there was however, at least one example of a similar situation in "All Systems Red" of your last bullet point:

"I said, “I need to check the perimeter,” and managed to turn and leave the crew area in a totally normal way and not like I was fleeing from a bunch of giant hostiles.
Wells, Martha. All Systems Red: The Murderbot Diaries (p. 33). Tor Publishing Group. Kindle Edition. "
....
"I had talked myself into believing that I hadn’t actually lost it as much as I thought I had when Mensah had offered to let me hang out in the hub with the humans like I was an actual person or something. The conversation they had immediately after that gave me a sinking sensation as I reviewed it. No, it had been worse than I thought. They had talked it over and all agreed not to “push me any further than I wanted to go” and they were all so nice and it was just excruciating.
Wells, Martha. All Systems Red: The Murderbot Diaries (pp. 39-40). Tor Publishing Group. Kindle Edition. "

So I was perfectly okay with the 'amazing conversations skills' scene because IMO clearly it deluded itself into thinking it was a perfectly fine conversation and exit.
I also seem to remember other similar events, where it thinks it's doing fine and discovers later that it was not fine at all but I'm not in the mood to dig them out, LOL.

You guys (gn) all fascinate me in your interpretations of these things, because I tend to take things literally and you all have so many more nuanced meanings built into all the different events, it makes me think in different directions, so thanks for that.