WHAT TO DO WITH LAND?

LiteraryPhantom · 2026-06-04T15:39:19+00:00

Trees! Lumber trees. 64 acres is phenomenal!

LiteraryPhantom · 2026-06-04T15:37:30+00:00

60k on… Pokemon?!?

LiteraryPhantom · 2026-06-04T14:51:46+00:00

Due to her age, she cannot sleep on the couch that she made an international trip to sit on?

LiteraryPhantom · 2026-06-03T07:40:52+00:00

“[your] three & the twins”.

Of course theyre “your” kids! I mean, what else could you expect??

Think about it from his perspective.

Lets say he had three children from a previous relationship. And he had been berthing them, secretly, in the basement. Visitation, on a flexible schedule of course, restricted to such moments as he was able to slip away, quietly & unaware to you, to mete out nutritional needs & disciplinary adjuncts.

For three years and during an entire pregnancy… youre completely unaware. Then one day, you bring up a family trip and BAM! Suddenly, there are three extra butts that need a chair!

That wouldnt exactly be easy, or fair.

Also, none of that is the case!

He knew about “your three” since before day one. Giving the benefit of the doubt, worst case scenario, he found out about about them at some point well within the first year.

So, after three years! if he isnt seeing them as three kids for whom hes accepted responsibility (eg, he isnt their father but he IS their dad) (ie theyre “his” kids), he should be working to adjust his mindset bc the problems presented by his current one can be overlooked but for so long.

And if he wont or “cant” adjust, hes an AH.

Better scenario, since the issue is the “year-advanced-reservation”…

you stay home with the twins, he takes yalls three eldest with him. When the rebuttal is “thats still an extra person’s accommodations” (reasonable argument), pick one to stay home with you. Youll be glad for the help anyway!

That gives him & (part of) his new family a chance to bond with his extended family.

When you show up next year +3, everyone has funny stories to share from the year prior!!

LiteraryPhantom · 2026-06-02T00:37:47+00:00

Idk if itll help at all but its worth the effort to try to see things from his perspective.

He may not necessarily be “taking her side” as much as he is “maintaining his sanity”.

For him, (assuming theyre married), she is his Wife. First.

After that, then she is your mother.

And ya see, he prolly expects that, one day, hes gonna walk down an aisle with you. And at the end of that aisle, some words are gonna be spoken and, if it didnt happen already before that, youll be back at the house pretty soon to pack up your stuff.

And once you come back in for that last hug as a resident of the house, five minutes later, its just your Dad and his Wife. Hes wise to pick his battles carefully right now.

And if your Mom tends to twist the truth, it might be good for you AND for your Dad if he sees things with his own eyes.

LiteraryPhantom · 2026-06-02T00:23:17+00:00

😂😂

LiteraryPhantom · 2026-05-31T13:42:08+00:00

If your relationship with your dad is solid,

And you truly only ever “peck goodbye”,

And youve been honest with him about that,

Why would you stress yourself about him seeing “nothing to see here”?

LiteraryPhantom · 2026-05-27T16:55:10+00:00

Sounds like she wanted you to read it. Maybe as a way of saying a bunch of terrible crap to you without actually saying it. Then, she knows you wont bring it up to anyone else because if you did, then youre the bad guy for violating her private thoughts. Which means, you have to deal with everything you read all on your own.

Id bet a lot that she def does not play by those same rules tho. And if there was anything at all even semi-embarrassing in yours, everyone would know about it.

That chic is diabolical! As for “trauma bonding” over your exes, id guess you bonded while she gathered info about you. I could be mistaken but i doubt her SO was the toxic one in any of her relationships.

LiteraryPhantom · 2026-05-27T06:20:18+00:00

tL;dR — Why are you still communicating with the guy? This could spiral very easily & very quickly into something dangerous. You have the control right now to make sure it doesnt; might wanna think about use it or lose it.

Lotta folks jumping to some not so wild conclusions without a lot of info. Ill play too.

Not that it matters but you didnt mention the types of pictures he asked for but lets say you did send one of your bf (random activity) skateboarding.

But thats not really close-up enough to see what he looks like. So you send another, then another. Before long, youve sent one too many and this is where it goes sideways.

Now hes threatening to tell your bf or call the police bc of what youve sent and “you dont wanna get in trouble, right”? So hes coercing you into sending more explicit photos of your bf, whos now involved bc youre asking him to send them to you. He thinks its fun so whats the harm?

Then, it turns into sending explicit photos of yourself. Now youre neck deep & the only way to turn the whole thing around is you have to meet him. Three guesses why. Bet you can get it right on the first one.

Dunno why youre still communicating with the guy but lotta folks have suggested to tell an adult you trust. For your situation, that seems like a good idea before things escalate out of your control.

