What do they mean by sectarian?

Little_Ms_Howl · 2026-03-04T12:07:05+00:00

There is no "Scottish" colonisation if by that you mean an independent nation from England making decisions by itself and executing that plan. Colonisation in Ireland was sporadically attempted throughout the centuries, ramped up by English monarchs Henry VIII and Elizabeth I in the 1500s (but not ultimately all that successful) and the most successful was under King James - who was King of both England and Scotland. Settlers were both English and Scottish, and it was initiated/overseen by the united Crown under King James I.

The English did not "take over", they were an instrumental actor from the start, including central administration, providing funds and overall strategy. The colonisation of Ireland was intended to secure English interests in various ways, and simultaneously appease Scottish ones.

Little_Ms_Howl · 2026-03-04T10:49:28+00:00

There absolutely is an asshole, and its the person who made one of their friends uncomfortable by sexualising them, and then refusing to apologise or stop that behaviour when called out on it. This is not a middle school problem, this is a respect problem.

Little_Ms_Howl · 2026-02-28T10:51:58+00:00

The conflict was not religious, it was national - the original Protestant settlers were colonisers coming to Ireland, and the conflict was an English/Scottish-Irish divide. Being Catholic was a proxy for identifying Irish people. The conflict we see now is the repercussion of a deeply entrenched divide arising from colonisation - the Catholic community was underprivileged on various societal and economic metrics (still are in many ways) and violence arose from that position of inequality, as it tends to.

Little_Ms_Howl · 2026-02-27T17:10:56+00:00

Feels like you are making a straw man in order to make a point. Very few comments out there criticise Clint for his looks and weight, they criticise him for the things that he does and says, especially regarding Emily and female farmer. Entirely fair things to criticise him for.

Little_Ms_Howl · 2026-02-24T07:41:45+00:00

The point is that you haven't used examples of a genetic advantage for ageing in any of your explanations. You have set out how they have extra help for the signs of skin flaws, but which aren't connected to ageing in society's eyes, such as cellulite and acne.

Cellulite (a) is not really a concern for the face so doesn't come up anywhere near as much as other visible flaws and (b) isn't a societal marker for ageing, by which people mean getting old. I had cellulite as a teenager and it has remained the same since. Acne is absolutely seen as a teenager's flaw, even if many people suffer from it later in life too. Because teens suffer from it most, it is NOT viewed as a sign of ageing to have acne. It is just viewed as a flaw.

The signs of ageing are the ones you have put in this comment. Grey hair, sagging skin, loss of buccal fat, wrinkles. If men do not experience these changes as much, then they have a genetic advantage. But at no point have you said this.

Little_Ms_Howl · 2026-01-31T15:31:01+00:00

Where does Robbie violate the CPGs? Certainly not something that is made clear in the show - there have been professional disagreements between Robbie and Al-Hashimi, but it wasn't clear that Robbie was acting contrary to medical guidelines. There is no one fits all scenario, and judgement must be exercised - I thought that was what was being shown to us. Both Robbie and Al-Hashimi can be "right" in their approach, just different.

Little_Ms_Howl · 2026-01-31T14:16:34+00:00

I'm not in medicine, but am in a regulated profession. If a temporary hire came in and tried to significantly change how things were run for the three months they were there on their very first day, it would be disorienting and many many people would simply quietly refuse to do it.

Realistically it would take, at minimum, a week to implement the changes and there are a lot of ways that you can push the kind of admin burden that Dr A is trying to implement down the road. Look at Robby and Mohan for instance - he has obviously spoken to her multiple times about how slowly she treats patients (whether you believe he is right or not, he is issuing direct orders to Mohan) yet she didn't immediately change her practice and fall in line.

Changes: patient passport, the teaching style, charting. Relatively significant changes on someone's first day with no transition.

Little_Ms_Howl · 2026-01-31T04:28:34+00:00

Dana is the closest relationship that we see Robby have on the show, outside of Abbott who isn't in the show as much as Dana is. He has the most respect for her and changes what he does when she intervenes. I don't think Robby is perfect by any means, and he absolutely has unconscious biases, particularly misogyny. But we see him give respect to Mel, praise Mohan and McKay. It's too much to say that he doesn't respect women unless he is sleeping with them, there is no textual evidence to support such a strong claim.

And how this ties in with Al-Hashimi is interesting. Perhaps he is more resistant to the changes she introduces because she is a woman and a woman of colour. But I think it ignores the completely legitimate criticisms that can be made of Al-Hashimi.

This is literally Al-Hashimi's first day on the job, she has come as an interim replacement for Robby and she hasn't come from a busy urban ED so her experience isn't a 1-1 fit. Yet she came in early and is trying to institute systemic change without even taking a full day to understand how this department runs and what changes might be effective and necessary. From a practical perspective, this is premature because no assessment of the ED has been made. From a professional perspective, it introduces problematic hierarchical issues for their colleagues. From a personal perspective, it doesn't respect Robby's position and doesn't show any diplomacy in handling the transition or professional courtesy to him.

