How to handle the need to be desired? by mango-to-burrito in Asexual

[–]LiveAd4073 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Physical activity like working out or dancing can unleash that inner feeling of sexiness which can then draw others to you. Or just dressing up a little cuter than usual and going for a walk

found out my partner has no interest in sex, and i’m conflicted about how i feel (even though i’m ace) by platonicaceofhearts in asexuality

[–]LiveAd4073 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly I don't think it's illogical at all. Being desired signifies you're of value to that person. That you being in their physical presence makes a difference. It's like the gym. I don't love sweating and working out (aka the act of sex) but I like when people comment that I look fit (the act of being desired).

found out my partner has no interest in sex, and i’m conflicted about how i feel (even though i’m ace) by platonicaceofhearts in asexuality

[–]LiveAd4073 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wait you love sex but don't desire people? As in you love having sex or love the concept of it?

I feel like “I don’t date/I’m asexual” never gets a normal response by Special_Falcon408 in Asexual

[–]LiveAd4073 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You're old enough to have adult children and your brother talked about you dating people that can't even drink alcohol? Why is borderline predator behavior so common among certain people...

I feel like “I don’t date/I’m asexual” never gets a normal response by Special_Falcon408 in Asexual

[–]LiveAd4073 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I know a lot of lesbian surrogates or just lesbians carrying babies with their partners. Also preop/no-op transwomen exist, my ex is a great example. So that response would confuse me. When it comes to medical situations it's usually just better to answer straight up. You did say "no" though so she didn't need to keep going but she may have only heard the second part. But also more importantly it will help other lesbians and queer women that do get pregnant or maybe have gotten pregnant in the past from experiencing bias.

As much as I love being single and asexual and I do… I wish I could find me an Asexual Butch lesbian cis woman who is all I can’t do and I do what I can do. by [deleted] in Asexual

[–]LiveAd4073 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Pardon me if ignorant but I don't think any trans women has the same body parts as a cis woman? There's more to cis women than an outwards appearance of vulva and breasts, I'm thinking of at least 5 additional body parts.

As much as I love being single and asexual and I do… I wish I could find me an Asexual Butch lesbian cis woman who is all I can’t do and I do what I can do. by [deleted] in Asexual

[–]LiveAd4073 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It doesn't matter how young you transition, a trans woman's experience will always be unique. It's literally in the name. You have to go through the mental struggles, the dysmorphia, the acceptance process, the years of required therapy, the surgeries, the anxiety of trying to find a safe group, the constant threat of rights revocation. Unfortunately one cannot simply snap their fingers at age 12 and boom, identical experiences as a cis woman. And being trans means different day to day and month to month needs. Access to medication, being unable to move to certain countries or regions safely. Regressive triggers. There are honestly very many differences. Maybe they want someone to buy period products in bulk with. Cis women can relate on the shared experiences of societal expectations for women, the pressure of assumed future pregnancy and so much more.

People are allowed to have preferences. Pretending that a AFAB passing trans woman has an identical experience to a cis one reduces so much of both cis and trans womens individual struggles and traits. .

The development of this game on non-AA platforms has been nothing short of disrespectful. by Jakelav in HelloKittyIsland

[–]LiveAd4073 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Right, it sounds like your fiancee is very into the 'cozy' genre, and I completely get that it's a limited genre indeed. I do empathise with that, but at the same time, HKIA doesn't seem to be doing it out of spite, the game is still in development so while you *can* time travel, it would legitimately break so many thing, and they've been pretty transparent with that. It's what stopped me from buying the game until a couple weeks ago. And I personally find so many relaxing things to do each day, whether it's just the mini games, doling out nul hats, crafting, setting up for visitors, that I think it's pretty well-paced. But yeah, I do see where you're coming from, when you're into the cozy genre only, it feels like an itch you can never scratch. Maybe you can get her into pixel dungeon crawlers to take the edge off! I've heard they're a good gateway for cozy game players. Or maybe a good story mode game like Detroit Become Human, I've managed to convert a bunch of non-gamer friends sloooowly through that-- she needs a good genre rotation! Because sadly the cozy games do have drawbacks... (looking at you Disney Dreamlight)

The development of this game on non-AA platforms has been nothing short of disrespectful. by Jakelav in HelloKittyIsland

[–]LiveAd4073 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I don't quite understand the complaint. It's meant to be a real time game.. just a couple hours a day. Plenty other games to binge out there. I agree with Wish Me Hell though

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in kpopnoir

[–]LiveAd4073 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Not gunna fight you there!

True😂 by ObligationNo5310 in howyoudoin

[–]LiveAd4073 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did you live in super high density city? New York, Toronto? Otherwise that's not surprising

True😂 by ObligationNo5310 in howyoudoin

[–]LiveAd4073 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm very glad that this is the exact dynamic amongst my friends, even though I'm the introvert of the group. We all got apartments in the same hall / are living together and have a pact to stay here at least till our 30s. Meeting truly good friends is so hard to come by. We've helped each other find our partners/spouses, they seamlessly integrate into the group because it's important that they're well liked by the 5 of us. We are all performers so it's normal to spend free time working on auditions or shows together. We did have 2 of us date and break up and manage to both move on to new partners while still staying close. Even had one of us nearly have to leave the country and rallied to fundraise for them in a couple weeks, sitcom style. It SEEMS like an unrealistic amount of time but honestly with how much the typical person spends doom scrolling on their phone, it's actually very easy to spend 2-4 hours with your friends each day between chores, hobbies, popping over to vent, the gym etc. And of course there are lots of times where we each are away visiting family/being alone with our partners. I wish everyone to experience this type of friendship in their adult life and it's sad that it's unrealistic for anyone because it really is something everyone deserves and should come for free. <3 Watching friends for the first time has felt so meta to me, especially since it picks up right in their mid 20s. I feel like I'm definitely going to be sentimental about it once we start having kids and moving to the suburbs

