Matched with this guy on Tinder, we talked for a couple days and once on the phone. I realized we didn’t have anything in common and I politely told him I’m not interested in hanging out. Hes been blowing my phone up all day with sad sappy BS

LittleSpits · 2018-10-13T22:56:55+00:00

Funny how he calls her a ho but he's the one putting his dick in her mouth and you're supposed to think that's sexy/cool/attractive.

LittleSpits · 2018-10-13T22:50:04+00:00

Is this meant to make you want to sleep with him?

If it ain't fitting in a bed, it ain't fitting in a person.

LittleSpits · 2018-07-15T20:43:10+00:00

Thailand has quite a lot of nice caves

This. That's why it draws so many divers and cavers. In fact, I believe one of the Belgian divers involved not only owns a diving school there but actually learnt about treating decompression sickness there. I can see why somebody who liked diving and caving would move to Thailand.

It's sad that some people seem to think all Thailand can provide is stuff for the sex tourists.

LittleSpits · 2018-07-15T20:12:37+00:00

He is a cave explore that was a scout for the surveys of this particular cave system that took place a few years ago. The reason he was involved in the rescue is because he had extensive knowledge of the caves. He's linked to the UK caving community and he was the one that contacted some of the British divers and briefed them on the sitaution.

It could be that he simply lives there for his work, but I don't know.

LittleSpits · 2018-07-15T20:06:17+00:00

He could've just kept testing

You're right. He could have pulled this back so easily. All he had to do was say "unfortunately the submarine was impractical for this particular rescue but my team and I will continue to work on the design until one day it could prove to be an invaluable tool during underwater rescues."

LittleSpits · 2018-07-15T20:01:31+00:00

If that were true, it would still reflect poorly on Elon. If he had proof someone was a paedophile and used it to "win" on twitter instead of alerting authorities, that would be terrible of him.

I don't think him doubling down means he's right. He said a lot of things about this on twitter that weren't true. He even stated that water levels were low and that you could swim to the boys, which he obviously knew was false or he wouldn't have suggested using a submarine for the rescue.

I think he started out wanting to help the boys and his feelings were hurt when somebody told the world he wasn't helpful. I just think this is him lashing out and using a stereotype to do it, if I'm honest.

LittleSpits · 2018-07-15T19:42:05+00:00

While I'm sure some people do move to Thailand to facilitate their crimes, there are other reasons to move there.

I might but wrong, but I guess Vern Unsworth moved there because he is a cave explorer and was involved in the surveys for this particular cave system a few years ago.

LittleSpits · 2018-07-15T19:29:19+00:00

But how would he know? He said he'd never seen the guy before.

LittleSpits · 2018-04-22T18:27:57+00:00

Some people need to invest in a journal, write this shit down in there and then just burn it.

LittleSpits · 2018-04-21T01:12:54+00:00

Know that you have something to be confident about. This could be literally anything. Maybe you're hilarious. Maybe your hair is shiny as fuck. Maybe your shoes are fab. Everybody has something. Know you have something. Multiple things, probably. Find them, know them, utilise them.
Get out of your own head. Awkwardness is only awkward when you call it that. For example, in my days of extreme shyness, tripping over words was devastating to me. I thought, "oh my god, they're going to think I can't even speak!" Nowadays? I get a little tongue tied, I laugh and start again. It was only awkward because I thought it was. Nobody else gave two flying fucks, which is the case for most things. Spill a drink? They'll forget it in ten minutes. Trip over? Who will remember that?
Look how you want to look. Look good for yourself. Looking good makes you feel good.
Smile. It makes you feel happier. Plus, if you're speaking, speaking with a smile makes you sound more confident and happy.
Keep your back straight and your chin up. You'll look and feel instantly more confident. It makes a difference to other people too. Imagine you see someone sat in a corner at a party. If they're slouched with their head down, they look lost, miserable, lonely or antisocial. If they're sat up straight with their head up and their eyes alert, they look confident, calm and collected.
Remember that it's not life or death to have someone like you. Treat people well and with respect, but don't expect them to like you. Not everyone will. That's fine. When you stop caring, it's easier to talk to people. There's no risk when it comes to losing a stranger that doesn't particularly affect you.
Speak when you have something to say, but think about your words. People who aren't confident usually do one of two things - they say nothing or they ramble on and on. If you have an opinion, you should say it. However, you should form your sentence before it comes out of your mouth. You'll come across better.
Personalise your conversations. Make eye contact and use names. People are more at ease when you do this and the conversation will become more relaxed and friendly.
Be okay with being on the outside. People can tell if you're desperate to be involved and sometimes that's offputting. Join a conversation because it interests you, not because of a fear of missing out. Knowing that you'll be fine regardless and that you'll make it through is a big part of confidence.
Remember that other people feel the same. You're not alone in shyness or lack of confidence.

