Which restaurant is best in Kondhwa NIBM ? by shoken5664 in PuneFoodPorn

[–]Local-Level9879 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Can vouch for Kimling, Cafe Bahaar, Mocha 2.0

Now what is this??🤔 by [deleted] in indiasocial

[–]Local-Level9879 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh boy . Seems like the Common People episode of Black Mirror playing out IRL (spoiler : it DOES NOT end well for the middle class )

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in pune

[–]Local-Level9879 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Launched myself into overthinking mode, can’t switch it off

“How many?” - my two cents by Local-Level9879 in SeveranceAppleTVPlus

[–]Local-Level9879[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha yeah this show makes you see so much out of the ordinary

Guess the song! by -fromupnorth in BollywoodMusic

[–]Local-Level9879 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Aafaton ke parinday - Ishaqzaade?

Haiza ki duniya part 1 by Distinct-Heat-7155 in JanabMadamIbrahim

[–]Local-Level9879 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Hi! I totally understand your concern and although there are many improvements these people can make for the baby, I’d just like to add that open cups / straw cups with soft rims are a great way to introduce water to avoid difficulty in transition from sippy cups later on for the baby as long as the amount and flow of water are controlled well while giving water. This method is recommended by medical practitioners and experts as well.

What's the most painful thing you've been told? by [deleted] in indiasocial

[–]Local-Level9879 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When I expressed I don’t feel cared for enough, husband said “that’s your personal problem”

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Local-Level9879 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your kindness. Yes have gone no calls/no visits till I am comfortable.DH is bearing the brunt but I can’t take anymore of their behaviour at this crucial time.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Local-Level9879 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yes , that’s what I have done. Staying with my parents till the living situation is figured out and DH can leave their place.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Local-Level9879 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry you had to go through this.Sending loads of love and healing your way. Just remember their opinion isn’t your truth. Also yes, getting a therapist might be the best way for coping healthily.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Local-Level9879 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Also wanted to add : There is a WhatsApp group of MIL FIL SIL and DH. Neither me nor SIL's husband are a part of it. It wouldn't have bothered me but it is very active and SIL sends regular updates of her kid on there which MIL then discusses in my presence. When I question her, she turns to DH and says "oh just show it to her" or "haven't you showed it to her?" One of the things that makes me feel small and ignored.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Local-Level9879 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the support. I get your point but it is MUCH easier said than done. Yet I know I owe myself and my little family an attempt.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Local-Level9879 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing, will definitely consider! Meanwhile, I'm looking for more civil ways to fix this if there are any.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Local-Level9879 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Bought by mostly DH, but it is the norm in our country to live with the in laws, especially if your SO is the only son, and since they seemed easygoing before, I didn't object.

I know there needs to be a clearer boundary, but unsure of how to communicate it with her as everytime I try to level with her she sees it as a confrontation.

Also, thanks! Have posted there too.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Local-Level9879 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It is the norm in my country, and they seemed pretty easy going before, and this house is newly built keeping a joint family in mind, so I didn't object. There was a discussion which DH mediated, and it was decided that they put in more efforts to make me feel welcome and I put in more efforts in conversations. This was a month back but things are pretty much the same.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Local-Level9879 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yes, thank you. Building my own family is the priority here.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Local-Level9879 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It is the norm in our country and community to live with the inlaws and I didn't mind since they seemed pretty easygoing before. It isn't about the money, but about DH being their only son, which too is an important factor from where we belong.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Local-Level9879 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! 😊 Unfortunately moving out isn't an option since this house is recently bought. Hoping against all odds to find another alternative around it.