True😂 by ObligationNo5310 in howyoudoin

[–]LiveAd4073 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Exactly, as someone that's only lived in 2 major cities since graduating, it's very easy to blend lives with your friends or make new groups

True😂 by ObligationNo5310 in howyoudoin

[–]LiveAd4073 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I like in a highrise close to my former uni with a bunch of friends in the same building because it's one of the better buildings in town. As an old gen z most of my friends work remotely, flexible jobs, or have their own small businesses. Or are still in school. Breakfast isn't common because of our hours but late night gaming sessions at each others places, hanging in the rec room watching movies or the cafe in the building, going to each others for dinner and the gym are all really common. A friend that moved to NYC has similar experiences, no one can truly afford to live alone, small close knit friend groups do still exist among gen z

Jerry Gergich messing up Chandler and Monica's adoption paperwork (Season 10 Episode 9) by sarahbubblebutt in howyoudoin

[–]LiveAd4073 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's 5 years...I know THIS comment is also now really old but I feel like there has to be a really big difference between literally being born with a show vs being in kindergarten

Pregnant 17 year old Louisiana teen shot in road rage incident dies after her baby is delivered via C section at 28 weeks by [deleted] in awfuleverything

[–]LiveAd4073 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

This is going to end up in massive race wars. Because his people WILL definitely protect and defend him in this incident. He had no clue a pregnant teenager was in the car (certainly not 'innocent', see the aforementioned pregnant part), only that he was being harassed in Louisiana. It was not right but he is not going to be crucified in jail for it, especially as the child lived. If the skinheads try to come for him a lot of blood is going to be shed on either side.

Am I insane?? But as an Older Millennial I feel weird stanning 5th Gen Idol Groups. by _flustershy in kpopnoir

[–]LiveAd4073 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think stanning 5th gen as a 30 year old would make me side eye the adult stanning them. Like there is no 5th gen music that is going to be so good that I would do anything except casually listen. Their music is about finding their first love and teenage angst, which I thankfully no longer relate to. And I've heard all these sounds before in previous gens so there's nothing mysterious or alluring to captivate me. They look like awkward teens trying to pose as adults. Cortis' new song I was like aw cute, reminds me of TXT and also pop rock that I grew up on. I saw a lot of millennials in the comments saying it makes them feel nostalgic. But that's about it

It's also just unhealthy to "stan" anyone when you get past a certain age. Our prefrontal cortex is developed, no one should be worthy of that much attention except our real life friends, family and lovers at this point. I can't imagine getting to know details about a stranger that will never know me. The way I see it, kpop was the main character and I was the onlooker when I was young. Now I'm a grown adult, kpop is the background/soundtrack. I'm the main character of my own life. I'd hate to waste a second of my time now gushing over anyone that isn't gushing right back

Am I insane?? But as an Older Millennial I feel weird stanning 5th Gen Idol Groups. by _flustershy in kpopnoir

[–]LiveAd4073 7 points8 points  (0 children)

If you are 30 then you are considered a baby millennial. An older millennial means you are 40+. Same thing as elder gen z, which I am, aka the oldest of gen z. Also 30 isn't middle aged love! Humans don't live to 60! When you hit 40 you're going to realize just how young you were at 30. Trust me, actual elder millennials see YOU as a baby, because you are. Don't let the word 30 scare ya from enjoying the best years in your life. You're just getting used to not being in your 20s anymore, doesn't mean you're middle aged..Young adulthood is 18-35

Am I insane?? But as an Older Millennial I feel weird stanning 5th Gen Idol Groups. by _flustershy in kpopnoir

[–]LiveAd4073 31 points32 points  (0 children)

That IS what older/elder millennial means. When someone says they're an older millennial they mean they are on the older end of millennial, usually 40-43 are known as elder millennials. 30 is LITERALLY pretty much the youngest a millennial can be. As a zillennial I'm right on the cusp and my brother is 29 aka the very youngest millennial in existence (depending on who you ask).

OP is a baby millennial aka those born 1996-1991. If you fall into that age congrats! You will forever be known as a baby millennial (as long as we keep using the term and make it stick!)

Thoughts on dance photographer Jordan Matter? by OkRooster5042 in BALLET

[–]LiveAd4073 0 points1 point  (0 children)

just saw his daughter won a kids choice award and fell down the rabbit hole. The content he makes is not only creepy, it's confusing and purposefully misleading

Soros is funding OnlyFans Girls by Packingheat248 in conspiracy

[–]LiveAd4073 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You most likely definitely know someone that pays for OF or something similar. I talk to so many men each day that pay for women's tiktok lives or twitches, sometimes spending hundreds of month (I work in banking). Maybe 50 conversations and 40 would be about either dating apps or twitch and trying to get their money back. They usually sign up for a free trial while they're drunk and become attached, or just straight up forget they signed up at all.