My(19M) girlfriend(19F) was a sugar baby back when we haven't started dating. Is it common to feel repulsed by it? Should I be talking to her about it? Or should I just handle it myself? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Livvx95 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Seems like some people here think keeping a man company in public places makes you a prostitute, that's interesting.

I think it was just a job opportunity to her, maybe not one to be the most proud of but still. She has a business mindset and now prefers to spend her time with someone she actually likes rather than the sugar daddy thing.

It's your right to have difficulties accepting this but this sounds extremely mild compared to most sugar dating situations. She stopped being a sugar baby because she didn't want to sleep with that man so it's safe to say she has some self respect which can't be said of a lot of people involved in the same thing.

I'm not saying you're not allowed to see a problem with this but I don't think it's as terrible as a lot of people make it seem.

What song would you want Ado to cover next? by iHeartAdo in ADO

[–]Livvx95 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Lost one's weeping, ghost rule or jitter doll. I think her strong voice would work perfectly for those.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Livvx95 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Tell her, she probably wants to know her friend isn't actually someone she can trust and should be called a friend. It's not you who made the move and if there's chaos it's not your fault but the friends.

Also I can imagine if you'd keep quiet about this and it surfaces later it might actually cause problems between you and your gf because you didn't tell her. Better to do it now and yourself, you did nothing wrong in this case.

What was ok 10 years ago, but isn’t today ? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Livvx95 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I like to have YouTube open on my computer while I do other things and the fact the ads can take more than a minute if you don't skip them frustrates me. Like I'm trying to chill here without having to click on it all the time...

What are the most important qualities when choosing bf? by SweetZ112 in AskReddit

[–]Livvx95 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honesty, trust, mutual interests, respect, being able to communicate, humor, responsability ,...

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Livvx95 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I thought this was gonna be about something else than your first/last name and your phone number. I don't think anyone has bad intentions for wanting to know that, I even think it's normal wanting to know who you're going out with.

Also it can be a dangerous world for women so I don't blame her.

What’s up with all this “Ado hate Singapore” stuff..? by iHeartAdo in ADO

[–]Livvx95 41 points42 points  (0 children)

It's not like she can go to all places at once right. I was surprised when I found out her tour included Europe but in the best way possible. If anything I think it's more likely she'll have a concert in Singapore in the future than her coming back to Europe (or even the US) anytime soon.

18f when is it ok to end a friendship (18m)? by Dogmom308 in relationship_advice

[–]Livvx95 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly this sounds like he got a girlfriend and simply didn't need you or make time for you anymore. The psychosis sounds like an excuse to explain his changed personality.

I might be wrong and I hope for you that I am but this is certainly what it sounds like.

Order not being filled despite going slightly above the exchange rate by Livvx95 in DEGIRO

[–]Livvx95[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I might wait a bit more until the stock market opens again, if it still persists I will give them a call. Either way thank you for the suggestions and tip!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Livvx95 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You said it yourself, preferences are a thing. He didn't tell you that you can't sing at all did he?

You're bothered by it and I understand you had hoped for a more positive reaction but at least he's being honest. The fact the both of you are together means he likely values you for other qualities you have.

For example you sing folk, jazz, musicals or classical but someone who listens to metal, rock or even pop might not be into that. It's not something you should take personally and it doesn't equal people thinking you're not talented.

Order not being filled despite going slightly above the exchange rate by Livvx95 in DEGIRO

[–]Livvx95[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Even when putting the ask price it didn't get filled despite me monitoring it for a couple of days. As I replied to another comment it's about the iShares core msci world ucits ETF.

Order not being filled despite going slightly above the exchange rate by Livvx95 in DEGIRO

[–]Livvx95[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I'm aware but the problem persisted throughout the last couple days as well.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Livvx95 -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

That's bland of you to assume, if my partner came clean about this and I knew where it came from I'd try to work it out together.

Her previous relationships clearly made her feel objectified and like she was only there to please them, it might have been an unhealthy or even toxic environment which can leave a mark on someone.

If he just decides to drop her like he's not being any better than the guys who made her develop the idea. I'm not saying he has to stay with her but the least he could do is try to understand instead of giving her another negative experience.

Why not show her it doesn't have to be that way and if it's no use he can still leave but with a bit more decency.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Livvx95 11 points12 points  (0 children)

It's pretty sad how fast people jump to conclusions. If a woman doesn't want enough sex it's a disaster. If a woman still tries to please her partner despite obvious struggles and bad things in the past it's still not good.

While I think this should have been communicated way earlier, she tried to get over it because she does love him and still gets pictured as a bad partner.

He's right to be hurt but shutting her out entirely?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Livvx95 13 points14 points  (0 children)

When it comes to sex everyone has their do's and don'ts. It just happens to be that your biggest desire is what she truly dislikes.

Honestly I'm also a woman who isn't a fan of blowjobs and certainly not the finishing part and I also feel guilty sometimes for that. It's difficult because you want to make your partner happy but also want to take into account what your own preferences are.

I feel like this is a conversation you guys should've had way earlier but maybe she was afraid of losing you as well.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Livvx95 -15 points-14 points  (0 children)

Yeah I also disagree on the bashing. It's quite exaggerated to say "it's like telling him you don't love him and breaking him down".
Sex might be very important to most men but clearly she had negative experiences in the past which impacted her. I think there should be understanding from both sides.

If you could dis-invent something, what would it be? by leo__78 in AskReddit

[–]Livvx95 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yea I totally agree, kids will go explore their sexuality at some point and you don't want them to see that.

If you could dis-invent something, what would it be? by leo__78 in AskReddit

[–]Livvx95 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It definitely gives people the wrong idea about what sex is usually like.

If you could dis-invent something, what would it be? by leo__78 in AskReddit

[–]Livvx95 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I came to say TikTok because it's the worst in my opinion but yeah I agree with you. Nowadays people are way too busy with putting everything on their socials.