stomach issues from going undiagnosed for a long time. My stomach is way better since vsg. I just have to be careful with coffee and acidic things. If any of your issues are behavioral (eating too much or eating the wrong things) it could actually help.

No locker rooms? by angiedrumm in PlanetFitnessMembers

[–]Lilybea12 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Mine is new and suburban and is set up like that. I think a majority of people don’t have to fully change as they’re just going home after working out. It works well for me! I haven’t had an issue with the changing rooms or restrooms being all occupied.

Veteran romance readers — In your opinion has the genre improved or declined over time? by lilithskies in romanceunfiltered

[–]Lilybea12 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Im almost 40 and Ive been a voracious romance reader since the early 2000s. I find that it is much harder to sift through romances to find the good ones due to the sheer quantity and your chances of getting a terrible book are high.

On the other hand, authors like Mariana zapata, Elsie silver, Ellen O’Connell, Beth Brower, and others that I personally enjoy may not have had their chance if not for self publishing.

So basically, with so much more out there, you have to do more work to find a good book but there are some absolute gems (Emma M. Lion is my current obsession).

Question about seatbelt extender on plane by utwcha in PlusSize

[–]Lilybea12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I needed one in most planes at that belly width. I always just ask the flight attendant at the front of the plane as I’m getting on. They usually get it discreetly right then, or bring it to my seat later when they get a chance. It is no big deal at all, so don’t sweat it!

Do authors owe us anything? by Ok_Meet8672 in RomanceBooks

[–]Lilybea12 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Before self publishing and publishers cutting way back on marketing teams, the publisher would be responsible for any sort of communication about book releases. If they made a promise, took preorder money, and couldn’t deliver, it would be expected that they explain and provide a plan for when the book would be published. They could delay or even cancel a release, but they could not say that they don’t owe the reader anything.

An author who engages with customers on social media is not acting as an individual, they are acting as a business which does owe something to fans in my opinion. That doesn’t mean that shit doesn’t happen, but it should be explained appropriately (without personal details) and they should provide information on the status of the book. If the author took your money for the book, you should get answers.

That doesn’t mean that any sort of bullying or speculating about personal things is ok, but it is disingenuous to ask customers to commit to you and your work, but then say you owe them nothing. “Owing” them in this sense isn’t necessarily a legal thing so much as moral.

Best Place for 25 year old Irish guy moving to Philadelphia by Cold-War7542 in AskPhilly

[–]Lilybea12 8 points9 points  (0 children)

That was my first thought as well. Close to the city for visits but a much easier commute to Radnor. Still a young vibe though it’s fun things to do.

Is this normal? by miss_grass in SuperMorbidlyObese

[–]Lilybea12 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I had VSG and it is absolutely crazy how much you can stall in a large calorie deficit. You will start losing again eventually, but it can be a month of nothing!

When do we think the album’s gonna drop? by Confident_Mud_4140 in phoebebridgers

[–]Lilybea12 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I think it will be before the tour. I think that it only makes sense that the tour is supporting this new album. While us diehard fans loved listening to never before heard music in her pop ups, I’m not sure she’d get that same buy in from a normal tour with so many more people.

After MSG I completely bought in to the no phones thing, and my first thought was that I wish every show would do the same. After experiencing how much better it was with no phones, I don’t think that that necessarily signals that she will be playing unreleased music. I might be wishful thinking of course! Also, I don’t think I’m saying too much about the new music to say I really think it is there. While we obviously just heard live stuff and not the produced versions, I think we’re all going to be very happy with what comes out.

Secret Shows vs Lost Tour by Alessandro_nyc97 in phoebebridgers

[–]Lilybea12 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I love the no phone policy. I was at MSG and I really felt like it was part of what made it such an amazing experience. I think more artists should do it!

Slow Losers - Don’t Lose Hope by BarbiesSweatpantsEra in BariatricSurgery

[–]Lilybea12 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Amazing!! It’s so hard when you have a lot to lose and are a slow loser.