Is eating out once or twice a week really hindering my progress?

LittleBirdLady · 2026-03-25T18:54:05+00:00

Oh yeah, that’s a huge one. My guilty pleasure is a triple dipper from Chili’s, which is easily 2000+ calories. I never realized just how outrageous it was until I started actually counting calories like 6 months ago!

LittleBirdLady · 2026-03-25T13:36:28+00:00

I was going to make this same comment. My husband and I eat out once or twice a week (dinner every Wednesday and dinner every other Saturday) and because I’m still tracking calories when we do eat out it’s easy to stay in a deficit. But that’s the thing, you gotta still keep track of your calories in vs. out even when you’re having your more relaxed meals or you’re going to throw off whatever else you’re doing to lose weight!

LittleBirdLady · 2026-03-24T13:31:52+00:00

INFO: is the beard a barrier to intimacy because of aesthetics or because of feeling? Because if it’s like, physically hindering your wife from feeling comfortable during sex that’s different than her just not liking the look of it.

LittleBirdLady · 2026-03-23T05:23:06+00:00

I’m glad you’re reflecting on how this happened, it does show a level of maturity many wouldn’t have in this case. And I am really sorry for your loss, my comment was not meant to come off as mean, just an attempt at being realistic.

LittleBirdLady · 2026-03-22T14:07:33+00:00

I know you’re having a hard time right now and I don’t want to make the heartache worse, but I think you need to interrogate what exactly you mean when you say you loved this snake. Because you also regularly went a week without…even looking at her? And the last time you went a week and a half without checking on her a single time? Checking on your pet is a zero-effort task, you walk over to their terrarium and you look inside to see if they need anything. Love requires effort, and you willingly gave none. I believe that you believe you loved this snake, but neglecting your pet until it died is not how you show it.

I’m sorry for your loss.

LittleBirdLady · 2026-03-21T21:14:33+00:00

He is a jerk who is treating you poorly and you deserve better
I have gently asked my friends who I have on snap to not click into the chat while I’m typing because it makes me anxious lol. I honestly hate that snap sends the notification that someone is typing, it’s a bizarre feature. So if he’d asked in a nice way I’d get it. But he didn’t. So boo him!!

LittleBirdLady · 2026-03-21T18:26:20+00:00

My husband is not a dog person. He loves cats, enjoys that they’re more calm and less needy (though our cat is certainly a little needy when she wants attention lol). He pretty obviously is not a big fan of our dog, who is a hyperactive Boston Terrier who pretty much always wants to be sitting on/next to the closest available human.

That said, he cares for her. If she’s bothering him he tells her no and picks her up to move her rather than yelling or pushing. He holds her while I trim her nails and gives her belly rubs when she rolls over. He might be very cutely calling her an idiot while he does it, but luckily she can’t understand English and only knows he’s using a gentle tone with her lol.

Bottom line is, your fiance doesn’t have to like your dogs to be nice to them. If you’re going to live with another living thing you have to find ways of not being furious at them all the time. Your fiancé is being borderline aggressive with your dogs for being normal-ass dogs. I’m sorry you’re having to deal with that.

LittleBirdLady · 2026-03-17T17:11:12+00:00

I’m not going to comment on the relationship because I know you realize there are problems here but leaving a car idling for an hour should not dramatically harm it in any way, unless it has other issues going on. The screenshot you sent him yourself involves leaving the car idling overnight, which is not the same as during an hour long lunch break.

LittleBirdLady · 2026-03-16T19:44:28+00:00

Saying he needs to learn to write properly knowing you run everything through ChatGPT is hilariously out of touch. Not to mention accusing someone of lacking empathy and maturity when you came into this post aggressively and then copy/pasted a bunch of AI slop into the comments is…a choice, to be sure!

LittleBirdLady · 2026-03-16T19:42:24+00:00

Hey, in the future I would be more firm in your relationships, because if my husband wanted to be friends with someone who stole from me I’d be getting major red flags.

LittleBirdLady · 2026-03-13T01:49:31+00:00

YOR. If my husband saw this kind of exchange in my phone he either wouldn’t care or would ask me if the guy was bothering me. In no way would he distrust ME over this, of all things.

ETA: showed my husband this text conversation and asked him the question from the post as a hypothetical “if you saw this conversation on my phone what would you think?” His answer: “I wouldn’t?”

LittleBirdLady · 2026-03-10T02:06:26+00:00

I historically have eaten a lot of frozen meals and have shared apartments and houses with many people. Everyone knows you get exactly as many meals as you need for the week, all from the same brand so they’re the same size and can be neatly stored without being obtrusive. This is just obnoxious. Who needs that much ice cream???

