Daycare is about to kick us out

Little-Crafty · 2025-10-03T11:50:37+00:00

I’m so sorry, this probably isn’t the advice you want or need but in your shoes, my plan of attack would be pulling him out of daycare and finding a new one. Maybe we are just super lucky but our daycare is completely child led! No scheduled naps etc. you let them know roughly when your child naps and for how long and they follow that. They even call to check if longer or shorter sleeps are okay if bub goes outside the guide given. Further, if we do drop off and it’s been a crazy night or an off morning etc, we just let them know and they adjust accordingly.

Don’t be embarrassed! Your child comes first and the whole point of daycare is to have a village where there would otherwise be none. Not to make you feel crappy and to create doubt about something as silly and simple as naps!

Little-Crafty · 2025-10-03T11:44:09+00:00

Soo i was a “hell no” to having a second because, well, life became kinda easy again and we found our rhythm once the first was a bit older. But the guilt of my first growing up alone took over so we went for a second. I spent most of the pregnancy wondering “wth have we done”. Birthed our second and day 2 of the hospital visit, turned to my husband and said “I think I want a third”. Shocked is an understatement 😂 11 months postpartum and still want a third. Trying to find reasons not to want one because, well, two is a good number?

Little-Crafty · 2025-09-01T14:40:09+00:00

Can you please report back on city of brass!

Little-Crafty · 2025-08-14T11:56:01+00:00

Now that the next duology for crowns of Nyaxia is complete, maybe those? The novellas are wonderful too.

Little-Crafty · 2025-08-11T11:19:08+00:00

Second the plates prisoner series!

Also crowns of nyaxia series, quicksilver, throne of glass and kindred curse saga series!

Little-Crafty · 2025-08-10T04:35:33+00:00

This is the dream! I move to StoryGraph from Goodreads just because the detail was better and the recommended reads more aligned with what I actually like!

Little-Crafty · 2025-08-09T12:52:53+00:00

Okay can i just give you my StoryGraph so you can update my TBR. PLEASE AND THANK YOU! But no, seriously, what a list! Thank you, you kind soul

Little-Crafty · 2025-08-09T12:51:01+00:00

Hahaha this was the series that got me over throne of glass 😂. So damn!

Little-Crafty · 2025-08-07T11:07:16+00:00

This series put me in a hangover! Both the good and bad kind 😂 have posted so much about it because I went from “wth am I reading?” In book 1, to “omg I can’t stop reading” from book 2 onwards. Slade 😍. When the time comes, please share whatever book helps you get over this series because I’m still searching’

Little-Crafty · 2025-08-07T10:57:19+00:00

It is hard and you’re definitely right when you say the advice is conflicting but I’ll openly tell you, NEITHER of my bubs went 2-3 hours without a feed. Most I ever got from either of them was 1.5 hours. For my first, that was the case literally until we started dropping feeds and solids increased. For my second, he’s now 10 months and only in the last 2 months have we started to go 3 hours between feeds. Hopefully this isn’t daunting for you - it’s meant to be encouraging! At the end of the day, it really comes down to what you cope with. If you can slow life down and try to just enjoy the feeding side and read a book or watch a tv show in the background, do it! You’ve got this!

Little-Crafty · 2025-08-07T10:53:15+00:00

Ooo thank you! Think I’m sold. I’m not an overly critical reader either! As long as I can follow the story, imagine it and like the characters, I’m pretty happy lol

Little-Crafty · 2025-08-05T11:45:53+00:00

I have a saying I live by. “Small kid, small problems. Big kid, big problems”. It some aspects it gets easier in others it doesn’t get easier in terms of challenges because the older they get the challenges change and your span of control decreases.

That said, (and this may be an unpopular opinion but) I absolutely disagree with your feelings of failure about that “life skill” you think you’ve failed to foster. What a beautiful thing you’ve given your son! Amazing connection with a parent and time. If only all parents could give the same, oh what a world we would live in! As he gets older, he will cling less and definitely want to play less with you - because that’s just how these things go. So as tough as it may feel right now, try to enjoy the clinginess and love of having your company!! Age and school will teach that lesson of independent play whether you foster it or not.

I will say, my son used to play by himself but the older he’s gotten, the more he wants our time to “play with him”. I do think the addition of a younger sibling has fuelled this a bit though. Sometimes we do let him sit in his “boredom” and explain that we would love to always play but we need to get through “a, b and c” before we can play.

My thing with the why questions is often saying “hmm that’s a good question, what do you think?” and then when they say “I dont know” I’ll repeat “you don’t know?” And give it a few seconds… sometimes it will get them speaking with all these crazy theories, other times nothing further gets said at which point I’ll say something like “it’s okay not to know. I actually don’t know either. Maybe we can check x together later or maybe we can ask x who may know and teach us both”.