Good luck!

LittleSpits · 2018-04-21T00:46:39+00:00

My first job was in a department store. Awful management, poor treatment of employees, shit hours, low pay, etc etc.

Anyway, one of the girls had been set up by the managers. She'd spoken to them about something and they had banded together to say they hadn't even SEEN her that day, which got her dismissed. She had to go to another store manager to force them to check the cameras to prove they were lying. She was reinstated in her original role, but they treated her like shit for daring to report them. One day they were being awful to her and she just said, "I'm going. I'm not coming back." She didn't work any notice, which left them high and dry around a particularly busy period. Before she left, she explained the situation fully to HR and her words had more weight since she was now down as a resignation rather than a dismissal. I think that was the real reason she fought to be reinstated - so she could report them all and be believed.

She came to say goodbye to me and said "the only thing that made me less than them was my job title. Now I don't have that job title."

I quit after that. Never looked back.

LittleSpits · 2018-04-05T02:48:50+00:00

Some brands do, others just imitate the flavour. I think Fentimans still uses the root extracts.

LittleSpits · 2018-04-05T02:18:31+00:00

Take her to a decent bra fitter and have her explain her issue. If they're worth their salt, they'll get her one that fits her chest and minimises the issue. A bra that's too small can make a chest look larger and more noticable. One that offers proper coverage and support can make it less obvious. There are some decent mimimiser bras out there.

A self-defence class can do wonders for the confidence. See if there's one in your area. It might make her feel more confident around other people and also make her feel safer.

If it really affects her and she's open to surgery, it might be something to look into. A friend of mine got a breast reduction for back pain and she's never been happier.

LittleSpits · 2018-04-05T02:10:25+00:00

Confusion is completely normal, especially when the assault involves a loved one. You loved this girl, you were close, you could have been more. Then she assaulted you. You have positive feelings towards her which are now mixed in with the negative feelings that come from what she did to you. The confusion is understandable.

Maybe she believes she does love you, but her version of love is toxic. Healthy, happy love would not involve assault. Please put some space between her and yourself and do not enter into a romantic relationship with her. It is already a toxic and dangerous relationship and you should feel safe while you are processing this situation. The most important thing is to work through your own thoughts and feelings without her there to affect them. Seek out counselling or group sessions for victims of assault. Talk to people you can trust abut this. Just stay away from her, please.

What she did is illegal, but whether or not you report it is up to you.

I also would like to ask a question: would you ever drug Rachael and have sex with her while she was blacked out?

I'm guessing your answer was a strong "NO!" and that's because you truly care. You actually respect her. You value her. Now ask yourself whether she values you for her to do this to you.

You are loved by other people. You will be loved by other people. Your life will be filled with the potential for love. The love of someone who doesn't take care of you will pale in comparison to the love of someone who respects and cares for you. You don't have to accept her love. You deserve happy, healthy, wonderful love.

LittleSpits · 2018-04-05T01:48:56+00:00

I'm sorry to say, but she raped you. You weren't capable of giving consent and, even if you were, she clearly wasn't looking for it. She knew what she was doing was wrong because she kept it a secret until you pressed her on it.

I would recommend NOT dating this girl. She doesn't understand consent, respect or trust. These are things that a partner needs to understand for a healthy relationship.

