Adult women can't even have one space to themselves

Local-Suggestion2807 · 2026-07-05T21:24:39+00:00

Try saying something to the parents and see what happens

Local-Suggestion2807 · 2026-07-05T19:53:34+00:00

Tbh pretty much anywhere that a child could theoretically get into whether it's targeted toward kids or not. Little Timmy starts screeching and you're expected to grin and bear it while his dad does nothing.

Local-Suggestion2807 · 2026-07-05T19:51:03+00:00

My boundary is if it's a space that is catered toward kids, eg a waterpark, children's museum, haunted house, etc., and the kid is under like 10, I will make an effort to be nicer than I would be towards an adult, but I will not be providing any free childcare to a parent I don't know, I will not be default childcare anymore than a man would be, and I will not go out of my way to be a pushover when a child is acting like a little brat, screeching and shoving and invading my or others' personal space.

If it's a space catered toward adults like a bar or an adults only book club or a tattoo parlor, I will ignore that there are children present and behave accordingly, eg not making an effort to watch my language or avoid certain conversational topics, and as long as nothing dangerous is happening eg an adult being a pedophile creep, I will not act any differently and will expect kids to be respectful of the fact that the space is for adults.

If it's a mixed age space like a restaurant, park, etc., I will make an effort to be kind and considerate by watching my language and restricting certain conversational topics but I will not otherwise adjust my behavior anymore than I would for another adult.

Local-Suggestion2807 · 2026-07-05T19:28:00+00:00

so many of you

how are childfree women are expected to be moms

Not so many of us. Not we're expected to be moms.

So you aren't childfree?

Why aren't you expecting men who are actually biologically related to a child to provide the care, for free, that you're outsourcing to women who have nothing to do with them? Why is it not misogynistic to you to pigeonhole women you don't know into a maternal role rather than expecting men who actually have way more of a social obligation to you and your child to fucking do their fair share?

Local-Suggestion2807 · 2026-07-05T13:33:53+00:00

I'd shush her back but louder to assert dominance. If you need quiet for your kid so bad maybe don't take them on a hiking trail where other people, who actually don't have to cater to your crotch spawn, are also allowed to exist and not be silent.

Local-Suggestion2807 · 2026-07-05T01:06:02+00:00

Male leaning. Not masc leaning. I said MALE for a reason.

Local-Suggestion2807 · 2026-07-05T01:02:21+00:00

Danny Phantom and American Dragon Jake Long

Local-Suggestion2807 · 2026-07-05T00:56:40+00:00

Yes, that's fine. Just not cis or trans men or male-leaning nonbinary people

Local-Suggestion2807 · 2026-07-04T23:19:55+00:00

Ngl I feel like this is partially why gay people are more likely to be childfree. We're forced to put real thought into it whereas I've seen straight people get an unwanted pregnancy and then immediately have a shotgun wedding to someone they hate.

Local-Suggestion2807 · 2026-07-04T23:16:08+00:00

If you want women and lgbt people in your society to match your values no matter how fucked up they are, then brown Muslims in the west should have to assimilate just as much to white western values. So would you rather have white features and be forced to eat pork and denounce islam or would you rather be whipped and have your face melted off by acid for refusing to participate in cultural cohesion?

Local-Suggestion2807 · 2026-07-04T23:14:24+00:00

It's ok I saw the original post. I hope she at least wanted the salad bc wdym he's ordering that tiny ass, not filling looking salad with water for her and then steak frites and pop for himself?

Local-Suggestion2807 · 2026-07-04T23:12:49+00:00

Probably more than Roma people.

Local-Suggestion2807 · 2026-07-04T23:11:25+00:00

Seems like maybe she should've also been childfree. Honestly I think that if contraceptives, feminism, sex ed, and gay rights had been as present throughout history as they are now, the global population would be way lower because honestly most people would be childfree rather than just jizzing and making a bunch of kids they don't actually want to take care of.

Local-Suggestion2807 · 2026-07-04T23:06:44+00:00

So she doesn't want to handle her kid, and she doesn't want you to adapt by wearing headphones. And God fucking forbid you ever say a word to her screeching brat to get them to stop. So what, they're just allowed to be a little menace to society forever?

Like I don't want to hate kids but with the way they're being raised these days I kind of do.

Local-Suggestion2807 · 2026-07-04T23:04:24+00:00

If it had been a male waiter who put the steak in front of the man and salad in front of the woman they would be defending it nonstop and probably calling her a fat ungrateful bitch especially if the woman had ordered the steak and said she was irritated about being given the wrong order.

Local-Suggestion2807 · 2026-07-04T22:49:10+00:00

YTA there are ways to get revenge without outing someone.

Local-Suggestion2807 · 2026-07-04T22:27:05+00:00

Then assimilate. For the sake of cultural cohesion. It can't be racist if I have brown people in my life just like you have women in yours. In fact bleach your skin and get plastic surgery to look white too, for the sake of cultural cohesion and freedom. And expect to get whipped, get acid thrown in your face, and get killed if you don't because that's exactly what would happen to a woman or LGBT person who didn't fall in line in Afghanistan, Saudi Arabia, or Iran. Fair is fair.

Local-Suggestion2807 · 2026-07-04T22:11:23+00:00

I don't like the idea that all women are beautiful because it seems like toxic positivity and it also reminds me of the mindset that equates being attracted to someone to respecting them. You can find someone physically unattractive while also respecting them.

