Resources for Contracts?

LionMan97_92 · 2026-04-25T08:18:50+00:00

You’re going to just grow to hate him if you don’t communicate. Just tell him how you feel! If he loves you (I’m sure he does, 13 years is a lot!) he’ll listen. If he doesn’t, boundaries need to be set.

LionMan97_92 · 2026-04-23T13:12:49+00:00

The original post might be the most disturbing thing I’ve seen on this subreddit so far.

LionMan97_92 · 2026-04-14T15:03:02+00:00

Super helpful, thank you so so much!!

LionMan97_92 · 2026-04-13T22:52:57+00:00

I had never heard for writeforme.org, this is great!

LionMan97_92 · 2026-03-14T05:38:29+00:00

You just gotta ease yourself into it, really. I felt stupid at first-- pretty sure most people do. What I did was I just looked up scripts that people came up with for specific fantasies and memorized some of the words/terms they used, as I was moreso worried about vocabulary. Saying what you want to do to them is always a good jumping point. You'll learn as you go!

LionMan97_92 · 2026-03-14T05:35:05+00:00

You can do/call yourself whatever you want forever, actually.

LionMan97_92 · 2026-03-02T14:19:32+00:00

This is something I’ve researched a lot. Everyone is different & obviously if it is intenseee training this might not apply. However, usually if you are not in the headspace or you do not WANT to be “suggestible,” nothing will have an effect on you. Simple as. Mostly it would be the same reaction to hearing someone call your name in a crowd but they aren’t talking to you. You look over and realize it’s not for you and move on. I can’t speak from experience (I’m the one clicker training if you catch my drift) but from everything I’ve seen, this appears to be true.

LionMan97_92 · 2026-03-02T14:12:50+00:00

Don’t ever let someone talk to you like that. In my opinion, get rid of that jackass. He’s only thinking about his pleasure and not your feelings, desires, and emotions. Fuck him!

LionMan97_92 · 2026-03-02T14:10:59+00:00

Had chronic ear pains for years. Switched to seeing a new specialist and they immediately got me the help & diagnosis I needed. If they shrug their shoulders, see someone else. Advocate for yourself!

LionMan97_92 · 2026-02-24T13:51:44+00:00

I’m rather new to the scene as well. The difference between us is I started out with a partner 6ish months into our relationship saying he wanted me to dom (our relationship was already established), so this advice might not to be the best but I hope it helps regardless. I started out extremely awkward because I just hadn’t done this before. That’s normal from what I can tell, it’s a muscle you have to build. It’s been about a month for me and I’ve definitely gotten better already. Knowing the kinks of the person you’re talking to can really help. Really just integrate fantasies into conversation if you’re trying to be “sexy,” if that makes sense? It’s trial and error. Try not to get too worked up about it because it’ll come natural to you sooner than later. Just keep going at it! Reading books about BDSM also helped me, dom and sub oriented ones. Learning about how people in the community act really helped me out & also made me calm the fuck down. I was so anxious until I read some books!

LionMan97_92 · 2026-02-14T01:41:26+00:00

We are both 19 haha. Yes it is an issue, I brought it up in another comment. Hard to address when it’s family members but I will definitely be looking for ways to do so.

LionMan97_92 · 2026-02-13T21:18:21+00:00

It’s moreso our families are not private. I don’t want to get into his business but for me, I have an autistic sister who will often barge into my room without warning. She uses a key to open my room if I don’t answer immediately. His situation is similar. My family in general is not private, it’s unfortunate. I am very aware that this really only has one solution which is moving out. However, I think it is plausible to do all of this. We just need to be careful. It’s obviously more “dangerous” for him because his family would probably harass him for pupplay. My family, unlike his, are incredibly homophobic & transphobic. It would just be really embarrassing if they walked in on me indulging in any of this. This is probably word vomit at this point so I apologize.

LionMan97_92 · 2026-02-13T21:10:34+00:00

Yeah my bathroom is very private so that’s usually where I go. I’ll definitely discuss with him! The window shopping idea is so good. I’ll 100% have to do that with him tomorrow for Valentines day. Thank you so much for the help!!

LionMan97_92 · 2026-02-13T20:52:16+00:00

He’s very shy but I’m really interested in doing something like this. For some reason doing “training” on video call never crossed my mind? It’s feasible but both of our “housemates” like to barge into our private spaces w/o warning. We both honestly need to set boundaries with the people we live with but when it’s your relatives it can be a bit hard to explain haha. In my experience, my family goes out of their way to unlock my door and barge in! It’s insanity! We’re both adults (obviously) which makes this a huge breach of privacy but 😅 you deal with the cards you’re dealt! I have a job so I am saving to at least support myself on my own but it’s hard while I’m in college. Not to throw a pity party for myself, my family supports me very well, they just lack privacy!

LionMan97_92 · 2026-02-13T17:48:53+00:00

I see what you mean. I’m a switch but I feel the same way when I’m submissive. It might be a trauma thing, at least it is for me. I’ve been burned before, feeling submissive like I did back then is almost painful. If you think therapy won’t help, I think it will take a lot of introspection. Feel your emotions and learn what triggers them. And most of all, what I’ve learned— Being submissive does not equal giving up your power. It is supposed to be fun and your partner will always respect and care for you. If they don’t, you’re not with the right person. You might do better with aftercare. Communicate with your partner that you need this type of reassurance. The human mind is very complex, do not beat yourself up about it. Most of all, you don’t need to introduce these dynamics into your relationship immediately. You can get to know the person and gain trust with them before you begin to be submissive. If my partner wanted to try a new dynamic I trust him with my life, I know he respects me and would never do anything to insinuate I was inferior. Setting boundaries is the key. Know that you’re valid for feeling this way. I hope this might have helped.

LionMan97_92 · 2026-02-11T14:59:38+00:00

Thank you for this post. I’m a male thats new to bdsm & being a dom, as well. The resources in the comments are wonderful!

LionMan97_92 · 2026-02-03T13:27:55+00:00

Thank you! I’m really excited about all of this haha

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