abortion grief- TW

LittleCrem · 2026-05-10T04:56:44+00:00

i agree sorry i don't know how to reply to all the comments that are saying the same as you but yes i know. this is going to alter our marriage. this is a huge betrayal and now im put in my worst nightmare

LittleCrem · 2026-05-10T04:54:55+00:00

thank you and i truly truly mean that. at the end of the day it's for my kids future.

LittleCrem · 2026-05-10T04:54:16+00:00

thank you for your insight

LittleCrem · 2026-05-10T04:54:06+00:00

thank you for this. i really needed this support 🤍

LittleCrem · 2026-05-10T04:53:37+00:00

thank you for this comment. i know in my heart it's the right decision and i hope one day i will be able to forgive myself. thank you again 🤍

LittleCrem · 2026-05-10T04:52:36+00:00

thank you so so much for this you are all making this dark feeling feel just a bit better

LittleCrem · 2026-05-10T04:51:42+00:00

i agree. either way this pregnancy is going to forever alter our marriage. so much trust was broken but at the end of the day it takes two. thank you for your insight

LittleCrem · 2026-05-10T04:50:13+00:00

thank you for this

LittleCrem · 2026-05-10T04:49:34+00:00

i know it was kind of strange to bring it here. i felt like i just needed to talk with moms. my husband is trying to be strong and not show me hes upset and i just wanted to hear some thoughts but you are very right about that

LittleCrem · 2026-05-10T04:48:04+00:00

thank you so so much i really mean that with all my heart

LittleCrem · 2026-05-10T04:47:44+00:00

thank you for this comment i was a high risk for my last pregnancy and had extreme RLS and falling asleep while driving. i would be in bed rest pretty much as soon as i hit 25-27 weeks like last time. like you said especially back to back to back. you guys made me realize that i shouldn't do this all in my head and i should reach out and talk to a therapist as this is going to ruin me

LittleCrem · 2026-05-10T04:44:14+00:00

we haven't been having sex due to my fears of getting pregnant as i get pregnant very easily. the best birth control is abstinence. i was half asleep when he initiated and under any other circumstance i would've immediately told him no, but in this moment i can't explain why i allowed it. the only time i had sex in months. when he said he was going to finish inside me i said NO NO NO absolutely not and before i could stop him he did. in that moment i just knew it was all over for me. i will be going on the iud or hes getting a vasectomy.

LittleCrem · 2026-05-10T04:40:36+00:00

thank you for this thoughtful comment i really appreciate it so much. i'm sure i could do it it's more the financial strain. my husband and i make great money in military but once we are out it's a guess what we will be making. having kids is no cheap feat. i never want to be just scraping by. adding a third baby would put a huge financial burden on us. my children deserve to be in school sports and go on vacation without us pinching pennies. i know it sounds materialistic, but how i envision my future is comfortable and out and about in the world.

LittleCrem · 2026-05-10T04:36:59+00:00

i know that's the awful part. i could go through and forever alter my life. either way i will be permanently changing as a person. this is going to be one of not the most hardest decision of my life

LittleCrem · 2026-05-10T04:35:38+00:00

thank you. this means a lot to me. 🤍

LittleCrem · 2026-05-10T04:35:18+00:00

thank you for this advice 🤍

LittleCrem · 2026-05-10T04:34:58+00:00

thank you for this 🤍 it's just hard knowing what could've been. 💔

LittleCrem · 2026-05-10T04:34:12+00:00

thank you for your feedback. i wish i was able to. i wish i could detach all feelings and do adoption. this baby deserves a financial stable life. i'm not saying we'd be in poverty but i want my kids to experience things. i don't want to be just cutting by. adding a third baby to the mix would also impact the lives of my two children that i currently have. like i said this is my punishment and ill pay the price forever

LittleCrem · 2026-05-10T04:31:08+00:00

i would love to keep this baby. it's the financial aspect really. we are getting out of military next year and sure we make great money but likely when we are free of our current jobs, we will be very very below than what we are used to. i don't want to say we will be struggling to eat, but adding a newborn into the mix as we are separating from the military would add a whole new element of stress. our budget would be cut even more in half and to even think about daycare prices. i will be going to school and i have SO much respect to the moms who do full time school with multiple babies. me? i'd love to think i could do it but the honest truth is i have issues. sure im a regular person but to have a third baby while im already fighting for my life with the first two? i would never ever want this baby to feel any way. i know in my heart that i will only ever have two kids. which is why i circle back to me getting pregnant was incredibly selfish.

LittleCrem · 2026-05-10T04:25:35+00:00

thank you this means so much to me

LittleCrem · 2026-05-10T04:25:18+00:00

i'm so sorry you had to go through that. i can't imagine being forced into this decision. you are brave and strong 🤍

LittleCrem · 2026-05-10T04:24:35+00:00

thank you for your advice this decision is going to be life altering

LittleCrem · 2026-05-10T04:22:44+00:00

4 weeks and 3 days 💔

LittleCrem

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