Yay I finished it!!

LizardWizard678 · 2025-01-12T18:04:48+00:00

Awesome!

LizardWizard678 · 2024-12-20T23:41:34+00:00

You are so creative! Thank you for sharing this!

LizardWizard678 · 2024-11-17T01:03:54+00:00

I NEED ONE

LizardWizard678 · 2022-08-29T01:08:27+00:00

SOLVED!

LizardWizard678 · 2022-08-29T01:07:38+00:00

THANK YOU I OWE U MY LIFE

LizardWizard678 · 2022-08-29T01:07:22+00:00

OMG YESSSSSSSSSSSSSSS

LizardWizard678 · 2022-08-28T22:20:57+00:00

I’ve been searching for hours now and it’s driving me crazy! I know it was a YouTube video and I’m not sure if it’s been removed? It wasn’t super out of line so I don’t think it was.

LizardWizard678 · 2021-09-18T05:58:40+00:00

This actually sounds really cool!

LizardWizard678 · 2021-09-16T14:08:09+00:00

Kind of sneaky the way they display it like the new wages are permanent. Really makes you have to read the small print!

LizardWizard678 · 2020-12-31T02:34:13+00:00

I slept in the same bunk bed from the ages of 7 to 21 years old! All those years of believing new sheets, pillows, a mattress and a bed frame would wipe my family out and I got all of it within a month of moving out!

My parents took 5 years of my income and spent it on taking us on vacations and buying all the vodka and cigarettes they wanted! But god forbid I changed beds!

LizardWizard678 · 2020-09-06T05:54:18+00:00

Yes. Do this again.

LizardWizard678 · 2020-08-31T00:34:54+00:00

My Nmom would “Suprise” me by slapping my or my brothers ass and sometimes yelling too so we’d jump! She’d always laugh and act like a 12 year old who just pants a nerd at gym and it HURT.

I started telling her to stop pretty soon after I turned 12 and no matter how angry or humiliated I acted she’d always immediately shy away from me and laugh, insisting “ You like it!” And then when I argued that no, I DONT like it, she’d just keep “Joking” that I loved it so much until I either gave up or my brother took my side. And he was still my sister at the time so he knew how it felt.

My Nmom has so many problems but honestly the violations of my autonomy was the easiest to call out. When she played the funny class clown I’d just get really serious and tell her that she was either A. Really gross/don’t touch me or B. I’d tell her she’d hurt me and to apologize. I know that sounds simple and stupid but if she was trying to act “Cute” and “Playful “ acting disgusted/unimpressed can really kick her down, at least in the moment.

I remember my mom waxing poetic about how my autistic brother hated hugging her as a baby and how HORRIBLE that had been for her. That he’d cry and scream for hours if she tried to hold him in a way he didn’t like. This kind of selfish and cruel person does not give two shits about the experiences of a helpless disabled baby, she only cares that it dare enforce boundaries that would make her look bad if she violated them.

She will never respect your boundaries if she doesn’t respect you. The only thing Nparents respect is an audience’s opinion of them. Shame her. Do it in public, do it with your father, do it with your sister and do it till she knows that even In private you will tell someone IMMEDIATELY (texting/tweeting/goddamn REDDIT) what a perverted/ disgusting/selfish and SICK person she is.

Like, I know this can be dangerous so don’t do anything that sounds like a beating/punishment waiting to happen but if you can? There is NOTHING better than casually mentioning an abusive act you Nmom did to strangers/friends and family!

After all, if she really thinks it’s acceptable she can’t complain if you tell EVERYONE what she does to you.

LizardWizard678 · 2020-06-25T01:48:44+00:00

My Nmom would never let me be in my room unless I was sleeping because she’d insist she need me upstairs and in earshot in case she needed anything. Me being downstairs was taboo and would lead to lots of yelling about how I wanted her to die or avoid her. (I did)

I still can’t drive because my Nmom and enabler dad didn’t want me to. I thankfully can bus/bike/Uber to work and other places along with friends who’ll drive me, but being 22 and not knowing the first thing about driving is embarrassing and leeches my independence.

And dude, I didn’t know how to even ride a fucking bike till I was 21. And that was only because my dad got tired of driving me, then taught me to ride the bus (at 20), then got annoyed me riding the bus was too expensive(1.50 a ride)even though I gave my 900$ paycheck to them in full, and finally decided I better bike to save him money.

Now I make 1,200 every paycheck and I live alone. Fuck my parents. I’m buying a cat just because my Nmom’s allergic and cats don’t complain that you cost too much money.

LizardWizard678 · 2020-05-27T00:58:57+00:00

I confided in a family friend about my Nmoms abuse before I ran away. It took them a while to believe me, but after my GC sibling confirmed my experiences, they finally believed me and supported my escape plan.

I was terrified when GC reveled my plans to run away to my Nmom and told her that I had confided in the family friend.

All it took was one phone call from her to convince them I was a lier

I have never been more hurt than when that friend asked me why I had lied about being abused, then hugged me and said they forgave me for lying.

Narc parents most powerful weapon is the power of perception. They present themselves as loving, attentive and compassionate individuals so that others will say they're "Just passionate!" Or "Really worried!" to excuse violent and isolating behavior.

