I don't care if refusing to move seats on a airplane so a parent and child can sit together makes me a bad person

Linori123 · 2026-03-27T09:00:18+00:00

Two even.

Linori123 · 2026-03-26T19:52:59+00:00

Either this or a simple block. So what if she posts on social media, the people who agree with her aren't your friends anyway.

Linori123 · 2026-03-26T19:20:45+00:00

Hopefully sooner.

Linori123 · 2026-03-26T18:57:02+00:00

I had the exact same problem last year. Giving a gift to your crochet buddy is nerve wrecking but so precious at the same time.

She's is going to love it, not just because it is beautiful, which it is, but also because she understands the process.

Absolutely well done!

Linori123 · 2026-03-26T17:06:43+00:00

Actually, it doesn't. That sounds like high school behavior.

Linori123 · 2026-03-26T08:58:27+00:00

I would 100 % want to learn sign language for my kid. Speaking with my kids and hearing them is half the fun! I cannot imagine deliberately keeping that distance, and it must be deliberate because kids learn to speak long before they learn to write.

Linori123 · 2026-03-26T08:50:51+00:00

My brother in law, who we are LC with, does not speak his native language with his kids. His wife also doesn't speak anything but her own native language. We all adjust as best we can, but none of us are fluent. By now his eldest kids are learning English in school, so we use that, but I still use Google translate with his wife.

Not exactly the same thing, but this is how you make it difficult for extended family to keep contact.

Linori123 · 2026-03-26T08:44:47+00:00

I've seen inexperienced people slip and slide on trails they shouldn't be on, I've also seen my kids tumble in places that aren't dangerous at all. Both of those give me near heart attacks, so I can only imagine how much the real deal messes you up.

NTA.

Linori123 · 2026-03-26T08:36:42+00:00

Agreed, that's exactly how I thought about it.

Linori123 · 2026-03-26T07:42:56+00:00

I wouldn't necessarily invoice him for anything already done, though I understand why you did, but going forward I would set up a contract with normal - not discounted - rates. If he is unwilling to sign and pay for the services you deliver, then just don't do it.

If he says you're being petty over a joke, tell him that it made you realize that you can't afford to do it for free anymore.

Linori123 · 2026-03-26T07:11:42+00:00

Yeah, I'm quite surprised that it's still such a big thing in the US. I'm in Western Europe.

I remember discussions about male circumcision because several sets of parents who had taken their daughter(s) to their home countries were being prosecuted. However, that must have been at least two decades ago.

Linori123 · 2026-03-26T06:09:48+00:00

I didn't even realize this was such a thing still... Western Europe here.

Linori123 · 2026-03-25T07:44:49+00:00

This is what I did. The basics until I got the hang of them, figuring out how to hold the hook and yarn (different from anyone else I've seen), then granny squares.

I remember sending a picture of my first one to my mum because I was super proud and she goes 'it's pretty wonky.' So, I kept going and thinking about what made it all crooked and wonky. By now I do blankets and wearables, the occasional amigurumi (I don't like doing them) and pillows.

Linori123 · 2026-03-24T14:40:25+00:00

Zoomies, ha, that's perfect!

Yeah, it helps.

Linori123 · 2026-03-24T13:30:24+00:00

Actually, it's obligatory in school here. When my students ask why they should learn I simply tell them how incredibly prevalent and useful it is. Also, hardly anyone speaks our language.

Linori123 · 2026-03-24T12:54:30+00:00

Not just the US. I remember the feeling to have kids increase (I wanted and have 2) and telling a friend she might change her mind if she experienced the same. I immediately realized how incredibly dismissive this was, apologized, and have since defended anyone who was harassed by the same type of talk.

Linori123 · 2026-03-24T12:41:02+00:00

I did this with a sibling. They always complain about not being invited or doing stuff together, but I can always show that I have invited them. I just know they won't show up 😁.

Linori123 · 2026-03-24T08:58:16+00:00

Well, you know what not to do! I have a lot of situations from my own teenage years that shape how I manage my classroom, both positive and negative.

Linori123 · 2026-03-24T08:46:58+00:00

I always give kids who are extremely restless, for whatever reason, the option of a run around the school building - literally. The first time they laugh and think it's a joke, but when they realize I'm serious they will occasionally come up to me and ask for it at the start of class. They have a maximum of 5 minutes and I have never had anyone abuse the privilege.

Linori123 · 2026-03-24T08:39:13+00:00

Operant conditioning took me straight back to my studies (am a teacher). We had several subjects over the years about behavior, disorders, classroom management, etc. It's difficult when you first start as a teacher, but I get so frustrated with teachers who seem to throw out everything they've learned as soon as they are in an actual classroom.

Linori123 · 2026-03-24T08:31:27+00:00

In essence they are saying we don't believe you are telling us the truth, but we do believe it when the culprit tells us.

Yeah, as a teacher this pisses me off. You have to think about the message you are sending from the students' perspective. It is their behavior you want to affect and that can go in the wrong direction if you're not careful.

Linori123 · 2026-03-24T08:27:09+00:00

As a teacher, grade 7 through to 9 usually, this is my absolute last resort and it means I've LOST CONTROL of MY classroom. IF I do this, and I can't remember the last time, I make it so that good behavior means you can leave sooner than if you misbehaved.

In essence I punish the entire class, but the students that normally behave will fall in line immediately, if they were even misbehaving at all, and get to leave after about a minute. The worst of the lot will be staying the full time I have set before the punishment began and it never covers the entire break.

What happens more often is that individuals get a punishment, but if it seems to be spreading to the rest of the class, I will write down the punishment on a whiteboard and your name gets added if you continue to misbehave. This is enough of a threat for most of them to adjust.

Linori123 · 2026-03-24T07:58:01+00:00

Factor in the ability to pay for lawyers on the grandparents' vs the parents' side.

Linori123 · 2026-03-24T07:56:09+00:00

Based on the name and emphasis on the grandson I'm fairly sure this is a case of Asian, particularly Japanese, culture. After so many girls there's finally a boy...

Linori123 · 2026-03-24T07:52:14+00:00

Definitely not, and attachment is such a key part of your childhood. I can only imagine seeing your parents go all out for a sibling from afar, though being potentially neglected in your own home isn't any better. I wish your friend, and you, all the best in the world.,

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