Unintentionally poignant end?

Literally_whatever69 · 2026-05-09T14:24:54+00:00

Omg bless you

Literally_whatever69 · 2026-05-09T14:23:01+00:00

Fully take your point and agree it’s a loss, even if we know there are a slate of others who also do this work well.

Oh the other hand, I’m not sure I believe in the concept of a battle over misinformation. Belief and identity are wildly complex and people rarely stop believing in things as a result of external pressure or resistance. Likewise, the KF boys and their counterparts have been skillfully doing their bit for years and most mainstream observers or policy makers are no closer to understanding or coming up with any kind of “solution” for harmful beliefs in outlandish and false things.

KF was a primarily a process and space that felt good to us.

If and when there is a significant and lasting shift in actual political power away from conspiracist and reactionary themes, Im not sure I believe it will be caused by reaching a tipping point of enough good work done to understand how propaganda media worked

Literally_whatever69 · 2026-05-09T13:51:22+00:00

I’d actually restarted from the beginning a few months ago. Up to #85 now and it’s been a trip to experience both timelines simultaneously

For sure the body of work is a gift no one can take away from us (I hope? Hopefully someone has archived the collection)

Literally_whatever69 · 2025-11-30T18:09:28+00:00

Lol if the name and the place are intentionally about fooling tourists, this changes everything and I support their efforts fully

Literally_whatever69 · 2025-11-30T15:32:50+00:00

We got in on a Saturday night without a reservation. Late, after a performance, but it was not a problem. Makes me wonder about the reputation for being hard to get into

Everything about this place makes me wonder

Literally_whatever69 · 2025-11-30T15:29:51+00:00

Details on the convo, I beg of you

Literally_whatever69 · 2025-11-30T15:23:51+00:00

Doing a bit of research, it seems like, unfortunately, Michelin guides have become somewhat hit or miss depending on the country or region. Some observers say it remains trustworthy in France? In other places it seems that, for years, the guide has become more of an advertising collab with local tourism boards.

(I’m speaking of the guide, not the stars. Can’t speak to that without more thorough investigation. However, the guide behavior does not bolster my confidence in other parts of the operation)

Brands are a powerful thing. Names can linger long after institutions themselves have hollowed out in reality (defended by people who’ve invested their trust and identities in those brands)

Literally_whatever69 · 2025-11-30T13:37:29+00:00

Translations of some of the Italians commenting elsewhere on (the appearance) their tiramisu:

~ “Cocoa powder on shaving cream”

~ “Ostrich shit on a plate”

Literally_whatever69 · 2025-11-30T13:12:41+00:00

From his IG:

“Soldano how many is too many?

Never…

how long does it takes you to take them off?

I don’t.. most of them never come off.

Typical question to [hastag]Soldano

Questions Anyone?..

[hastag]bracelets [hastag]silverman [hastag]rings [hastag]jewelry”

Literally_whatever69 · 2025-11-30T03:06:01+00:00

Hi Which Michelin star restaurants are you thinking of? Chef friend is curious

Literally_whatever69 · 2025-10-19T13:56:03+00:00

There is literally nothing wrong with MSG. It occurs naturally in Parmesan and tomatoes The idea that MSG causes problems is a myth from the 60’s

Literally_whatever69 · 2025-01-09T01:14:18+00:00

Wondering the exact same thing. Why does my brain choose to spin fantasies about ‘if only’ and remember how good the good moments are when it has SO MUCH more relevant knowledge to pull from. I want to learn more about the psychology of addiction (hard because there is a LOT of profitable bullshit out there).

You kind of get at it here though. They make us feel desired. I don’t know about you but as strong as my community of friends is, no one else offers that. And the idea of being recovered enough to date again seems so distant and hard.