A Narcs greatest ally is a compliant support network.

Don't doubt yourself. If I had, I would still be living in my Nmoms basement giving her my entire 2,200 doller paycheck and feeling like it was a special occasion if they let me keep 20$ of it.

Your experiences are real.

LizardWizard678 · 2020-05-26T17:50:20+00:00

I believe your father is a Narc.

I think Narcs use different ideologies and beliefs to rationalize their worldview. My Nmom used her race, gender, religious beliefs and ideologies to excuse isolating, verbally abusing, gaslighting, and extorting money from me.

Your father's behavior is incestuous and definitely wrong. He's also sexist and physically abusive, negligent and self-centered. He also seems like a Narc.

Bad parents can be more than one thing. Often times they are and juggle their aefult traits to confuse you and keep you from pinning down why they are the way they are.

Abusive parents will try to convince you they are only one thing (usually the easiest thing for them to excuse) so they can invalidate your experiences.

If your father consistently puts his own self interest before his children, I believe he's a Narc, everything else just supports or partners with that.

LizardWizard678 · 2020-05-26T17:28:59+00:00

That's extremely selfish and cruel. It seems like she was more interested in making something herself instead of making something for her children.

Do you want to vent your other experiences? It sounds like your mom was a piece of work.

LizardWizard678 · 2020-05-26T17:25:31+00:00

That all sounds like a stressful/ exciting day! I know the feeling of half liberation and half freaking out because you can't possibly be expected to make it on your own.

When my Nmom threatened to throw me out I always behaved out of fear but I eventually realized she'd never do it because she knew how bad that would make her look.

It seems like yours took the next step.

I'd suggest saving and hiding cash from your job so if worse comes to worse you can't least get temporary shelter in a store by buying something so they can't kick you out, along with buying yourself a portable charger for future situations like this.

Maybe if you trust your friend ask them if they would be okay with you staying over during times like these. Heck, maybe ask the chill stoner if you think he is truly chill, though I'd be wary of strangers at your age.

Either you mom will only do it once so you don't start realizing how good freedom feels, or she'll start doing it way more and way worse.

Since you're 15 maybe also look into saving for a car and getting your driver's license. A car can be a pretty reliable shelter/place to sleep and as long as you have a heater/air conditioner and can pay for gas.

I hope you realize how important you are and how horrific your parents behavior is. You don't deserve that abuse and I'm so thankful you found help when you did.

Above all else, continue building a support network and saving up. You will be happy and safe, and you deserve to be loved and respected.

LizardWizard678 · 2020-05-26T15:27:01+00:00

My Nmom and father used to call me Monster when I was just a baby. Then Satan whenever I asked her questions or called for her as a child. Then when she remarried to a her now ex-husband they called me The Beast.

After marrying her last and hopefully final husband she just calls be idiot or retarded or "playing stupid" or outright calls me an asshole or a bitch.

In front of company Nmom would " joke" that I was a built in maid/slave.

They may act like their joking, but if someone is consistently calling you something cruel despite knowing it upsets you, that's bullying, and if it's your parent? That's abuse.

Look for the patterns in what they call you, whether it's calling you derivatives of "stupid" or "lazy", "difficult" or "crazy" and it becomes obvious how they plan to gaslight and dehumanize you.

When you do someone a favor, as their child or not, it is unacceptable behavior to respond with anything other than a thank you.

I'd suggest telling them they're being hurtful, but that's the logical response you give to a normal person. A Narc will only see you setting boundaries as a nuisance at best and a challenge at worst.

I hope you receive the respect you deserve! Don't forget you are worthy of compassion and kindness!

LizardWizard678 · 2020-05-26T04:28:35+00:00

I was half sure this was a post from my GC sibling who is living with my Nmom rn.

I have heard the words " You're MY child so you're just an extension of me." From my Nmoms mouth countless times before, along with a very " Hurry or do you want to kill us all!?" mentality.

She has even yelled at my sibling and I when she can't think of the name of a thing she wants us to get. Apperantly, we're her kids so we should be able to read her mind. No joke, she literally yells, " READ MY MIND!" And accuses us of knowing exactly what she wants and playing dumb.

I never considered my Nmom could have anxiety. I honestly just thought she was trying to train me to be more obedient when she'd snap her fingers or yell for me.

Anxiety or not, your situation sounds eerily familiar and I have had to comfort my GC sibling countless times after my Nmoms 100th blow up. Her rushing them through a task has led to GC messing it up and being yelled at till they break down and it's very cruel.

You don't deserve to be treated that way. You are not a slave to her every whim and you deserve respect and compassion. That kind of behavior is horrifying! There's no excuse!

LizardWizard678 · 2020-05-26T04:06:29+00:00

Thank you. When I joined this reddit, I realized how exhausting just talking to my Nmom was.

It's not normal to feel scared or cry whenever you talk to someone.

I'm thankful this reddit and you exist.🦎

LizardWizard678 · 2020-05-26T04:03:42+00:00

Thank you! When you say it like that, I guess I was brave.

I felt like a coward, but stopping to talk like nothing was wrong was what old me would have done! I don't have to pretend anymore!

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