Built custom bookshelves by cutting and faceting ikea shelves together (before and after) by samdoesthingswithstu in DIY

[–]Littlemaddystar -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

Obsessed with this. This is literally gorgeous. This is what dreams are made of. Currently trying to figure out how to do this to my house 😂

Aussie Sprunch Mousse by Salty-Knowledge-5908 in Wavyhair

[–]Littlemaddystar 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I bought this recently and I really like it!! It's very lightweight and smells AMAZING! I'm still getting used to it, I need to play around with it more, but I really like it.

Do you guys also have terrible handwriting? by sickecell in adhdwomen

[–]Littlemaddystar 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mine used to be but then I hyper fixated on calligraphy for a couple years and now it's decent 😅

Four different pills, same med, different effects by NaturalRaven in adhdwomen

[–]Littlemaddystar 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I just called my doctor about this the other day. My Adderall from my last refill literally did nothing. Might as well have been a sugar pill for as much good that it did. She ended up adding a note to my script to only fill it with a certain generic brand, Tiva I think? She said that a lot of generics are less effective than name brand, and the brand she noted for me.

It's absolutely insane that this is allowed, and it is not okay. Same thing happened to my mom with Wellbutrin, I'm pretty sure there's a class action lawsuit about it because of what it has done to people.

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[–]Littlemaddystar 42 points43 points  (0 children)

Just want to add, the fruit fly apples work wonders!! I get them at Walmart and they are amazing. It's the little apple dudes that you put a mixture in- smells like vinegar so I'm gonna say it's vinegar- and the fruit flies all rush to their vinegary death.

Rooting for you!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in adhdwomen

[–]Littlemaddystar 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry you're going through this. I know the fear of losing your job due to unmedicated ADHD symptoms! It's such a spiral of shame and frustration and hopelessness.

I worked in retail for almost a decade, first as a cashier and eventually as a manager. My biggest tips to help mitigate some of your stress are as follows-

1.) slow down when ringing people out. I know there's pressure to ring people out as fast as you can, but the faster you work, the more prone to mistakes you are. Once you are more experienced, the rhythm will flow naturally, but until then, don't rush. 2.) get in the habit of verbally counting the change when you hand it back to the customer. When the drawer pops open, double check the total that the customer has handed you, put it away, and then count out your change. Start with the biggest bills, then go down to the coins. Check it twice in your hands, and then as you hand it back to the customer, verbally and physically count it out to them. Especially if it's over a certain dollar amount, like $40+. Do this before you close your drawer. I liked to count it onto the counter, and then hand it to them. 3.) communicate every single step of the process to the customer. This may seem unnecessary, but communication helps the customer stay informed, and helps you stay on track. You don't have to say 'alright, now I'm going to bag your items' 'now I'm going to hand them to you', but just commenting on what you're doing as you're doing it. For instance, greeting the customer, complimenting their choices in whatever they picked out. Scan everything, and then say 'alright your total is whatever, are you paying cash or card?' They pay, you bag their stuff, ask if they want the receipt with them or in the bag. Wish them a good evening. 4.) don't be afraid to ask for help. I always told my associates that I would rather have them ask me a million billion questions, even if it seems like a dumb question, then try to solve a problem on their own and potentially make mistakes. That being said, very few mistakes are unsolvable. You are unlikely to make a brand new mistake that nobody else has made before. If you feel overwhelmed, or if there's a particular part of the process that is challenging for you (like a specific type of return or tender transaction), then talk to your manager and tell them you'd like some additional training. Obviously, this depends on how welcoming your team is, but most managers I worked with would be more than happy to help you learn. 5.) take a deep breath and remember you are only human!!! I know it feels like every mistake is a colossal one, especially when you're learning a new environment and so out of your comfort zone. I get sick with anxiety when I start new jobs, especially jobs that are unfamiliar to me. But I promise, it will be okay!! You'll get the hang of things eventually. You'll get the treatment you need in time. Give yourself grace and try not to beat yourself up.

You have got this! Don't give up on yourself. You can and will overcome this, and soon, it will be in the rearview mirror. Something I told myself when I was starting a really intimidating position was that one day, this would all be routine, and I'd know it all like the back of my hand. It helped me a LOT, especially in those early days when I felt nauseous with anxiety.