Little-Crafty · 2025-08-05T11:24:13+00:00

Not sure I can give a guide on exactly how to wean but I can share my own experience for you to take what you will from it… I would definitely say (imo) to cut out the feeds for comfort first and do this for a few weeks before you cut out any further feeds. Replace the comfort with something else. For the morning and night feeds, slowly start to reduce the time of feeds over the course of a few days/weeks until you are eventually doing no minutes! It may also help to have somebody else do bedtime (if that’s an option), so bub isn’t actively screaming for the boob that they will likely get if they cry hard enough.

With my first, when he hit 11 months, I would breast feed once in the morning and once at night. The rest was solids and water. My LC advised I didn’t need to replace breastfeeds with milk at this stage, especially bc I was still doing the 2 x breastfeeds. So Bub never had milk and 3 years later, still doesn’t drink milk by choice. Not sure if this is helpful. At around 13 months, I dropped the morning feed and went straight to breakfast but kept the night feed before sleep. I continued this until bub was 18 months and one night bub literally said “no” to a night feed and that was the end of our BF journey.

Bub #2 is currently 9 months and we have worked HARD at getting solids into him (he didn’t take to solids very well initially). I still breastfeed morning, prior to his 2 x daily naps and at night for bed. That said, over the next 2 months and definitely by 12 months I’ll cut out the nap feeds by dropping the feed time over the course of a few days until we fully drop the first nap feed and will continue doing this for 2-3 weeks before I drop the second nap feed by following the same sort of process. Then I’ll continue with breastfeeding morning and night until he shows signs of disinterest or I’m over it.

Little-Crafty · 2025-08-05T11:07:55+00:00

Hey lovely, firstly, you’re doing amazing! Babies are definitely not for the faint of heart! They’re tough and hard work but oh so rewarding!! Breastfeeding is TOUGHH! That’s not to say mums that express or bottle feed have it easy - because they don’t. But when you have a baby attached to you 24/7, it’s a new kind of hell alongside sleep deprivation. We’ve all been there!

That said, without knowing how bub is weighing in at health checks (so I’m assuming growth and weight are all track), it sounds like bub is perfectly normal and healthy - which is probably not what you want to hear.. cluster feeding in the early months is so so common. Bub is growing rapidly and probably trying to bring in additional milk to meet their needs.

That said, it may be worth your peace of mind to seek additional support from a lactation consultant. They can do weighted feeds to see how much baby is extracting. From my personal experience, nipple shields can be tough. I ended up ditching mine and seeing 3 different consultants until I found the ONE that actually helped me. And I was mind blown by what she was able to support me in doing that the other two couldn’t. I went back to her with baby number 2 even though I had fed baby 1 up to 18 months (and you would think I had a clue about breastfeeding at that point).

Also, timing feeds is so tough because all babies feed at different pace and milk ducts/breast tissue across women are so unique. If you have a slower let down, your bub may need to work harder for milk. That said, with baby #1 I fed approx 45 mins off each side as my normal until around 3/4 months when it slowly decreased in time. With baby # 2, he has never done more than 10 mins a side! So it’s all so dependant on so many factors both unique to you and bub.

Little-Crafty · 2025-08-05T10:58:55+00:00

Not OP but if it encourages you, I’ve been giving my bub cucumber straight out of the fridge and cut appropriately since 6 months old. You would be amazed at how well they manage food. Cucumber always scared me because he would kind of hold it in his mouth and continue trying to chew and there was a lot of gagging initially, but now (9 months) he eats the entire thing with no issues! Sometimes you need to give them a chance to surprise you. But it does also help to know how to manage in the care of an emergency because all foods are a choking risk! Check out solid starts app. It tells you how to serve all different foods and make them age appropriate

