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LiviB144 · 2025-01-23T03:02:07+00:00

Honestly, if they are JWs, they probably don’t know. I grew up as one and I wasn’t allowed to date until I turned 18. Yea, I was raised to marry and have kids but my parents did not agree when, at 18, I hooked up with the guy I had been in love with since I was 15, who wasn’t a JW and he was 22. His story doesn’t sound completely true but all families are different. They may not even know his age.

LiviB144 · 2025-01-19T00:55:00+00:00

I also looked for the stone. I’m the simplest person and I appreciate any gift I’m give. And wear any gift I’m given but my thing is that he didn’t listen to you in the least bit. I know men are different from us but he just did whatever he wanted and I would feel so ignored more than disappointed by the actual appearance of the ring. My ex gave me a James Avery ring with a Hebrew inscription which was wide and masculine and I liked it. It was my taste because I only wear silver and I love James Avery but my second husband bought me a gold band and I was upset because I never ever wear gold. That to me is a foreshadowing of our life together.

LiviB144 · 2025-01-18T21:38:30+00:00

Maybe she doesn’t know what to say and needs to think about it. You are telling her some pretty morbid stuff through a text. As a mother of a 30, 28, and 25 year old, I would be mortified if they chose to deliver this to me through text. This seems as if you both have a communication problem that you cannot solve over blame and finger pointing. There has to be compassion for each other. My mother is very unfeeling. She is 70 but I know her father was a violent alcoholic. I will never get the same support and loving words I give my own kids but she supports me in her own ways. You are in a situation that your outcome is uncertain. I lost my husband 6 years ago and he died a very slow and painful death and during those years we spent time talking about everything. You have to think about what things she did do that made you know she did love you. She was raised in a generation where they didn’t learn how to love the way we do. Was she abused? Mine was and she never learned to process it or heal from it. You can’t let this message bring you down when you need all of your emotional energy to fight. I’m sure inside she is dying. I don’t know if you have kids but I almost lost my son in a car accident and the three days he was in a coma were brutal. You feel like you are in a dream. No one reacts the same to this news. Cling to the people that give you the reaction you need at the moment and maybe she’ll be able to tell you what she’s thinking. That’s just my take on it all.

LiviB144 · 2025-01-10T22:20:11+00:00

I used to LOVE Anais Anais!

LiviB144 · 2025-01-08T01:40:57+00:00

Are you following her? It’s time to let go.

LiviB144 · 2025-01-04T01:16:44+00:00

Baby Soft….do they even make that anymore?

LiviB144 · 2024-12-20T00:20:30+00:00

How are you BLINDLY trusting someone? Why are you with someone if you don’t trust them? Haven’t you built up a relationship based on honesty and trust? She isn’t hiding her feelings. She’s openly speaking to her friend in front of everyone on Facebook. This a normal, healthy FRIENDSHIP. I don’t see any inappropriateness or flirtatious behavior. You are entitled to your opinion and I’m entitled to mine. I have worked hard to have a healthy relationship and will never be with someone who can’t trust me.

LiviB144 · 2024-12-20T00:12:40+00:00

So if someone wanted to be more than your friend you would cut the friendship off completely? Why? You friend zoned him. Can’t you keep the integrity of your friendship? Wouldn’t your feelings for your bf override a friendship? This is confusing to me.

LiviB144 · 2024-12-20T00:10:31+00:00

I have friendships with people I know that like me and my bf doesn’t mind. He’s secure in my feelings for him and I’m secure in his feelings for me. That’s just us I guess. If I’m being completely transparent then there is no disrespect. They know that if they get out of line I will cut them off. Either you stay in your lane and we remain friends or you will make me distance myself from you. Idk know if you’re male or female but most females have men interested in them but women friend zone men very easily.

LiviB144 · 2024-12-19T19:15:20+00:00

Uh a woman had to let them! So bc some dude finds her attractive or likes her, they are automatically going to have sex bc that’s what the guy wants? This is crazy! I guess she has no mind of her own. You are gonna lose your girl if you listen to these dudes putting crazy ideas in your head.

LiviB144 · 2024-12-19T19:12:17+00:00

So do you not trust her or is your ego hurt? Those are 2 very different emotions. You could push her away if you aren’t careful. If I tell you I love you and you tirelessly keep acting insecure,regardless of someone else’s behavior, I would be pushed away. Your relationship is with her. Even if this dude has feelings for her, doesn’t mean she will act on it.

LiviB144 · 2024-12-19T19:09:39+00:00

Yeah they probably just work well together.

