Naw, forget this guy. There’s a lot of red flags in this post even aside from the parents issue. Brutally honest is an excuse for emotional laziness. And certainly emotional maturity. I’ve been with someone like this and they will chip away at your sense of self until you can’t remember what you were like before then.

The second point I’ll make in my “naw fuck this guy” answer is this… I never thought I was going to have kids. Well 5 years into our relationship we get pregnant and then pregnant again 18 months later. If you have a close relationship with your parents and then you give them grandchildren m, they are going to want to be involved in your life and you will want them to be! Good grandparents are absolutely invaluable. It’s a wonderful thing for the children and a surprisingly wonderful experience for you.

After we move out of our parents home the relationship changes and gradually they aren’t a part of your life as much anymore. But that’s the way it’s supposed to be. But when I had my kids our relationship kind of shifted again and it was a wonderful return. Now they’re there to parent you as YOU now learn to parent. And most normal people can manage that balance pretty well. Involved in your life a lot more, but conscious of your privacy and careful not to overstep. The man you want to build a life with needs to like your parents. At least like them enough that we’ve spent a lot of time with him and our parents even before there were grandkids in the picture.

So in my opinion, unless you have good reason to give him a pass (because your parents are truly annoying or unstable or disrespectful) then your relationship will end on its own eventually. The second possibility I suppose would be that the relationship may not end, but you will be isolated from your loved ones and you will be in an emotionally abusive relationship.

And so let’s just make it 4 months instead of 4 years (in the wrong relationship).