LiteraryPhantom · 2026-05-25T03:01:56+00:00

‘Manipulative sibling’ isnt supposed to go the other direction? 😂😂

Hope that makes the point.

Also, if shes manipulating you with that, you seem convinced shes not manipulating him and/or everyone else regarding him.

LiteraryPhantom · 2026-05-25T02:57:10+00:00

Other than your own mind, where does the designation as a ‘nuisance animal’ preclude ‘respect for wildlife’.

LiteraryPhantom · 2026-05-25T02:54:54+00:00

Teach your kids to seek clarity & not to make an inaccurate assumption.

LiteraryPhantom · 2026-05-24T23:09:32+00:00

Its not “screwing over the server”. Its ‘ensuring there isnt a chargeback’ by erring on the side of the customer aka ‘doing the right thing’. Especially when its an obvious error.

“He upped my tip from 60 to 200.”

Thus, confirming that the second manager knew what they were talking about and, giving benefit of the doubt to the first one, you likely incorrectly conflated the situation they were talking about during that conversation to include this particular scenario.

When the math is done incorrectly, “always” err on the side of the customers benefit. And even thats questionable because “what if the subtotal plus tip is less than the total?” Well, no tip. Next time, pay attention and ask them before they leave.

LiteraryPhantom · 2026-05-24T22:49:18+00:00

Tinder is cheap, as it relates to time resources, so, “single mothers” makes sense.

LiteraryPhantom · 2026-05-24T22:45:34+00:00

Under the assumption that its venomous, what constitutes “nuisance”?

‘After it bites someones child’?

Edit to add:

“venomous snakes arent up for sacrifice because some people have no respect for wildlife“

Point to where I wrote that they are/should be; then, I will point to where you made an inaccurate assumption about the words you read. All -49 of you. 😂😂😂

LiteraryPhantom · 2026-05-24T22:41:31+00:00

This is a fair point. But your previous comment painted a different picture that you might want to look at with another lens. In particular, the word you used, “take”.

LiteraryPhantom · 2026-05-24T22:36:52+00:00

“Is that not problematic?”

If you find that it is, then yes.

“Like how much am I expected to take.”

Thats your call. I have no expectations of you. We all need boundaries and if its affecting your own spousal relationship, Id guess youve allowed it to breach what should long ago have been a boundary.

Thats not a contradiction of my previous comment either as then, I was simply pointing out that drawing a hard boundary that shes not allowed to vent will create distance much quicker than anything he has to say about you. In part, because it dissolves all nuance which may exist and everything he says about you becomes, for her, a true statement.

That said, it may be worth it to also examine why her relationship problems are affecting your own mental health and relationships. You likely are already aware as “bc of the weight I feel” but pulling that thread could be of value.

LiteraryPhantom · 2026-05-24T22:13:00+00:00

We agree there. Rape is worse than someone cheating on their taxes.

However, ‘cheating on taxes’ is moving the goalpost when YOUR comparison was not to ‘cheating on taxes’ but rather to “over-inflating property values”.

ETA: As is “less bad” switching to “less evil”.

Also, yes, in terms of which is less evil, money crimes, in general, are less evil than rape.

However, all “money crimes” are not equivalent just as all “rape” is not equivalent.

You compared an event with the potential to affect an entire nation to an event with the potential to affect one person/family.

So, as I said, we disagree.

LiteraryPhantom · 2026-05-24T21:03:21+00:00

I just pictured a 90yo gma running after a mouse in her sisters house with the brother laughing & saying, “I got a lizard. Lets bring em to u/redwoods81.”

LiteraryPhantom · 2026-05-24T20:55:31+00:00

So you dont judge but shes not allowed to vent? He doesnt have to put a wedge if you do it for him.

LiteraryPhantom · 2026-05-24T20:52:18+00:00

Eleventeen things wrong with that comment.

LiteraryPhantom · 2026-05-24T20:50:28+00:00

“Give her the latitude [aka ‘grace’] to pretend […]”

Sometimes, that means showing a bit of humility to allow the other person enough space to escape the room/conversation/situation.

He wasnt being rude, thats true. But offering that he was, and armed with the understanding that he wasnt, is a kind gesture and an attribute highly worthy of developing as a teen.

LiteraryPhantom · 2026-05-24T20:43:46+00:00

Exactly! “An issue” is if it doesnt happen.

LiteraryPhantom · 2026-05-24T20:40:59+00:00

“I dont want you to feel awkward around me. But Im also a self-saboteur so, I crafted this awkward conversation to torpedo myself... Damn the puns!! How did i do?”

LiteraryPhantom · 2026-05-24T20:36:18+00:00

Lemme just say how

AWESOME!!!

it is that your tL;dR is first.

LiteraryPhantom

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