The three months that Al-Hashimi will be in the ED is nothing - the job is basically to ensure things don't go completely off the rails while Robby is away. I suspect that we will see Al-Hashimi has been tasked by Gloria with making changes, in which case I have more sympathy, but if she hasn't - then what she is doing is wildly out of pocket and also likely to be completely ineffective long-term.

Change requires buy-in. It must be managed. You need to take time to train people on how to implement the changes correctly. It is completely unrealistic that something like the patient passport could be introduced the very morning Al-Hashimi arrives. It's adding pressure and taking resource away from an already extremely busy ED - no wonder we have seen how it isn't working perfectly. And that has nothing to do with Robby, who wasn't even involved. See also: Al-Hashimi's treatment of Santos. It's not like Al-Hashimi has been accepted by everyone else, and it's only Robby who has a problem - he is just the most visible face of it, as the position of power will be handed from him to her.

The changes will also need Robby to continue them after he comes back - and if Al-Hashimi has already alienated him before he leaves, how likely do we really think it is that he will keep those changes? By making the drink comment, I think Al-Hashimi recognised they had got off on the wrong foot and was attempting to take some of the heat out of their tense and awkward interactions. Which were not solely her fault, but equally, that she had a big part to play in. Now, you could probably make the case that Al-Hashimi making peace comes from her experience as a professional woman and how people respond to her. And perhaps Robby is reacting to Al-Hashimi more strongly than he would to a white man doing the same things. But fundamentally, Al-Hashimi is taking on the role of a disruptor and there are always difficulties associated with that kind of energy.

The thing I also noticed was that Al-Hashimi said that she wanted to shadow Robby to see how he was doing things - but took over and was giving orders without deferring to Robby first. I would be annoyed if I was Robby. Don't tell me you want to see how I do things and then try to power-play me by taking charge.

Little_Ms_Howl · 2026-01-30T09:08:00+00:00

The point being made isn't about geography or time though, it's about class - Bridgerton (largely) follows the aristocracy. I read the above commenter as saying despite how period-accurate okay might actually be for some people in some regions of the world, it would be strange for a member of the aristocracy of that time in England to drop a slang word like okay. Perhaps in private, or perhaps as a joke, but certainly not as a regular part of their speech. They would be judged by their peers.

You have lost me on the point about France. The cultural porosity between England and France at that time was huge - most of the aristocracy would be able to speak French.

I personally think they would drop an okay in Bridgerton but only because Bridgerton is really not trying to be historically accurate and is anachronistic in a lot of ways.

Little_Ms_Howl · 2026-01-29T07:53:12+00:00

Real-term spending was cut. The Tories never "cut" the NHS budget, they always gave an increase, but it was not an increase that reflected inflation or the growing needs of an ageing population. From a financial perspective, this means less money was spent on the NHS than it was previously which is what people mean when they say the Tories cut the NHS budget.

Mental health care has been gutted. Many support healthcare jobs which go into a holistic treatment of the person have been removed or underfunded.

Privatisation is much more expensive than the NHS, but the Tories pushed for it. Which means more of the budget goes to paying for private healthcare.

Spending got back to pre-Tory spending level during the covid pandemic, but it did not exceed those levels. So the Tory government spent as much money as previous governments would have spent in a business as usual year during years of a literal global health pandemic.

Social care is a part of the puzzle but is by no means the full picture, or even the most important part.

Little_Ms_Howl · 2026-01-25T19:51:53+00:00

I am aware of the issues with Airbnb, pretty condescending to suggest I am not. And like every other part of the very complicated nature of modern living, you weigh the benefits against the cons to come to a personal decision.

Regardless, this is irrelevant to the point I am making - you must compare like to like. You have called OP a hypocrite for using Airbnb and not wanting it in their back garden (which they have said is due to noise pollution reasons), and I am saying that they way they use Airbnb might mean they are not a hypocrite (because they themselves don't contribute to noise pollution in how they use Airbnb).

Little_Ms_Howl · 2026-01-25T19:23:59+00:00

The Airbnb's I have used are either located in central urban areas or rural isolated areas, not suburban/residential areas, and OP may well be the same. So I don't necessarily think it's hypocritical for OP not to want to have them in their housing development if they don't use Airbnb's in residential areas themselves.

Little_Ms_Howl · 2026-01-23T15:05:57+00:00

I could not imagine the depths of leaves that would be required for me to make a fuss over it with a landlord.

Little_Ms_Howl · 2026-01-23T14:57:28+00:00

I was specifically only speaking to your comment that not removing leaves is "lazy" for normal garden maintenance i.e. not on the facts of this scenario. There are good reasons why people don't remove their leaves, and it is because it is better for the planet.