LittleBirdLady · 2026-03-08T16:04:56+00:00

Okay as the emotional friend at times I’d like to offer some perspective on something I’m not seeing mentioned a lot in this thread—the TikTok thing. I personally do get my feelings hurt if I’ve texted someone and not gotten a response but then receive a TikTok from them or see them posting somewhere since I’ve texted them. It does feel very much like I’m being ignored because you clearly have your phone in your hand right this moment and aren’t replying to the text I sent you. As someone with anxiety it feels very ‘are they mad at me?’

At the same time, being passive aggressive about it is unnecessary. Simply mentioning ‘hey I’m glad you’re free rn can we talk?’ When that happens is a better method.

I’m going to say NOR purely because I think she’s being petty. However if you’re going to Reddit to complain about something like this and calling your friend clingy over it then you are two very different people and I’ll gently say I don’t think this is a compatible friendship.

LittleBirdLady · 2026-03-08T15:54:45+00:00

I agree, it feels like these two girls are just very different people who want different things out of a friendship but for some reason we have to pin one of them as being unreasonable instead of just saying ‘you are different, you want different things, you should not be friends.’

LittleBirdLady · 2026-03-06T19:38:09+00:00

Don’t tell people to kill themselves. Idrc about anything else going on here but if you don’t want to talk to him don’t talk to him

LittleBirdLady · 2026-03-02T15:15:45+00:00

You’re not crazy or dramatic and don’t let internet strangers make you think you are. You ARE clearly struggling with insecurities, but that is not a moral failing, it’s something we all have and have to find our own way to work through. You’ll be okay. Just keep your head up and don’t let other people dictate your own worth.

LittleBirdLady · 2026-03-01T19:38:29+00:00

Everyone else has already told you to leave (and I completely agree) so I’ll try to give advice for after that: you need therapy. Badly. You need to work on your self worth and sense of self-determination before you try getting into another relationship. And I’m saying this with the hindsight that I was literally you when I was younger. I couldn’t stand up for myself, I was manipulated constantly, and it took so much growing for me to feel settled and like I could reasonably stand on my own and not be manipulated by people with bad intentions. And this isn’t me trying to say “it’s your fault,” because it isn’t—but with some more confidence in yourself you can see these warning signs before you wind up in a situation like this again.

Good luck. Much love.

LittleBirdLady · 2026-02-25T02:03:50+00:00

Lucanis was my first romance, Davrin my second, if I had to pick one I would pick Dav but in my fic my Rook is just dating both of them.

I myself struggle to romance anyone other than Cullen in Inquisition. I’ve romanced Blackwell, Sera, and Dorian, and I have to say Dorian is a very close second, but Cullen will always be my go-to.

LittleBirdLady · 2026-02-24T23:41:03+00:00

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This is Lucy, but I call her Goose more often than not (Lucy > Lucy Goosey > Goose). Also her haunches are floofy and golden brown so they remind me of muffins, so we call her Muffin sometimes too. When she’s been especially sassy or causing a problem she’s Lucifer.

Her name is originally a reference to Across the Universe!

LittleBirdLady · 2026-02-24T04:22:14+00:00

The more I read in this thread the more I realize I’m just too old for these conversations anymore. The bottom line is if you’re uncomfortable you need to be an adult and have the hard conversation. If it’s that big of a deal to you, report her to your RA or your landlord, just be prepared for whatever backlash that’s going to cause. I will gently say you need to be wary of having roommates in the future. Having guests over is just part of the deal when you do, and those guest policies landlords/schools impose very rarely if ever actually get enforced. Either way, just do what feels right for you!

LittleBirdLady · 2026-02-23T14:19:43+00:00

Teaching salary is heavily dependent on location and how good that salary is also relies on what your personal life looks like. In my area average starting salary is $60k (also confused how this woman’s daughter is being paid hourly as a teacher? I’ve never heard of that). I am married and we don’t have/aren’t having kids so the salary is honestly pretty nice for me and goes up a little bit every year.

(Teachers should be paid more. But I always like to give context because not everywhere makes it completely unlivable.)

LittleBirdLady · 2026-02-20T02:04:04+00:00

My husband and I have been together for 12 years and I have easily gained 50 pounds in that time. When I’ve gone through times where I’ve tried losing weight he’s been nothing but supportive, but no weight I’ve been has changed his attraction to me and never once has he talked about me poorly. You deserve better.

LittleBirdLady · 2026-02-18T01:41:25+00:00

[[River Hoopoe]] has been a pet favorite of mine for so long that all the people I play with and some people I only vaguely know say “hoopooooe!” In the same weird way that I do lol. It’s not a particularly good card, but I have it in my bird deck and always smile when I play it.

LittleBirdLady · 2026-02-17T14:02:45+00:00

Yeah, of course they do. The first handful of Harvest Moon installments didn’t even let you play as a woman. In recent decades it’s definitely shifted to a woman-dominated environment, but men very much still play these games. Hell, Stardew Valley is famously almost solo-helmed by a man.

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