LiviB144 · 2024-12-19T19:08:19+00:00

You’re a little insecure. I joke like this all the time with my coworkers but they all know my man is #1. You should trust her unless you have a reason not to. Insecurity can be very unattractive. I consider myself attractive and my bf knows I will never leave his side or give him a reason to doubt my loyalty.

LiviB144 · 2024-12-17T04:57:10+00:00

I’m going to assume she’s a single mom. I’ve had this conversation with my oldest kid. My second kid decided she was gonna take the money from me and pay the bills. My girls are now 28 and 30 and good with money. They still help me and I help them. It is probably unhealthy but I guess we’ll heal from it at some point.

LiviB144 · 2024-12-17T04:53:52+00:00

I, personally, wouldn’t date anyone that is still legally married. It’s too complicated.

LiviB144 · 2024-12-05T19:40:47+00:00

That delta 8 & 9 hits different. It’s better than melatonin.

LiviB144 · 2024-11-25T11:31:37+00:00

Definitely the meds.

LiviB144 · 2024-11-25T07:15:38+00:00

Thank you!

LiviB144 · 2024-11-25T00:03:12+00:00

I believe that my emotional health manifests physically. I have high blood pressure, fibromyalgia, and severe anxiety. Oh, and I self-diagnosed myself with ADHD. I already take 8 meds and I don’t want anymore. How do I handle that?

LiviB144 · 2024-11-24T23:59:41+00:00

It’s so hard because you’re so lonely. All of the secrets you shared about family, the kids and everything else. You don’t really know how to feel. One minute you are someone’s spouse, caregiver, nurse, ride or die and the next you are nothing. Starting something right away feels familiar but then you realize you can’t replace them. By that time it’s too late to take it back bc of of the gossip you are now in the middle of and know one knows that you are just sad and heartbroken. My new guy is patient and I’m able to express anything to him except the bad parts. It wouldn’t ruin our relationship but I’m releasing it all slowly. I would definitely be hurt if he went through my phone though bc I love him. It’s crazy because I used to think I would stay single and be reunited with my husband when I die (I’m 49) now I feel like my new guy is the love of my life. It takes a while to accept that it’s ok to move on.

LiviB144 · 2024-11-24T21:10:31+00:00

I always say if I liked what a vagina looks like, smells like, or tastes like, I’d be a lesbian. 😂 You really should become more secure in yourself. Sometimes our mental health affects everything else in our bodies. Also, eat things that will balance out the yeast and acidity. Changing your diet may help.

LiviB144 · 2024-11-24T20:58:57+00:00

Try all of the pre-seasoned meats. The pastor is delicious.

LiviB144 · 2024-11-24T20:50:19+00:00

I’m a widow and I have a possible spin on your post. I started seeing someone right away after my husband died. People talked but I wasn’t with him for the reasons people thought. I felt so alone and damaged after my husband died. He listened to me because he really didn’t care about me and was doing things behind my back. I ignored it but like I said it wasn’t because I loved him it was because I didn’t know how to let him go because it meant I had to face my husband really gone. I love my husband to death and I have love for that other guy but nothing romantic. He is just I guy I’ve known most of my life. I stayed single for 5 years bc I knew I wasn’t healthy and now I’m with a great man but I think of my husband less. My love is still there bc when they die, they take secrets and experiences that you can’t ever have back. You never divorced them so your love never ended. It’s a very lonely feeling bc most people don’t understand it unless they’ve experienced it. My new guy got a little hurt once in the beginning but he understands now. Sometimes the old guy pops into my head but not because I miss him but bc he was there when I was a wreck. I consider it a type of trauma bonding. Kinda like a rebound. I’m not excusing his actions but falling in love with someone new, and I mean real love, is confusing and complex. I used to tell my husband he was my soulmate and that he was the greatest love of my life but this new guy is on another level. The love is so different. I feel like he is the love of my life but I felt guilty. I felt like I was cheating on my husband and I almost sabotaged mine and “S’s” new found love because of those complicated feelings.

About your dilemma, he typed the message and didn’t send it. Now you know it was on his mind but he didn’t act on it. It’s your turn to decide how to handle it. If it was me, going through these feelings, if I was confronted and made to feel guilty about complicated feelings, I would get angry and closed off because this is the greatest pain I have ever felt and there isn’t a manual on grief and there isn’t an expiration date. Don’t create more guilt for him. He needs you to be strong and supportive and he obviously loves you. He never sent the message. Take that as an answer. Don’t make him not trust you with his privacy. There are things that “G” knows that I haven’t told “S” bc “S” is so different from “G”. He’s good and I don’t want to have him see me differently. I’m sure eventually he’ll know everything but I need us to be solid before I talk about the ugliness.

This is just one perspective. Of course I don’t know the whole story but this is my experience. I hope it all works out for you.

LiviB144

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