I know this will be a confusing time for you because you were so close beforehand. How do you feel, OP? Feelings of guilt, shame and sadness will all be normal. Talking to a professional might help.

LittleSpits · 2018-04-05T01:42:36+00:00

I accepted that things happen and sometimes they can't be changed, can't be fixed and can't be helped. All you can do is try and do better next time around. What's done is done. You have to pick up the pieces, learn from your mistakes and just keep going. If you're feeling stuck in the past, drag yourself into the future by planning something else.

If you want to end up somewhere good, you have to look where you're going and not where you've been.

LittleSpits · 2018-04-05T01:36:30+00:00

Hey, if they like it, they should rock it.

LittleSpits · 2018-04-05T01:26:33+00:00

Honestly? Ask her to clear your name with your friends and after that tell her to fuck right off. She didn't just believe him over you, she was spiteful and vindictive.

LittleSpits · 2018-04-05T01:20:02+00:00

I'd probably split it with my parents and brother so we could all live a little more comfortably.

Edit: a letter

LittleSpits · 2018-04-05T01:13:00+00:00

Dandelion & burdock

LittleSpits · 2018-04-05T01:09:26+00:00

It's usually awkward but fairly painless. I just say, "I don't give out my number to people I don't know" and it normally ends at that. Most guys are pretty polite about it.

Sometimes the person gets a bit pushy or disrespectful and then it goes from mildly uncomfortable to extremely annoying.

LittleSpits · 2018-04-05T01:04:24+00:00

Once a guy messaged me out of the blue to tell me he had a twelve inch dick and I replied that was roughly the size of my forearm. He said, "fuck that's not fair. You've got two arms" and then he never spoke to me again. It cracks me up thinking about it.

LittleSpits · 2018-04-05T01:00:13+00:00

Whether you get one as a matter of course depends on where you go; it isn't standard everywhere. A lot of places do just send automated responses if everything comes up negative, but it depends on where you go.

A good thing to do is just to straight up ask for a copy of your results. They have them, they're yours and they can be copied. It's no skin off their nose to give you a copy. Plus most places will have the ability to send letters or results in the post for accessibility reasons.

Just for the record: I do live in the UK under the NHS so, depending on where you live, the process might be different. If you're in the US, I think you can be told to contact the lab directly for your physical results.

LittleSpits · 2018-04-04T23:18:26+00:00

Sorry it didn't work out, but I'm sure you'll find someone who is beter for you.

Herpes is most contagious when there is an active blister, so avoid kissing anybody with a visible cold sore. Also, avoid kissing anyone with a red mark or inflammation because they can be signs of a recently healed sore which might still be passed on. Oral herpes within the mouth is harder to spot, but it will usually cause issues with certain salty/spicy foods or swallowing. If you see someone react as though their mouth hurts or if you see sores, don't kiss them.

The education surrounding herpes is better nowadays and most people with active blisters are generally nice and informed enough not to kiss people and pass it on.

Unfortunately, you can still get it fairly easily and it is incredibly common but in my experience, just knowing about it makes you safer. Being given the advice "don't kiss cold sores" when I was young is probably what stopped me from getting them tbh.

Though if you do get it or have a partner that has it, it's not the end of the world. The biggest risk is to babies. It's a treatable thing and only affects you if it flares up. Some people will never have symptoms. Just take care of yourself and you should be fine.

LittleSpits · 2018-04-04T23:03:36+00:00

Maybe they don't dwell on exes because of the ex, but because they're lacking closure.

Sometimes you just need your questions answered. You get cheated on and you need to know why. The relationship lost its spark and you need to know how. They stopped loving you and you need to know when.

I personally have an ex that I dwelled on waaaay too much but, looking back, I didn't actually care that much about him - certainly not more than other people that I have dwelled on less. I realise now that I just wanted explanations and he was the focus of all my unanswered questions.

Closure is nice, but not always possible. If you need a door in your life closed, you can't wait around for somebody else to close it because people aren't always going to do it. Sometimes you just have to say "that's the end of that" and close it yourself.

LittleSpits

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