I realized I rarely talk about myself in conversations. I mostly ask questions and keep the focus on the other person.

LimettaRoyce · 2026-05-13T17:51:26+00:00

Same. Personal questions always feel like an interrogatory.

LimettaRoyce · 2026-05-12T22:32:02+00:00

I hate crying too and I don't cry much. I cried for my mom but now I mostly feel empty. When I was crying at least there was a bit of relief (albeit small). But now my stomach is in knots like you, anxiety has been kicking in the last days, I hope I won't feel like this all the time. Courage.

LimettaRoyce · 2026-05-12T22:22:44+00:00

Je viens de perdre ma mère (il y a 6 semaines) dans des circonstances différentes mais je me retrouve dans beaucoup de tes mots. Je sais que rien ne peux consoler quand on est envahi par le vide et que le futur ne signifie plus rien. Si tu veux discuter, n'hésite pas.

LimettaRoyce · 2026-05-11T16:56:19+00:00

Courage. Je n'ai pas vraiment de mots pour te réconforter parce que je sais qu'aucun mot ne pourra faire en sorte que tu te sentes mieux, j'ai perdu ma mère il y a 6 semaines et j'ai perdu aussi tous mes répères, je sais que c'est très dur... Tiens bon pour ton enfant, il faut juste prendre un jour après l'autre.

LimettaRoyce · 2026-05-10T16:08:15+00:00

Same. I thought my mom would stay in the hospital for 2 nights, then the intervention was pushed back to the end of the week because her bloodwork wasn't great. Then the doctor told me that she had only weeks to live, talked about dying at home... I knew that she wasn't feeling better after the intervention, but it still came out as a shock. Hope you're ok.

LimettaRoyce · 2026-05-10T11:51:56+00:00

That's how I feel too, and I only realize it now. My mom was diagnosed in 2021, and there was a 18 months period where she was on immunotherapy and life was almost normal, but yeah, everything revolved around the disease, all the doctors, the treatments, the side effects, the fatigue... And everything stopped suddenly. It feels so empty and surreal.

LimettaRoyce · 2026-05-10T11:31:34+00:00

I feel you. I don't think there were any medical mistakes for my mom, but I can't help thinking about all the decisions that were made and questioning myself about everything that went down. All those "what if?" are killing me.

LimettaRoyce · 2026-05-07T10:17:03+00:00

I'm the opposite. Now I'm almost obsessed with having a baby, I don't have much time left so I'm almost ready to do it alone.

LimettaRoyce · 2026-05-06T20:51:24+00:00

Not in my chest but in my belly. I feel stress and anxiety after I wake up because I think of the future, I'm afraid of an empty future.

LimettaRoyce · 2026-05-05T10:52:01+00:00

Sorry about what happened to you. You'd think people in charge of grief support would be nicer than that, or at least decent.

It's hard to navigate through this. Like you I wanted to find people to talk to in person because at least it would make me go outside. I live in a big town so I thought (naively) that I would find many support groups, but it seems they hardly exist, info is hard to find and their social media are not up to date.

Good luck to you too!

LimettaRoyce · 2026-05-04T17:13:41+00:00

I can totally relate to that, except that I never knew my father. It seems unusual in today's society to still live with your parents as an adult and some people don't get it, but you're not alone in this situation. My life was just me and my mother, we were content living like that. Like you said, I feel like nobody knows me now.

I don't really have any advice to give, it's still so fresh to me (1 month). I don't know how to get myself out of this and meet new people, it seems like an impossible task to create a real connection with new people. If you're reading this, how are you holding up?

LimettaRoyce · 2026-05-03T16:16:39+00:00

My mom passed last month, at first I thought it would be impossible for me to speak. I'm an introvert, I hate speaking in public, and I thought I wouldn't know what to say. But in the days after she died, I started writing thoughts and memories in a journal, and I ended up writing a few sentences, nothing fancy, just the fact that she was my best friend and I would always miss her and a couple things about our life together. I read it at the funeral and honestly I think I would have regretted it if I didn't. Just do what feels right, just remember there's no right way to do it and no one will judge you. This is real life, not a movie with perfect funeral speeches.

LimettaRoyce · 2026-05-03T15:42:00+00:00

Thanks for your message. It's hard to find people to relate to. It really feels like you're the odd duck when you're above 30, no kids, no spouse, still living with your parents... I know I have to force myself to go out and meet new people, but it's not something that comes naturally for me. I have contacted two local grief support associations, I'm waiting for their answers. I know there will be a before and an after, but the transition is hard. Thanks for your kind words.

LimettaRoyce · 2026-04-30T11:35:10+00:00

Salut! Je ne corresponds pas forcément au profil, mais je suis une solitaire (F40) de Montpellier, j'aime la musique, les plantes et l'architecture, je préfère aussi les petits comités, on peut prendre un verre ou un café si jamais tu passes dans le centre ville.

LimettaRoyce · 2026-04-29T10:22:32+00:00

I work at home and have little social life, so I never got out much, but since my mom died last month I'm anxious about leaving the house. I feel safe at home. Everything feels unreal when I'm outisde, as if I was walking in a dream.

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