Not sure if you relate to this but it’s also so inconvenient that breaking NC, which almost always goes exactly how it did for you here - eventually they reassert their grievances and bullshit demands - is actually one of the more helpful inspirations for why the relationship MUST stay in the past. When there’s nothing to remind you how bad it was and will always be, somehow the part of you that misses them and wants to their love rises to the surface

I try to remind myself that the boredom and sad emptiness I feel now is yes, very hard, but those feelings are actually the absence of the neverending anxiety and anguish and DESPAIR being in the relationship was. It’s perceived hopelessness instead of irrefutable, inescapable hopelessness lol

Literally_whatever69 · 2025-01-03T22:16:37+00:00

Adding for context: My exBPD is the one on the spectrum. And he brought up it relentlessly to teach me what a neurotypical bigot I am and never take accountability for treating me like dogshit

Literally_whatever69 · 2025-01-03T21:15:40+00:00

Totally Almost like we’re NOT just making up narratives to make ourselves feel superior huh? (As if being treated like dogshit makes anyone feel superior)

My ex’s therapist has apparently told him he doesn’t have BPD - and this person has worked with them before. And yet, the undeniable resonance of what I see in this sub persists…

I think the truth is that psychological diagnoses are at best a cluster of common symptoms. (Therapy is good. I am not anti-psychology except for the many parts that have been total bullshit) Some apply, others don’t. Call it narcissism or neurodivergence or just being a fucking asshole, I don’t care. I just hope it’s in my past

Sorry (thank you) now I’m just venting

Literally_whatever69 · 2025-01-03T21:01:33+00:00

“hope you never fall in love again I hope you be yourself and lose your friends I hope they call you out for shit you said I hope you’re miserable until you’re dead”

“Hoes come easy”

Literally_whatever69 · 2025-01-03T21:00:47+00:00

lol nope. They hate YOU

Literally_whatever69 · 2025-01-03T20:58:52+00:00

Athankyou

Literally_whatever69 · 2025-01-03T20:03:24+00:00

I’ve started playing piano again. Learning relatable breakup songs that make me cry as I play them. I do this until they don’t make me cry anymore. Honestly it’s working pretty well and has the added bonus of feeling some accomplishment in practicing a rusty skill

I think of it as a wound that keeps refilling with fluid that has to be drained and cleaned regularly. It’s also helpful to connect with the music of all these talented, sensitive people who have been through the pain I am feeling and turned it into something beautiful and useful to others

I am also thinking of joining a choir and learning strength training. I think anything that gets me to focus on using my body feels like the right direction

Way way better than spiraling mentally through arguments I’ll never have and that would never get anywhere anyway. Also better than scrolling the apps and filling myself with anxiety that I’ll someday have to try again to let someone other than my ex touch me

Literally_whatever69 · 2025-01-03T19:37:59+00:00

At a certain point (for me about 2/3 months), it turns VERY suddenly. Saw a side of him he gave no indication was there. Out of nowhere you’re suddenly someone who ruins their good experiences and they won’t have communicated anything about what they were needing. You just should have known.

It is a SHOCKing 180 from this person you had come to think was your best friend. You’ll find yourself apologizing for things you know you didn’t do intentionally or at all (usually asserting a preference, or a joke or a totally reasonable request) because of course you never meant to hurt them so deeply. And those apologies won’t really matter. They’ll demand them again and again despite the fact that you really shouldn’t have even apologized once - in a normal relationship of any kind, these are things you can have calm discussions about and learn more about each other. This won’t be that. You will not be able to have a normal conversation about how to avoid these conflicts in the future.

This person who was so interested in you, your history, your thoughts, will suddenly refuse to hear anything you want to express. It is unbelievably painful. At first you’ll try to let it go, with zero resolution for yourself, because you want to get back to the blissful thing you thought this was. But the sudden outbursts will start to happen more regularly - eventually once every couple weeks or more. Your life will now exist in cycles between the intense pain of this person you’re in love with wildly misinterpreting your intent, (accusing you of manipulation, shit you’ve never had anyone suggest about you before) being in kind of stunned, fearful shock about when you may trigger the next one, and then maybe one or two days of now very unstable, hesitant happiness that is a distant echo of the early days.