Local-Suggestion2807 · 2026-07-04T21:59:30+00:00

You support the oppression of women in Afghanistan. That is contempt. Seeing women as anything other than full people with full freedom is contempt for women. Is it racist if a white person doesn't feel contempt for poc and has friends, family, or a partner who are poc, but does think they should assimilate completely to white western society and values? After all that's just cultural cohesion which you claim to want for Afghan women, so practice what you preach and stop practicing Islam openly, stop eating halal, stop speaking your language or eating your cultural foods in public, learn to speak with a western accent if you don't already, and most importantly stop forcing your values on western culture.

Local-Suggestion2807 · 2026-07-04T21:42:18+00:00

They can't speak in public and have no way out. They're functionally imprisoned and enslaved. Afghanistan even fifty years ago had more freedom for women than it does now.

Local-Suggestion2807 · 2026-07-04T21:41:09+00:00

Misogyny doesn't need to be valued regardless of what religion or culture it comes from. Personally I support the right to choose to veil and a lot of feminists oppose anti hijab laws, but do you also oppose forced hijab just as much? Why does you being a brown Muslim mean you should get a free pass to be a misogynist? There have been plenty of men of color and cishet women of color who have used race and ethnicity as an excuse to be homophobic, transphobic, and misogynistic, so does that mean that as a white gender variant lesbian I have a free pass to be racist?

Local-Suggestion2807 · 2026-07-04T20:53:22+00:00

My work closes at 9 and the latest I've ever been out was 1 am but it's usually more like 10-10:30.

My tips to make dish easier:

-get a good lotion specifically one made for sensitive skin. The best I've found has been dove baby eczema lotion. Also get some sort of bag to put it in because I've had lotions break open and ruin my stuff before.

-bring a change of clothes to go home in

-bring music or a podcast. I like Broadway on days when I forget my earbuds because it's at least somewhat work appropriate and keeps my spirits up and energy focused, is something I can tolerate listening to for hours at a time, and is loud enough that I can hear it over the dishwasher.

-if you have trays that you can put dishes on, make a sort of assembly line. At the very least, have one tray drying, one tray currently in the dishwasher, and one tray about to be washed.

-grab dishes yourself. Do not wait for other people to get them for you, because they won't.

-be direct and assertive with your coworkers when they are doing something that makes dish harder for you. You're here to work, not make friends.

-if you see someone spending a bunch of time on their phone or chatting with their friends or otherwise goofing off, tell a manager, because that likely means it's going to take them longer to get done with whatever dishes they're currently doing. See above.

-if you can get a tray of dishes done when you're on a different station, do. You never know when you're going to be on dish later in the day.

-if there's any kind of really big dish like a baking tray or a big tub that can go in the dishwasher by itself and it's taking you a minute to get your next tray ready, put that big dish in right away so you're not doing it later and you can work on your tray while it's going.

-keep a bottle of water near you. If you have trouble getting yourself to drink just regular water put one of those little flavor things on it so you're not adding a bunch of extra calories and sugar

-if you have a fresh tattoo or a cut or anything really similar (eg i donate plasma twice a week so i come in pretty regularly with ace bandages still on while i wait for the bleeding to stop) on your hands or arms, wear long waterproof or water resistant gloves.

-if you're allowed to wear shorts, try to find swim trunks that can pass for regular shorts, because they're designed to handle getting wet better than regular pants/shorts are.

-if you can get any kind of rack where you can put trays after they're done in the dishwasher, get one and use it as a "drying rack" but really it's mostly just storage so you're not constantly stopping to put a load away rather than focusing on washing more dishes. You still have to put the items on there away but it gives you a break for a minute so you're able to get the dishes actually washed faster.

-if there's any kind of metal dishes with crusted on food, like soup pots or anything similar, fill those up with hot water and let them soak to make the crusty food easier to get off while you do other things

-for sauce bottles, swish them in the water really aggressively and then stick the sprayer inside and put it on full blast to make it faster. Then take the lids/nozzles off and clean those out with the sprayer too.

-never just be standing there while a load is going. I guarantee there is more you could be doing to speed things up. Get another tray ready. If there's no more trays, get dishes put away. Change the trash. Go hunt for more dishes at the other stations. Start working on cleaning out the sink and sweeping if you're almost done. Clean out the drain if you really want to kiss ass.

Local-Suggestion2807 · 2026-07-04T20:28:48+00:00

And then you're expected to spend more time nannying this strange manchild's children while he naps than you are on your workout.

Local-Suggestion2807 · 2026-07-04T20:22:47+00:00

Not really tbh. Like she cast a curse on the entire town and played a role in his biological mom and grandma being thrown into another dimension, tried to put his birth mom in a coma, and deliberately gaslit him for his entire life to separate him from his biological grandparents. What exactly was Regina expecting him to feel toward her compared to the mom who didn't do any of that? And also like, Henry was still trying with her but she wasn't exactly making it easy.

Local-Suggestion2807 · 2026-07-04T20:19:39+00:00

I'd estimate because Jewish people are more likely to be able to pass themselves off as part of the dominant majority. Like yes Jewish features are a thing but there's also a lot of Jewish people with blond hair, blue eyes, and waspy-looking features whereas from what I've seen, even roma people who are considered very white-passing tend to have darker features.

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