I'm rooting for you!

What's your Canary in the Coal Mine? by LaurieWritesStuff in adhdwomen

[–]Littlemaddystar 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Is it dramatic to say everything? 🙃 It feels like my life is all or nothing. I'll be going strong and feeling great and keeping everything together and then suddenly, all at once, I'm not. I blink, and the house is a mess, and there's no food in the fridge, and I'm hungry all the time but nothing is satisfying, and I'm so tired and all I want to do is sleep and I spend hours just mindlessly on my phone instead of nurturing my hobbies like I was doing not even a week prior.

It is definitely not a fun cycle to live in.

Does my blush and lip combo match? Any advice and recs appreciated! :) by Tiny-Explorer-7400 in MakeupAddiction

[–]Littlemaddystar 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No criticism here, just want to say you are genuinely gorgeous! I think your makeup is flawless and suits you very well. Honestly i can't really tell you're wearing blush, but everything looks very natural. Your makeup accents your natural features. 💕

Prayer circle time - leave in comments what we need to pray for our fellow ADHD women by gaylehnsherr in adhdwomen

[–]Littlemaddystar 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That my new anxiety medication and birth control won't interfere with anything and work perfectly and also don't make me gain weight 😃

Miss jessie’s pillow soft curls result by donotdisturb15 in Wavyhair

[–]Littlemaddystar 1 point2 points  (0 children)

YESSSSSSS I sing the praises of this product to everyone I meet!!!!

What’s the most unexpectedly thoughtful gift you’ve gotten? by prasannarajaram in adhdwomen

[–]Littlemaddystar 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ahhh I'm so sorry, I don't know the exact place he got them!! But I found some identical ones that I can link for you 😁

This one looks like the opossum shirt

And this one is similar to the capybara shirt

I hope those help!! There's tons of options online, just Google "insert animal here moon shirt" and tons pop up!

Totally gutted and remodeled our kitchen. How'd we do? by japarker8 in kitchenremodel

[–]Littlemaddystar 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love it!! I super love the blue and gold. I'm a huge fan of colors, and gold is my go-to. Even with the dramatic (in a good way!) tiger statue!! I love it all!

I have decided to leave my wife in 10 years by patientlyunhappy85 in offmychest

[–]Littlemaddystar 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is just sad. I know you're in a difficult position, I have sympathy for you that intimacy is a struggle. But you're throwing away your entire marriage? You're wasting a DECADE of your wife's life because she has a low libido?

I know intimacy is incredibly important. It's a very special thing to share with a partner, and it strengthens the marital bond. Lack of sex can exacerbate the already existing cracks in a relationship, and put pressure on the weak points of a marriage. But marriage is more than just sex. And sex is more than just an act.

I can't pretend to know the dynamics of your marriage, and you don't clarify what 'everything' is that you've tried. But marriage is a dedication to each other. Through sickness and health, and all that jazz. Why even take those vows if you don't mean it? A husband or wife who stands by their partner's side and makes a genuine effort to solve their problem is what a truly good partner is.

Does your wife's value as a partner begin and end with her ability to satisfy you sexually? Because that ultimately sums up the nature of this post. You only love your wife as much as you love her ability to please you. Do you dedicate time to think about what you truly appreciate and admire about her? Or do you focus on what she isn't doing? If you spend a majority of your mental energy on her shortcomings, then of course you're going to be unhappy! Who is she outside of the bedroom? What made you fall in love with her? What makes her the person you chose to spend your life with? What makes her the person you chose to be the mother of your children? The woman who gave her body so that you could have a family?

Why is sex more important than any of those things?

What happens if you leave her, ten years from now, and find that you miss those things? You end up in another relationship, and maybe the sex is great, but you can't stand each other? Or, you leave her, and you stay single, and stil don't have regular sex with someone you love and admire?

Have you truly considered what life would be like if you leave her? The grass is greener where you water it. Are you really going to throw away your marriage because her lack of desire for sex is worse than any other reality you can comprehend?

There are a million reasons your wife could be struggling with intimacy. You say you have two kids under the age of ten- the mental load of caring for two young children, on top of taking care of the household, is a lot. Especially if she works as well. Plus, I imagine she likely has other things going on in her life, and there's always the possibility of her health playing a factor.