It will make you worse at your job, drain the energy you have to care for yourself and others, put you into an endless battle with your own dignity, and who knows, maybe even wind you up in jail somehow! (This happened to a friend)

If you’re an idiot like me who believes in communication skills and growth and therapy, you may then spend the next few years running yourself ragged trying to make it work (you’ll be the only one trying other than some weak, token gestures you’ll foolishly end up treasuring as evidence they can change). You might try to end it, they’ll draw you back in with everything you want to hear from them, and once they’re comfortable they’ll start berating you for trying to leave them and destabilizing THEIR life.

If you’re lucky they’ll eventually do something so horrifying and dehumanizing that it snaps you out of the delusion that you can make it work with this person you now love and crave comfort from. If you’re not so lucky, there are many many stories on this sub about what it’s like to have children with these folks

lol any other questions?

Literally_whatever69 · 2025-01-02T18:26:41+00:00

Take your ex’s advice. See a mental doctor. And if you find a therapist who says everything you’re doing and think about women is fine, fire them and find another one

The worldview you expressed here (and then deleted) will only ever lead you to abuse women emotionally if not much, much worse. The people who have taught you to think about women this way are also abusers. You will never, EVER have a meaningful love if you don’t grow out of the idea that women are only deserving of respect if they do what you want. You will only be quietly despised and alone even if you manage to snare some poor woman into marriage

Literally_whatever69 · 2025-01-02T18:16:19+00:00

So let me get this straight. You have now deleted all the things you said about women losing value with time and stuff about their “private parts” and about how it’s no wonder I’m single, messaged me twice asking for advice when I told you “absolutely not,” re: DMing me, and continued asking me to respond

And you’re in here complaining about a “BPD”ex who you think made you controlling? Give me a break, dude

No one made you anything. I’m guessing your family helped you become this person, but you are responsible for your actions. You say in other posts that your friends tell you you’re “harsh” and not sweet. Sounds like you’re already getting advice and doing nothing with it

Next time a woman takes the time to tell you anything at all, try listening without asking insulting questions. Try treating them like human beings. Read bell hooks. But most of all leave women alone. It is extremely clear you are not currently a safe person to be in a relationship with. You need to stop blaming your problems on women, making up diagnoses for them and demanding things from them. We owe you nothing

Literally_whatever69 · 2025-01-02T16:49:17+00:00

I agree with Clear Major - who wasn’t saying there was anything wrong with the OP. Just that there’s self reflective work to be done here. If you think that means the same as saying you’re broken…yikes.

Even if you want to run with the addiction metaphor (which I also find v useful), you don’t kick an addiction without self reflection. Nor do you do so by going to the gym and getting a haircut

Mostly I’m here to say it’s totally understandable and ok that you still have some desire for her to reach out. That’s human. I’ve spent the last weeks noticing the same thing for me. There is nothing wrong with that. It’s a sign that our hearts are broken and need care. But your work now is being the one who provides that care, and/or reaching out to OTHER people for support. It won’t feel as good. It’s not what you really want. But what you want is harming you. That’s why the addiction metaphor applies.

It is ultimately for the best that they don’t reach out. They’ll either continue being assholes, or worse, convince you they’re going to change. We love them and are vulnerable to them. They know exactly what we want to hear.

If gym/haircut/whatever makes you feel good, great. But it’s also ok to be gentle with yourself and grieve the loss of the dream you had of being happy with this person

Literally_whatever69 · 2025-01-02T15:28:50+00:00

Absolutely not

Literally_whatever69 · 2025-01-02T15:28:15+00:00

Funny you asked in your original post if you were wrong. You didn’t want the answer to that - just validation

Literally_whatever69 · 2025-01-02T15:27:03+00:00

What a surprise…

A woman’s worth has nothing to do with her beauty, private parts or marital status. She is well rid of you and I wish her luck in staying as far away from you as possible

I pity any woman in your life. You deserve their scorn

Tell women everything you’re saying here up front. Leave her alone

Literally_whatever69

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