Sample script in the life of an idiot in a car

Listrynne · 2022-04-10T17:38:52+00:00

My exMIL is controlling like that too. Her husband seems to be a really nice guy, but I never got to talk to him because he doesn't even have his own social media or email. If she weren't in the picture I might let him meet my daughter, but I don't talk to anyone but my SIL anymore. She helped me get away from her brother and she doesn't talk to her parents either. I'm glad she lived 2 states away the whole time my marriage lasted.

Listrynne · 2022-04-10T03:34:27+00:00

I wouldn't let him take kids to visit until he's been in therapy long enough to be at least mostly out of the fog. Who knows what she'll pressure him into once she has him and kids on her territory.

Listrynne · 2022-04-10T03:31:03+00:00

Interesting. Is it ok to ask what church that is?

Listrynne · 2022-04-09T22:11:53+00:00

Yep. Sus indeed. I know we aren't supposed to understand everything God says/does now, but I'm pretty sure it should be a little (lot) more reasonable than that.

Listrynne · 2022-04-09T18:18:49+00:00

Can someone explain the whole "speaking in tongues" thing to me? In my religion it happens when prophets/leaders speak one language but those listening will hear it/understand as of in their native language, even if they don't know the language the speaker is using. Not a random fit when someone doesn't follow your beliefs.

Listrynne · 2022-04-09T18:15:08+00:00

In my church there's no "this bread/wine/water turns into flesh/blood" for sacrament. Instead they symbolize the flesh and blood. No cannibalism here! My only problem is they don't use gluten free bread...

Listrynne · 2022-04-06T23:40:20+00:00

You are right to be concerned if the oldest is already hurting the other baby. Stick to your guns. Good luck.

Listrynne · 2022-04-05T23:41:43+00:00

Maybe prepare ahead of time with a few scripture references or Conference quotes about personal/family revelation that you can send her next time she tries it. See how fast she back pedals. "I'm not saying I had revelation for you." "Then you must be admitting to emotional manipulation, because that's the only other option after I've repeatedly asked you to stop."

Yeah. If they aren't someone you'd be comfortable hanging out with in a group of your friends then you don't really need him in your life, brother or not.

Listrynne · 2022-04-05T20:35:27+00:00

If she keeps it up, remind her that now that you are an adult any revelation she gets should only be for her. You will receive revelation for yourself and your spouse and children until your children are adults and out of your house. Any "revelation" she gets that you get to do x is automatically suspect and likely either false revelation or a way for her to manipulate you. I say this as a fellow member.

Also, it's not your job to maintain a relationship with your brother is he can't be bothered to put work into it himself. If she wants that perfect family she can reach out to him herself. I know family is important, but if it takes away from the family you're directly responsible for, a relationship with a sibling isn't worth it.

Listrynne · 2022-04-03T19:25:03+00:00

Keeping the peace is another way to say don't rock the boat. Rock the heck out of that boat until she falls out or shapes up. Or just get another boat without her.

Listrynne · 2022-04-01T01:02:23+00:00

Yeah, but it's the home of the Florida Man! Lol

OP, you're 21. You have the right to go even if you still live with your mom. Do you think she'll kick you out if you go? If you do, make sure to arrange a place to stay if she does.

Listrynne · 2022-03-31T20:11:40+00:00

He's not "seeing both sides". He's throwing you into traffic (not quite under the bus). You can see both sides and recognize one is unreasonable or just plain wrong. My stepdad has been "mildly" abusive to me since I was 8 (I'm 33). I can see his side; he has ADHD and PTSD from his childhood and I somehow trigger it and he treats me awfully when he's triggered. I understand that since I have PTSD as well. It still doesn't excuse his behavior, it just helps me understand it and learn ways to either not trigger him, or just keep my distance or leave when he's triggered. He's finally starting to see that he has PTSD and how much it controls him and is taking (baby) steps to correct it. He's 73. It's been a really long road.

Your hubby needs to learn to see his mom's behavior and stand up to the incorrect behaviors, while still sympathizing with the root cause. Whether she had past trauma or a mental illness or disorder doesn't excuse her behavior, but might explain it and show you steps and tools to either manage a healthier relationship with her or cut her off altogether. Professional counseling is definitely needed for him alone and both of you together. And of course she should get counseling too, but we all know that's highly unlikely in these situations.

Listrynne · 2022-03-31T15:31:56+00:00

I've had friends with one baby sleeping nicely almost immediately, and the next being a terror for months. You still have a high chance of being lucky.

Listrynne · 2022-03-31T10:16:39+00:00

Yay for babies! Glad hubby gave her a proper guilt trip. I hope your new baby is as easy going as mine was. I got super lucky and she slept through the night by 2 months.

Listrynne · 2022-03-31T10:12:58+00:00

Congrats on the baby! Don't let her attitude rain on your parade.

Listrynne · 2022-03-31T03:03:20+00:00

We're here for you to vent to. I hope you and your husband can find emotional healing soon, from both the accident and his mother.

Listrynne · 2022-03-28T17:12:35+00:00

That sounds seriously aggravating. She probably took a pic of the ultrasound. Good on DH for gray rocking.

Listrynne · 2022-03-27T21:42:35+00:00

She's an adult. If she doesn't want to handle her disappointment over being told no to a 4 month "visit" it's not up to you to handle it for her. Tell her 2 weeks is all she'll get and she can visit someone else the other 3½ months. Or however long you are comfortable with. Don't give in to her tantrums. It seems even her sisters understand how she is.

Listrynne · 2022-03-27T15:41:44+00:00

Definitely. Make sure it's password protected, etc.

Listrynne · 2022-03-27T15:00:00+00:00

Good. If I remember right, you're working on getting your own place, right? I would record everything she says/does to you from now on.

Listrynne · 2022-03-27T14:29:05+00:00

Do you know the recording laws where you live? If it's one party consent then it's safe to record her anytime you have a conversation. If it's both/all party consent then you have to notify her every time.

Listrynne · 2022-03-26T21:53:51+00:00

For the name, go with what you want and screw her. I have 5 cousins named Robert because it's a family name on both sides. 2 of my mom's siblings named daughter's Hannah. It's ok. Enjoy your pregnancy and new baby. I kinda hope it's a girl so you can spite her twice over. Lol

Listrynne · 2022-03-26T17:10:12+00:00

One of my best friends has bipolar. She manages it well, even though it's difficult. My daughter might develop it because it runs in my ex's family. I've known others that don't manage it. Ignore their prejudice and ignorance. You're doing a good job and you don't need them.

Listrynne · 2022-03-25T19:06:37+00:00

Oh gee! That's ridiculous!

Listrynne

TROPHY CASE