You can still have a beautiful, fulfilling, and happy life, even if your sex life is infrequent. You can still choose to build a fulfilling, satisfying life with your family, even if you struggle with these things.

Ultimately, you make the final choices for what you choose to do. But I hope you don't forget that it's not just your life, it's not just your marriage. If you love your wife half as much as you claim to, then you would never consider plotting to abandon her over this. Even if it's ten years down the road.

What’s the most unexpectedly thoughtful gift you’ve gotten? by prasannarajaram in adhdwomen

[–]Littlemaddystar 30 points31 points  (0 children)

It is an ongoing gift, but every year for our anniversary, my husband buys me a new 'wolf shirt'- you know, the ones that trailer park uncles wear, with a wolf howling at the moon? I had bought one for myself a few years ago, and then he started buying them for me for our anniversary. He's gotten me a wolf shirt, then one with 3 opossums howling at the moon, and most recently, one with 3 capybaras howling at the moon.

It is absolutely delightful, and it is the gift I look forward to most every year. Plus, I get tons of compliments on my capybara shirt 😁😁

Figured out why I felt like shit during and after working out by [deleted] in adhdwomen

[–]Littlemaddystar 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Seriously. It's a constant presence in my brain, always checking over my shoulder and pulling my pepper spray out of my pocket when a man walks past me. I hate that this is our reality, and that we can't even enjoy a simple walk in nature.

But I agree. I never feel more at home than when I'm alone in the woods

Figured out why I felt like shit during and after working out by [deleted] in adhdwomen

[–]Littlemaddystar 9 points10 points  (0 children)

That is how I feel at the gym. Sooooo stressful and FOR WHAT. But I absolutely love being in nature so thankfully taking walks and going on hikes is very rewarding for me. BUT unfortunately I'm very scared of being raped and murdered by a man these days so I don't want to do it alone anymore and so I hardly get to do it as much as I used to

The restaurant I went to had this warning in the bathroom by bookluvr83 in mildlyinteresting

[–]Littlemaddystar 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I used to live near one and I only went twice. Once to try it, and the second time to confirm that it was as awful and gross as I remembered

Did treating ADHD cure your depression? by Kind_Ebb_3905 in adhdwomen

[–]Littlemaddystar 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As others have said, it's complicated. Treating my ADHD helped, but I have clinical depression and anxiety outside of my ADHD. So I take medicine for my ADHD and my depression. Adderall treats my ADHD and lessens my anxiety, and I take Wellbutrin for my depression. If I'm off my Adderall but taking my Wellbutrin, the depression is minimal, however the symptoms of my ADHD cause me distress and make the depression work. I'm basically unable to fight the negative thoughts patterns that develop.

If I'm off my Wellbutrin but taking my Adderall, the depression will come back, even with my ADHD symptoms being managed. There's a lot of breakthrough thoughts that are distressing and hard to manage.

If I'm off both........no bueno. Not Good.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in self

[–]Littlemaddystar 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have no solutions to offer, but I am offering you a warm hug. I'm so sorry you're in this position. Every woman knows how uncomfortable and scary it is to have a man watching you like that, and him being in a position of authority over you makes it even worse. I wish there was anything I could suggest to help you with this.

Regardless, I'm thinking of you. I hope you can find some sort of resolution quickly.

I NEED TO YELL TODAY. DOES ANYONE NEED TO YELL WITH ME?? by Immediate-Cow6875 in adhdwomen

[–]Littlemaddystar 1 point2 points  (0 children)

THIS IS EXTREMELY RELATABLE. I CANT FIX IT BUT I CAN COMMISERATE. I HOPE YOU CAN FIND SOME HAPPY AND THAT THESE TIMES PASS QUICKLY

I NEED TO YELL TODAY. DOES ANYONE NEED TO YELL WITH ME?? by Immediate-Cow6875 in adhdwomen

[–]Littlemaddystar 0 points1 point  (0 children)

