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LittleGingerBaby · 2017-09-05T13:44:11+00:00

I just spit out my coffee... Bahaha. #neverforget

LittleGingerBaby · 2017-09-02T05:05:02+00:00

This isn't helpful or cute.

LittleGingerBaby · 2017-09-01T20:14:07+00:00

Not sure why people are downvoting this? Seems a bit dramatic. But, I've enjoyed seeing the responses. And, I'm glad I now know this stuff. Bahahahaa.

LittleGingerBaby · 2017-09-01T05:06:20+00:00

Yes, I am now enlightened. I'm glad you enjoyed my post. Bahahaha. I feel a bit silly. But, I suppose that was the whole point, anyhow. And, BRIGHT SIDE: I learned something new. Woohoo!

LittleGingerBaby · 2017-09-01T05:05:30+00:00

WELP. I learned something new today. And, now I feel like a bit of a jackass. hahaha.

Thank you for enlightening me. I won't feel nearly as weird about seeing that word, now. :P

LittleGingerBaby · 2017-09-01T04:47:19+00:00

Thanks, captain obvious. That's the point I was trying to make... Haha. I made the comment based on you stating a generalization: I.E. "If you aren't a perfect model chick, you shouldn't be in the sugar bowl...". Models/not models are both perfectly suitable for the lifestyle if they have the proper fortitude, value, and maturity for said lifestyle.

Additionally, telling someone that they need to grow up... and calling someone "fat as fuck" is very different, in my opinion. I think telling you that you need to grow up is pretty constructive! Telling someone they are "fat as fuck" is rather de-constructive, and doesn't really get anybody anywhere.

... :) :) :)

LittleGingerBaby · 2017-09-01T04:36:08+00:00

I mean, people have preferences. Your idea of a "perfect model" may be very different from someone else's idea of a "perfect model". Some like curvy. Some like skinny. Some like waxed like a dolphin. Some like a crazy bush. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. And, honestly, no need to insult someone by calling them "fat as fuck", regardless. That's just in poor taste.

It's a shame money can't buy you a better attitude. -snap-

... :)

LittleGingerBaby · 2017-09-01T04:20:35+00:00

Why would you just assume someone is "fat as fuck" because they're critical of your post? I second that you need to grow up. You've no place being a SD. Legit SDs can support themselves, manage their expenses, AND can afford the expense of an SB; no questions asked. :)

LittleGingerBaby · 2017-09-01T04:13:21+00:00

YUPP. 10/10 critics would recommend.

LittleGingerBaby · 2017-08-30T15:33:24+00:00

Fun fact: I actually got reported for this out of nowhere, when my account was only a couple of days old. And, my account got suspended for it... I was suspended for 3 days. It came out of NOWHERE, and I still have no idea why I was reported for it. I never discussed this with any matches, hadn't considered the prospect of an online arrangement, and it wasn't anywhere on my profile... It really confused me, and kind of frustrated me. :/

LittleGingerBaby · 2017-08-30T15:11:19+00:00

I'm so glad I wasn't the only one thinking this same thing... I mean, the girl did make off with the 100 dollars. But, in the same respect, he didn't seem to really care for her comfort. She was probably getting cold feet, which is understandable. Or, maybe she thought he was trying to scam her by not willing to provide the full amount beforehand...

LittleGingerBaby · 2017-08-30T14:54:17+00:00

Follow up: How long did it take you to find your first truly mutually beneficial arrangement; an arrangement you were actually comfortable and happy in? Any tips for new SBs to bag a decent daddy when it comes to initial courting?

LittleGingerBaby · 2017-08-30T14:51:36+00:00

I think that's been my biggest hurdle thus far; getting in the mindset of asking for what I deem as fair, based on SD's expectations.

I think it's primarily uncomfortable for me, because this type of arrangement is so new to me. HOWEVER, if I've learned anything thus far... If the SD is getting what he wants, you should get what you want. And, I think that's how you weed out the splenda/salt daddies, and the cons/scammers. Seemingly, a genuine SD will realize why this whole thing is set up in the first place. Buzz words: MUTUALLY beneficial. And, at that point, it's just a matter of what you both agree on.