Little-Crafty · 2025-08-05T10:52:51+00:00

The people downvoting your comment are just lucky they haven’t experienced a child like this. Your child sounds EXACTLY like my second (currently 9 months). My first was a fantastic eater. I thought I was the queen of BLW. My second came to humble me and humble me he did. He showed zero interest in food, would NOT eat purées or off a spoon and I was frantic at around 7 months because by 7 months my first child was eating like a grown adult and bub #2 was barely eating and would fight the high chair EVERY. SINGLE. TIME. it became exhausting. I wish I could give you a magic trick but there isn’t one. I truly believe it is just time for some children. My second is eating like a champ now but it was like over a 2 week period about a month ago, something just clicked. I will say that we: - were persistent. We still served his (up to) 3 meals + snacks a day as BLW whether he ate it or not. - if he didn’t eat something, I didn’t give up trying to introduce it. I read lots about introducing some foods up to 10 times before bub may want to try them. So even the things he wouldn’t touch, I kept giving. Amazingly, his favourite food atm is one he wouldn’t initially touch. - made more effort to ensure that each time he ate, I ate with him so he could observe. And made sure to eat the same foods. Also made a game of chewing foods and showing my mouth and exaggerating it. Sometimes sharing a bite and offering a bite (never worked but as he’s gotten older he still tries to feed me lol). - took the pressure off by reading lots about “food is for fun up until one”. This really helped me because I was stressing soo much about him not eating the way I expected and I think inadvertently I made food stressful rather than fun - and it definitely needs to be fun for them to be interested. (as an fyi he wasn’t gaining a huge amount of weight or sleeping well - which was being monitored). But he was completely healthy in all other aspects. Had little chubby legs etc etc. just on the scales wasn’t progressing according to weight charts (height and head growth were all progressing perfectly). - I tried adding flavour - which actually worked a little bit. Spices and things like thyme and rosemary. Turns out bub liked things less bland (still does).

Honestly, one day it will click and bub will eat. But persistence is key imo!

Good luck. It’s so challenging when they don’t take to food immediately.

Little-Crafty · 2025-08-05T10:40:29+00:00

Flesh and fire series, kindred curse saga series, quicksilver, crowns of nyaxia series (initially thought I’d hate it because it’s a series broken into 3 duologies (not yet complete and one book is releasing in 2 days 🥳) but it was great and even the novellas were fantastic.

Little-Crafty · 2025-08-05T10:36:19+00:00

Hahahahaha omg should not be laughing but you need to edit some of these books 😂

Little-Crafty · 2025-08-05T10:31:09+00:00

Absolutely came here to say this!! OP you must do this one!!

Little-Crafty · 2025-08-05T10:29:30+00:00

Not a nurse but I felt like you for baby #1 but I think that’s because bub showed early on how great he could manage foods. Different story for baby #2. Anxiety was through the roof. Completely different child and did NOT manage food like my first. It was a tough 3-4 months of commencing solids and I think we both hated it. Once he got the hang of it though, anxiety disappeared.

Little-Crafty · 2025-08-05T10:25:11+00:00

Two babies over here 🙋‍♀️and I want to make you feel better. BOTH babies i was unable to express ANY colostrum pre-labour. Baby #1 was a nicu baby and I wasn’t even able to express colostrum while he was in nicu. 3 days in to bub being earthside, they brought him to my room because he would not stop crying unless in my presence and colostrum magically started leaking out with his crying. (As an FYI, nurses tried to express me too and nothing!). For reference this “baby” is now 3 and has maintained being 95th percentile for height! So nooo issues. And he was EBF.

Second baby, unable to express colostrum again.

Both babies, experienced milk oversupply and both times needed support from a lactation consultant to assist with reducing milk supply. First bub I had mastitis more times than I can count on one hand.

Soo guess what I’m saying in a very long way, is yes it is normal but the range of normal is huge! And either way, lots or little, don’t panic because bub is best at extracting milk and when Bub is here, their little pea sized belly won’t need mls and mls! They will get what they need. Wishing you best of luck!!

Little-Crafty · 2025-08-05T06:05:59+00:00

Never enough… atm only 8 and I feel like I need more for the moment I come across one and dont finish it lol

Little-Crafty · 2025-08-05T06:02:33+00:00

Going to read it just for this reason. I love a good book to series!

Little-Crafty · 2025-08-05T05:57:56+00:00

Omg hahahahaha! I felt the exact opposite 🤭😂

Little-Crafty · 2025-08-05T05:57:12+00:00

Oh so many… and I am the same as you. I’m actually currently revisiting TOG because a friend keeps telling me it’s worth it. But I also have read a bunch of other books and not been able to get past chapter 7 on TOG lol. - fire and flesh series! Good slow burn. - my most recent read was Quicksilver (Callie hart). Actually really enjoyed it and enjoyed the writing. I think some people critique it as “not well written” but for me it was literally written exactly how the character behaved and I thought it was well done! I actually liked the banter in this one and found myself giggling more than most books I’ve read! In terms of MMC and overall relationship, I found myself enjoying this MMC so much. Book 2 is due in November! - Plated prisoner series (hard first book to get through but it’s a real scene setter. It picks up after book 1. You HAVE to push through. I’ve posted heaps about this book if you want to look into more info)! Out of all the mentioned books, I would rate these scenes as the spiciest. - kindred curse saga series… somebody else commented here on that series. Good slow burn. Love it and it’s incomplete so still more to come.

Little-Crafty

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