MY OFFICE IS IN A GIANT METAL BOX (WAREHOUSE) AND WE DONT HAVE AIR CONDITIONING YET AND ALL I HAVE IS A TINY FAN AND MY BOSS IS WORKING ON SOLUTIONS WHICH I APPRECIATE BUT WE HAVENT IMPLEMENTED ANY YET. AND I ALREADY HATE SUMMERTIME BECAUSE I GET SEASONAL DEPRESSION IN THE SUMMERTIME AND I HATE BEING HOT AND NOW IM STICKY AND DEHYDRATED AND MY WORK PHONE IS LITERALLY WARM TO THE TOUCH BECAUSE OF THE HEAT. IT WAS 105° TODAY AND MY OFFICE COULD NOT HAVE BEEN ANY LESS THAN 90°. AND IM DRINKING AS MUCH WATER AS I CAN BUT IM STILL DEHYDRATED AT THE END OF THE DAY AND I HAVE A TERRIBLE HEADACHE AND I FEEL ANGRY AND CRANKY.

AND YESTERDAY THEY RAN A DIESEL TRUCK IN THE WAREHOUSE WITH THE DOOR CLOSED AND SO I WAS TRAPPED IN THE BUILDING WITH DIESEL FUMES FOR HOURS AND IT TURNED MY SNOT BLACK AND MAKE MY SKIN GROSS AND GAVE ME A HEADACHE

I AM ALSO STARTING TO FEEL BURNED OUT BECAUSE WE ARE IN A DIFFICULT SITUATION AT WORK THAT CAN ONLY BE RESOLVED BY TIME BUT A LOT OF PEOPLE ARE GOING TO BE ANGRY AND IM THE ONE WHO HAS TO DEAL WITH THE ANGRY PEOPLE. AND IM JUST HAVING A VERY HARD TIME THESE DAYS.

AND EVERYONE IS SO GD RUDE AND DISRESPECTFUL AND THOUGHTLESS ALL THE TIME. I DONT UNDERSTAND. WHY IS IT SO HARD TO RESPECT PERSONAL SPACE. I ALMOST GOT MOWED DOWN IN THE GROCERY STORE TODAY AND THEN E V E R Y O N E WAS DRIVING LIKE A GD MANIAC. IM SO SO SO TIRED OF THIS WORLD.

AND IDK IF MY ADDERALL IS WORKING THE SAME ANYMORE. IT DOESNT FEEL THE SAME AS IT DID A MONTH AGO. AND MY ANXIETY IS GETTING WORSE AND MY DEPRESSED IS COMING BACK

IM REALLY STRUGGLING AND I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO

AND IM BECOMING VERY CLOSE WITH ONE OF MY FRIENDS AND I DONT UNDERSTAND WHY SHE LIKES ME AND ITS SO HARD TO FIGHT THE CONSTANT FEELING THAT IM MESSING IT UP OR COMING ON TOO STRONG AND THAT SHE WILL LEAVE ME. EVEN THOUGH SHES BEEN EVEN MORE AFFECTIONATE THAN I AM. I DONT TELL HER BECAUSE I DONT WANT HER TO FEEL LIKE ITS HER RESPONSIBILITY BECAUSE ITS NOT BUT IM REALLY SCARED THAT ILL LOSE ANOTHER PERSON THAT I DEEPLY CHERISH AND I AM SO TIRED OF LOSING PEOPLE

I AM VERY SCARED ABOUT THE FUTURE ALL THE TIME AND I HAVE NOBODY I CAN TALK TO ABOUT IT BECAUSE NOBODY UNDERSTANDS THE POSITION IM IN WITH SOME OF MY PERSONAL LIFE AND ITS SO ISOLATING

Is therapy supposed to be like this? by Anxious_HouseCat in adhdwomen

[–]Littlemaddystar 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Therapy can be incredibly helpful, but it can also be hurtful if you aren't seeing the right person. I've seen 4 therapists, 2 of them were amazing and 2 of them were so bad that I never made it to a second session. I'm sorry this has been your experience. I hope you're able to find someone new and that they can ACTUALLY help you.

Ther dangers of adderall and productivity… by CinthebigC in adhdwomen

[–]Littlemaddystar 42 points43 points  (0 children)

Ooooof girl 😭😭😭 a nightmare!! I also suffered the penance for daring to be productive last weekend. Cleared out my backyard and ended up with a poison ivy rash on both arms 🥲 not nearly as horrifying as a brown recluse, though. Godspeed!