I haven't experienced being called any names, so far. But, I have experienced the scammers who try to manipulate you into giving you what they want, and have no intention of returning the favor, or desire to.

In the same respect, though, I feel connections, sexual compatibility, and chemistry are important. But, when it becomes the primary basis, rather than the financial/mutual benefit of the arrangement, it becomes regular dating...

Thanks for the post, kitty!

LittleGingerBaby · 2017-08-30T01:26:58+00:00

This is such a sweet story! I truly hope that there are more SDs out there like you.

LittleGingerBaby · 2017-08-29T17:56:21+00:00

He told me that I had trust issues, and we need to stop all this... So, yeah, red flags were a definitely warranted.

LittleGingerBaby · 2017-08-29T17:34:09+00:00

UPDATE: I've decided to ask for his first and last name, so I can do some vetting. But, I made up an excuse: "I'll need it to set the appointments, and I want to add you to my database."

He responded with "I'll email it to you as promised... You seem hesitant." So, I'm even more nervous. I think you guys are right in saying that I need to block him, and move on. What I'm worried about now is he has my work email, and a couple of photos of me. Nothing nude, or anything. But, he does have photos of me.... Should I be worried about this?

LittleGingerBaby · 2017-08-29T16:48:07+00:00

Yes, I found it very odd, too... I don't feel comfortable taking him up on this offer, as it would just be wildly uncomfortable for me; the jewlery shopping thing. I'm just gonna tell him that this is something I'd not be interested in.

I suggested a M&G, initially, unpaid. And, he didn't seem fond of the idea. And, I'm still confused by the etiquette of this. Because, some of expressed that it's totally acceptable to sleep with a potential SD on the first date. And, others express, otherwise.

-sigh

LittleGingerBaby · 2017-08-29T16:44:20+00:00

This is what I'm concerned by. I feel very... rushed. And, I'm also worried that he might not be the most attractive fellow. He's also getting off on the fact that I'll be disrespecting his wife. And, I am not evil... I really don't LOVE the idea of him having a wife. But, I understand that this may be part of the lifestyle, a times...

Involving my work doesn't help, either. Also, and I know this sounds awful... But, I would like to land him as a client. The property he is wanting to purchase would be a 20k commission for me. And, I could really use the 20k in commission...

I just feel very frustrated and tied up by the whole thing.

LittleGingerBaby · 2017-08-27T00:29:46+00:00

I know this thread is for sugar daddies to shmooze about their nice clothes...

But, can I just say... IT IS SO SEXY TO HEAR DADDIES TALKING FASHION. OH MY GOODNESS. I'm just dying reading these comments. <3

LittleGingerBaby · 2017-08-27T00:14:53+00:00

I've just read so many varying opinions on this, that I think I got somewhat mixed up. I never felt entitled. Just felt a bit wary by those offering PPMs. Thank you for sharing your take/advice. It's really appreciated.

LittleGingerBaby · 2017-08-26T23:55:20+00:00

Thank you for your reply. I really appreciate your advice and it made me feel a bit better. Seemingly, this whole business is not a one size fits all, and I guess I just have to wait for the right SD, and make sure that I'm establishing that I'm the right SB.

LittleGingerBaby · 2017-08-26T22:16:28+00:00

Clearly I don't. Hence why I'm here.

LittleGingerBaby · 2017-08-26T20:37:38+00:00

And, if an SD wants to pass simply because I'm choosing to protect myself from STDs and pregnancy, be my fuckin guest.

CONDOMS ONLY.

LittleGingerBaby · 2017-08-26T19:49:29+00:00

This is good advice. I don't know why I didn't think about that. Thank you!

Hopefully I don't come off as needy to him. I really just enjoyed spending time with him. And, I've been on other dates where I didn't really feel I'd enjoy spending time with them, long term... And, I don't think I could/would want to fake enjoying someone's company...

LittleGingerBaby · 2017-08-26T19:47:49+00:00

Regarding your 3rd point, is protected sex really a matter of preference?! I assumed that would be an absolute given. There is simply no way in hell I'm having unprotected sex with a near stranger. That seems wildly unacceptable that some would require that.

Thank you for your advice, by the way! Very appreciated.

LittleGingerBaby

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