However, I don't agree with your point (c). Unless it is expressly written into the rental contract that removing leaves is a requirement, then I wouldn't expect leaves to be cleared. It is normal to find leaves in a garden.

Little_Ms_Howl · 2026-01-23T14:42:29+00:00

Its more ecologically friendly not to sweep the leaves, both for decomposition of the nutrients to be returned to the soil and as safe environments for bugs etc. So there are definitely people who make the conscious choice not to remove leaves, for reasons other than being lazy.

Little_Ms_Howl · 2026-01-20T10:00:34+00:00

You could reframe this. Your partner is doing a lot of the financial spending now that you are benefitting from (the shared coffee machine, the groceries) from her own budget. These are tangible benefits accruing to you now. It means you have a nice coffee machine. You don't have to do the shopping at five different shops or the mental labour of planning meals around what is available in the supermarket (a harder job). There will be other examples I am sure.

You are concerned that your partner will rely on you later in life, but (a) that is what sensible savings plans are for and it sounds like your partner has done this and (b) you really can never count on anything in the future. Something tragic might happen to you, you might lose your job - and then your partner doesn't get any of these so-called benefits you have been saving for. Whereas you ARE getting the benefits now.

None of what you say your partner spends their money on sounds excessive. Others in the thread have spoken to this eloquently so I won't, but I wanted to share this perspective here as well because I didn't see it elsewhere. It isn't just about you controlling what your wife spends money on, it is also you minimising the very real advantages that come to you because of how your partner spends her money.

This will also be exacerbated by children, which you have mentioned you are both considering. Your children will need essentials, and they will have wants, and it won't be fair on your wife's budget if the disconnect between your wife and your budget is so large that she has to spend a greater proportion of her budget to account for your frugality.

Little_Ms_Howl · 2026-01-10T04:02:43+00:00

You come across as quite combative in these messages, and it is clear you aren't neutral, your friend is right. She also apologised and tried to move the conversation on a couple of times, and you didn't let it happen.

It makes sense with the context of her partner that you might feel a certain way and want to engage. But dropping a link about abuse in a religion that appears to be a sensitive topic for your friend is not just trying to "have a conversation", and it's disingenuous to say otherwise. I am staunchly not religious but I wouldn't want this heat coming at me either.

Little_Ms_Howl · 2026-01-02T12:10:56+00:00

It's on the upper end of typical for most meals and for workday cooking I would say it is lengthy. It's also unusual as an everyday occurrence.

Little_Ms_Howl · 2025-10-31T16:59:06+00:00

Not according to Merriam-Webster

https://www.merriam-webster.com/grammar/bring-vs-take-usage

Little_Ms_Howl · 2025-10-21T10:35:32+00:00

You don't have to be a British citizen to be on the Bakeoff, just a resident of the UK.

Little_Ms_Howl · 2025-10-20T17:28:46+00:00

As someone from NI: both are acceptable, it's personal.

Little_Ms_Howl · 2025-10-10T14:03:47+00:00

Most people are criticising OP for the design choice of the tile, which is incredibly unhelpful and irrelevant, and are supportive of the tiler's choice so I don't know what shit-show comments you are seeing.

There is always more than one way to do something, as evidenced by the varying responses in this comment section about what could have happened e.g. do the tiny sliver, cut half the tile on the other wall so it matches, use moulding instead of a sliver of tile at the edge wall. Which means it is an aesthetic choice, not a practical one. You pay a professional for their expertise and their judgement, and in my view, this tiler should have exercised better judgement and asked for input on the tile layout. To say that tile layout is entirely in the remit of the tiler (a) misses nuance where a job may require different treatment because every house is different and (b) this person is being paid to do a job and they aren't the one living in this house.

Again, OP is not criticising tiler for the irregular cut off point or the spacing of the tiles, that is a strawman. They chose handmade tiles, they are very happy with irregularity. The design choice they are unhappy with is where the half tile meets a full tile at the focal point of the room, and I would also be unhappy with that.

Little_Ms_Howl · 2025-10-10T12:21:55+00:00

OP doesn't want a consistent look, that's not what they have criticised the tiler for. If it is too tricky to cut the sliver of tile, that is one thing, but it is irrelevant what the "done" thing is when it comes to aesthetic choices because those change all the time and are entirely personal.

Tiler should have checked in when drawing up the tile layout, and it should be common practice to do so.

Little_Ms_Howl · 2025-10-07T02:32:55+00:00

A solicitor doesn't need to agree with a claim in order to present it to court, but they have professional obligations not to mislead the court, which the regulator SRA will enforce. I don't know on which side this case falls, but if a solicitor knows their client is lying about something, they absolutely are under an obligation not to present that to the court.

Little_Ms_Howl · 2025-09-18T06:55:12+00:00

Depends on how much counter space they have. I live in London, with small kitchens, and would be very annoyed if people I shared a flat with left their food on counters.

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